Recently I asked that Meghan’s “Present Levels of Performance” on her IEP be updated. She no longer receives many services, but I find great value in keeping this section current.
There is a great deal of misunderstanding involving Individualized Education Plans (or IEPs) and many people feel only children who struggle academically have an IEP. This is just not true.
My daughter has had one in place since Kindergarten. She has consistently maintained high honors, and as a matter of fact was Salutatorian of her 8th grade class, and is in an intensely challenging International Baccalaureate program at her high school.
IEPs by definition, are to “Individualize” the Education Program as needed. Meghan’s needs are not academic, as much as they are residual connected to the Cowden’s Syndrome, the PTSD, and the medical trauma. The resulting anxiety affects every area of life, and is far deeper than “teenage angst.” We work extensively outside of school to address this in many ways, but sometimes we need the school to be on the same page.
Much like you give a medical history to a doctor when you see them for the first time, and you update as situations change, the IEP is to be fluid and updated as changes occur so all personnel will be aware of Meghan’s needs.
I make a habit on the first day of school of copying a few key pages of the document and giving it to her teachers. Even though they have access, and technically it is their responsibility, I am also a teacher. I get the pressures placed on us. So, I make their lives easier by giving them what they need and an invitation to reach out to me with any questions. Her teachers are historically receptive and appreciative.
This year I was reviewing that section on the document realizing how much was no longer accurate, and how it should be more detailed.
I sat with Meghan to write the summary below:
Meghan is a 15-year-old sophomore in the IB program at School. Academically she is consistently above average in her classes, attaining high honors every marking period for the 2017-2018 school year.
She is a student athlete as well, participating on the School varsity swim team, as well as Trident Aquatics, a 12 month competitive swim program on the Island.
Meghan has several medical diagnoses. The most far-reaching is “Cowden’s Syndrome” a mutation on the PTEN (tumor suppressor) Gene, causing benign and malignant tumors as well as vascular malformations. Recently PTEN mutations have been correlated with low levels of (infection fighting) immunoglobulins, which Meghan also suffers with.
Because of the low immunoglobulin levels Meghan has frequent infections that often require antibiotics for resolution. She suffers with gastrointestinal distress with each course, and needs to avoid gluten and soy. She also has an allergy to dairy.
Meghan’s medical challenges are far-reaching. She has had 18 surgeries, 8 of which have been on her right knee. There was an arteriovenous malformation (AVM) in that knee. While it has been controlled, the long-term effects will last forever. Meghan has leg and foot discrepancies on her right side. The blood was restricted from flowing to her right foot for so long, that it stopped growing 6 years ago. The left foot is a full size larger than the right foot. That right-sided weakness has been repeatedly treated in physical therapy, but still presents as a struggle with stairs, and long walks. While she endures these activities, they can cause pain and excessive fatigue, and extra time may be necessary between classes located far apart.
Meghan had her thyroid removed in 2014 and the resulting need for synthetic medication has yet to be regulated. Her current endocrinologist follows her 4 times a year, adjusting, tailoring, and trying to balance her levels.
Meghan had 2 D&C procedures during 7th grade. Those procedures yielded precancerous tissue in her uterus and prompted the need for birth control pills to try to stop the cellular growth. Those pills have also been difficult to regulate and balance.
Meghan has been hospitalized countless times in addition to her surgeries. She has also undergone over 30 MRIs and close to 10CT scans, each requiring IV. She spends countless hours being poked and prodded at doctors, monitoring her cancer risks. She is acutely aware of her mortality at an age when most teens are barely aware of their social interests.
In the spring of 2017 Meghan was diagnosed with Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, secondary to extensive medical trauma. She was also diagnosed with major depressive disorder.
In the fall of 2017 Meghan began to develop panic attacks. Subsequently, she has also been treated for panic and generalized anxiety disorder.
She sees a social worker weekly and has guidance on her IEP in school. She sees a psychiatrist monthly who manages the medication, which currently consists of and antidepressant and another script for panic attacks.
The panic attacks were well controlled for a time, but flare up in acute anxiety. This summer saw several severe episodes. We are working together to help her through all of this.
Meghan is waiting for a service dog, which should arrive in the next 4-6 months, to address the PTSD. In the mean time, we are teaching strategies to deal with necessary stress, and tools to eliminate unnecessary stress.
I presented this document to the team to update the IEP. I was a little startled when I was met first with a challenge on the diagnoses. No problem I told them. I would send the doctor’s notes.
I love her school, I do. But, I was in fact also told “She doesn’t LOOK sick” and “She doesn’t LOOK stressed.” While I had to breathe a few times before responding, I came up with “You’re welcome…”
We’ve worked quite hard on all of that. My girl has goals. Life goals.
Last week Meghan was approached to remove the section regarding the D&Cs from the document above. She declined. She was pushed, and told the information was “far too personal.”
Forever practical, Meghan reminded them the document was about her, and should include factual information.
Again pressed, she reminded the staff she helped write the document they were holding. She wanted and NEEDED her teachers to understand the validity behind her anxiety and PTSD symptoms.
The final time they told her the information was too personal she reminded them that she had done nothing wrong, and had nothing to be embarrassed about. Meghan is a factual child. She likes actual truth being reported. She knows better than to be embarrassed about truth. She knows ugly truth is a real part of life with Cowden’s Syndrome. She also knows that secrets give power to things that don’t deserve it.
These things happened to her.
She did not ask for them.
She did not cause them.
She will not hide them.
She will not apologize for them.
She will not let them define her.
But the things that happen to us do change us. HOW they change us is the only thing we can work to control.
I will continue to work the Mom end to get this updated.
I am beyond proud of her growing confidence, and her desire to educate.
I am proud of her desire to be a scholar and an athlete in spite of all the adversity.
I am proud of her respect for the clock as she grows as a swimmer, and her desire to be the same as everyone else, by beating the same clock.
My girl is, and shall remain
And that is why we continue to work on the journey towards treatments and a cure.
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I’m in awe of you and your family..xo
Beautiful. love love the photo diving in. My girl was a National swimmer. Such a beautiful sport. Way to be resilient.