Three Year Old Memories

Published on March 4, 2015 by beatingcowdens1 Comment

It was about 4 in the morning on March 5, 2012. I was laying on the bathroom floor, vomiting the contents of my “nothing to eat or drink after midnight” stomach. I was dizzy, lightheaded and weak. The task looming ahead that morning was unlike any I had ever been through.

As I lay there, trying to gather every ounce of strength in my body, I thought about the whirlwind that had been the last 6 months. Just barely 6 months prior my daughter, and then I, had been diagnosed with Cowden’s Syndrome. I had read and researched and didn’t like much of what I saw. I digested elevated cancer risks in just about every body part – some of them astronomical – as I tried to triage the onslaaught of new specialists taking over our lives.

Cowden’s Syndrome was an explanation. It wasn’t something we had just “caught.” She was born with it, and its likely that I, a “spontaneous mutant” was born with that “frameshift mutation” on my PTEN gene as well. But now that it had a name, and a definition, now that there was knowledge, there was also responsibility.

We had Meghan to the endocrinologist almost immediately and 4 nodules were discovered on her thyroid. Emotionally scarring biopsy followed. We met an oncologist for intake as well. And I, I was set to deal with all those “peak at 40” risks that were now presenting like a time bomb in my own body.

I sat up when Felix came into the bathroom. I don’t remember much of our conversation. Somehow I got myself up and dressed and into the car.

We drove to NYU in a good deal of silence. I am sure I cried a lot. I shook quite a bit too. But it was time. The decision had been made.

Soon after diagnosis I was sent to a breast surgeon to address the 85%+ risk of breast cancer in Cowden’s Syndrome patients. I forwarded her my medical records before the appointment. At the age of 38 I had racked up 7 breast biopsies and had a mother who was a bilateral breast cancer survivor 15 years earlier. We barely had said our “hellos” when she told me, “It’s time to schedule a bilateral mastectomy.” I wasn’t stunned I admit, because I knew it was a possibility, but the matter-of-fact certainty with which she spoke was a bit unnerving.

“You will get cancer,” she told me. “It’s not a matter of IF, but WHEN.”

I asked if it could wait till July. She said absolutely not. March 5th was as late as I could push her.

She ordered an MRI in February “just to be sure” everything was ok. The MRI was clean.

Just a normal “prophylactic bilateral mastectomy.” If there is such a thing as “normal…”

I met with the plastic surgeon, arranged for the implants. I blatantly refused tissue expanders, much to her chagrin.

My mom, during the time of her surgery had once called her breasts “superfluous tissue.” I tried to keep that in mind when I was making mind- numbing decisions.

We got checked in at the hospital before 7 AM. There was a whirlwind of doctors and nurses traveling through. Some had me signing consent, others were checking various things. I wanted to run, and scream. I felt like I was stuck in a bad horror film. But, I sat. And I signed papers. And I waited.

And then it was time.

It was a long walk to the operating room after I kissed my husband. I couldn’t much control the tears. I was terrified. The last thing I remember preoperatively was my surgeon looking me right in the eye and telling me, “You’re doing the right thing. You’re doing the brave thing. There is NO other choice for you.”

I woke up hours later in recovery, and after first verifying that the anti-nausea meds had worked, and I had no urge to vomit, I checked out the bandages covering my chest and I felt… sweet relief!

Even now, as I think back three years later, I am certain that was my first, and most genuine emotion. I felt relieved. I felt empowered. I felt victorious. This was one battle Cowden’s was not going to win. We played on my rules and my time… ok, well the doctor’s time… but still! I knew of too many lives lost to breast cancer, and I would not be one of them. One less worry. More time to be the Mom and help my girl through this genetic mess.

I left the hospital about 28 hours after I got there. The drains were the worst of it all. There was pain, no doubt, but it was all tempered by the peace in my soul. Mom stayed by my side for days, and we had some of our best conversations as I sat in the glider I had used to rock my baby Meghan to sleep 8 years prior.

Pathology was almost an afterthought for me.

That was why I was taken by such surprise when, 8 days later, the surgeon removing the drains said, “you made the right call.”

At first I was confused. I thought maybe she was just advocating my decision. Then she showed me the multiple page pathology that cited 1cm of DCIS (Ductal Carcinoma in Situ) a “self-contained” malignancy. There were all sorts of other markers too. Cellular changes to indicate things were starting to go very wrong. Because the DCIS was so far from the chest wall, I would need no treatment at all. An hour before I didn’t even imagine I had HAD cancer. Now, I was being declared cancer free.

“If you had waited for July to get this done, you would have likely been in a fight for your life.” I will probably never forget that sentence.

I stepped onto the street in NYC with my husband and my daughter. We all took a moment to digest what had gone on. We hugged. Then I grabbed hold of Meghan.

“You my dear, saved your mother’s life.”

Confused, “How do you figure?”

“If it wasn’t for you Meghan and your diagnosis, no one ever would have pushed me into this surgery. I would have found the cancer much later. Possibly too late. I am going to be Ok BECAUSE of you…”

As we let the gravity of that sink in, it was the ultimate lesson in perspective.

The steps that put us in line to have her, and ultimately me, diagnosed were life altering in so many ways.

Every piece of our past is a bit of the puzzle we are forming with our lives. Some of the pieces are confusing, and don’t seem to fit. But, sometimes we just have to wait patiently and watch.

Three year old memories.

Gratitude.

Day One

Matthew West

from the album Day One (Single)

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Well, I wish I had a short term memory
Wish the only thing my eyes could see
Was the future burning bright right in front of me
But I can’t stop looking back

Yeah, I wish I was a perfect picture of
Somebody who’s never not good enough
I try to measure up but I mess it up
And I wish I wasn’t like that

I wish I wasn’t wishing anymore
Wish I could remember that nobody’s keeping score
I’m tired of throwing pennies in a well
I gotta do something
Here goes nothin’

It’s day one of the rest of my life
It’s day one of the best of my life
I’m marching on to the beat of a brand new drum
Yeah, here I come
The future has begun
Day one

Well, every single day Your grace reminds me
That my best days are not behind me
Wherever my yesterday may find me
Well, I don’t have to stay there

See my hourglass is upside down
My someday soon is here and now
The clock is tickin’
And I’m so sick and tired of missing out

It’s day one
And here comes the sun

Every morning, every morning
Every morning, mercy’s new
Every morning, every morning
Every morning, I will fix my eyes on You
Every morning, every morning
Every morning, mercy’s new
Every morning, every morning
Sun’s coming up, the beginning has begun

Starting over, I’m starting over
Starting over, I’m starting over, starting now
I’m starting over
Starting over, I’m starting over
Starting over
Starting over, starting now
I’m starting over

Disconnected

Published on December 19, 2013December 19, 2013 by beatingcowdens1 Comment

Breathe in… Breathe out… Breathe in…

I looked up at my Christmas Tree this week and was struck with the incredible sense that I would love to take it down. Now.

I know that’s wrong for any number of reasons, but I have always been candid here.

In the 10 days since we have buried my father there has been a whirlwind of papers and errands. There have been things to organize and sort. There have also been “regular” things to do, as I pretend to feel like I am part of the world going on around me.

And as I sat in the chair last night trying to absorb the beauty of the brightly lit tree and the litany of memories spread out across it as the ornaments we have collected through the years, I couldn’t shake how disconnected I feel.

This year the reasons are kind of obvious. I am starting to think its likely to get worse before it gets anywhere close to better.

Then my husband reminded me about last year. He reminded me about Hurricane Sandy, and the fall Grandma took, and the days in ICU. He reminded me about the car accident last November, and the months spent sorting out the paper, aggravation, and pain in my back.

It was right after Christmas last year that we had the “Santa” talk with my girl. My one and only.

So, I guess I knew all along this would be a year I had to look a bit harder for the magic. We looked hard in Disney in August. And we found it.

But, by the time we put the tree up this year my father lay dying in the hospital with less than a week to live. That day our family turkey and Felix’s special gluten free stuffing warmed the house with a soothing aroma. I heard the Christmas tunes. I helped with the ornaments. And I felt like I was in a bad movie.

Meghan had suffered with migraine headaches most of October and November as my father was sick. An MRI on November 20th confirmed the migraine headache diagnosis and the medication – once doubled – finally brought her some relief.

I couldn’t get the cards together this year. I just couldn’t do it. Maybe some time around Valentine’s Day I will feel up to a greeting. I ordered the food for Christmas dinner too. Yep, its better for everyone anyway, as I am a rotten cook. And the family is bringing dessert. I bought gifts for the children. Although even those were mostly purchased online. And so many of the adults are getting gift cards to their favorite stores.

Last weekend Dad’s mom was in the hospital. Today she is back at her home, but she is worn out.

And as I size up the dust that has gathered in every corner of my home I strive to remind myself that Baby Jesus was born in a stable, and slept in a manger. Somehow, as long as we open our hearts to celebrate the real meaning of Christmas, the miracle of the birth of the Baby Jesus, it will all be ok. Somehow.

So tonight as I took Meghan to her 6 month thyroid check up; the appointment where they monitor those pesky precancerous nodules, I was reminded yet again that it is just not ours to control. After the doctor examined her, and her neck, he asked for a tape measure. He measured “significant” growth since June in one of the right side nodules. “No point in wasting time with a sonogram, I need a tissue sample so we will schedule a biopsy.”

My heart skipped a beat.

“Where did you get that necklace Meghan?” asked the nurse.

“My Grandpa Tom gave it to me. He died this month from pancreatic cancer.”

Sometimes silence really is deafening.

“It may take a few days to get it scheduled Mrs. Ortega. You know, with the holidays…”

Yep. I know.

Tick Tock

Published on July 26, 2013July 26, 2013 by beatingcowdens4 Comments

I actually watched it happen. We were walking up the hill to swim practice last night. Then she was limping.

She handed me her bag – struggling to balance. Before I could ask what had happened…

“My hip, my groin, the whole thing!” Gesturing near her hip bone and down her outer thigh.

I looked for a bench but there was none. She wasn’t interested anyway.

“We can’t sit – I will be late for practice!” Exasperated that I would even think she should stop walking while writhing in pain.

“Um, Meg – I was thinking you shouldn’t go to practice.”

“No way! We are here. I am going, and besides- the only time I feel close to normal, like everyone else – is in the water.”

We took away soccer.

We took away dance.

We can’t take away swimming.

So I made sure she asked her coach to help her stretch the hip. She stopped only once during the hour and fifteen minutes. I am sure I could not have kept up.

As I walked, and she limped back to the car she said it was, “not so bad.” And, she was “glad” she practiced.

Dedication. Admirable. Torture.

After the shower it all fell apart quickly. She froze almost completely. We rubbed it, and elevated it. Within an hour she needed help walking.

She got settled into our bed and tried to rub her hip.

The yelp indicated the pain on her hand and wrist has not subsided either.

As we got her comfortable I thought forward, about the week to come.

I emailed her genetecist and her oncologist this week. I attached photos of her hand. I attached the copies of the MRI report. They responded inside of a few hours.

Biopsy those lesions. On this they agreed. Cowden’s Syndrome -PTEN Hamartoma Tumor Syndrome. Soft tissue tumors are common. The oncologist reminded me only one lesion was visible during her exam just 2 weeks ago.

I know. I watched the other one pop out as she cried out in pain during a shopping trip to Kohl’s. It wasn’t there. Then it was. Now it is. And it hurts too.

Tuesday we will see an orthopedist. Thursday we will see a hand surgeon. Two more doctors we didn’t plan for. Two more afternoons lost waiting. Two more opinions to contend with.

And the prevailing uncertainty that anyone will ever fix the problem.

She is walking a bit better tonight. That is encouraging. A nice afternoon with a friend. Conversation for me was easy and comfortable. Grown up talk – something I have craved, while the children swam in the pool. Almost normal for a few hours there. Almost.

The car is going to stay in the “car doctor” over the weekend. Apparently its condition has been downgraded.

Paperwork to begin a complaint with Better Business Bureau should arrive early next week.

Maybe I should give the CAR an ISAGENIX shake or meal bar. It might be more productive than what is being done to it.

Monday we should know more.

Monday we should also hear from the rheumatologist about her thoughts on the MRI.

Sandwiched in between concerns about family and friends alike. In some ways our lives are miles different. In more ways – they are exactly alike.

Patience. Worry. Anxiety.

Tick Tock, Tick Tock… that would be the sound of summer passing us by….

Don’t talk about my boobs unless you’ve walked in my shoes

Published on January 27, 2013January 27, 2013 by beatingcowdens19 Comments

“Breast cancer becomes very emotional for people, and they view a breast differently than an arm or a required body part that you use every day,” said Sarah T. Hawley, an associate professor of internal medicine at the University of Michigan. “Women feel like it’s a body part over which they totally have a choice, and they say, ‘I want to put this behind me — I don’t want to worry about it anymore.’ ”

http://well.blogs.nytimes.com/2013/01/21/facing-cancer-a-stark-choice/

The quote above is the last paragraph from a New York Times article published January 21st. I first read about it here in this blog

Preventative mastectomies under fire

And I must agree with “The Pink Underbelly” as my blood is boiling a bit.

I underwent a prophylactic bilateral mastectomy on March 5, 2012. I had been diagnosed with Cowden’s Syndrome, alongside my 8 year old daughter, just months before. I was presented, in January of 2012 with an article putting my lifetime breast cancer risk somewhere around 85%. Cowden’s Syndrome, as you all know – but I doubt the author of this article knew, is a rare genetic disorder with a 1 in 200,000 occurrence. It is a mutation on the PTEN (Tumor Suppressor) gene and causes benign and malignant tumors all over the body – with the hot spots being the breasts, uterus, and thyroid.

I made an informed decision to undergo that mastectomy. It was not a decision reached lightly. My mom is a BILATERAL breast cancer survivor, and even though she does not carry my genetic mutation, I will always believe that her decision for a complete mastectomy is the reason she is with us today – the reason she ever got to meet her grandchildren.

That doesn’t even get me started on the fact that my “prophylactic” mastectomy revealed DCIS – stage 1, a centimeter of cancer in the left breast. Yes, it was contained. No, it hadn’t spread. Yes, I was fortunate, and NO, it WAS NOT the breast that had seen 7 biopsies in the 12 years prior. This one had never been touched. And, the MRI weeks earlier did not pick up the DCIS. So, my informed decision. My smart surgeon. My gifted plastic surgeon. My husband’s support. The support of my boss. The sick days donated from a friend. My raw nerve. My desire to be there for my little girl for years and years to come. The Grace of God. All these things saved my life.

So, I get a little twisted when people infer, and imply that these are decisions made lightly. That women are just randomly having their breasts cut off. This was not a trip to Hawaii. This was not a walk in the park. This was major league, life altering, body changing surgery. There is not a woman I know, who makes this decision without intense scrutiny and research. And, thanks to this blog, and my online support group. I have “met” many of them.

This article says

“We are confronting almost an epidemic of prophylactic mastectomy,” said Dr. Isabelle Bedrosian, a surgical oncologist at M. D. Anderson Cancer Center in Houston. “I think the medical community has taken notice. We don’t have data that say oncologically this is a necessity, so why are women making this choice?”

EPIDEMIC- affecting or tending to affect a disproportionately large number of individuals within a population, community, or region at the same time <typhoid was epidemic>

Really?

and WHY?

Why not ask us?

Why not ask those of us that have lost mothers and grandmothers and sisters to genetic mutations?

Why not ask those of us who have had countless mamorgrams, MRIs and biopsies, with “suspicious” pathology?

Why not ask us, who have done the research, or read the research on diseases you haven’t even heard of?

Why not ask those of us who, facing our imminent cancer risks, have made a choice to LIVE?

So the article says:

“You’re not going to find other organs that people cut out of their bodies because they’re worried about disease,” said the medical historian Dr. Barron H. Lerner, author of “The Breast Cancer Wars” (2001). “Because breast cancer is a disease that is so emotionally charged and gets so much attention, I think at times women feel almost obligated to be as proactive as possible — that’s the culture of breast cancer.”

Damned right Barron. Proactive. We have kids to raise. Spouses to celebrate life with. Memories to make. Tears to dry. Hands to hold. Lives to live.

Emotionally charged? You bet.

Come by.

We’ll have some coffee.

Then I will tell you about my prophylactic hysterectomy. Reccomended by a top surgeon at NYU. Ten weeks after my mastectomy. Not an easy choice. Certainly not one made on emotion.

Logic. Try logic. And gratitude that the tools exist, and the surgeons exist that are willing to save our lives.

Don’t talk about my boobs until you have walked in my shoes!

“The Six Month Leash”

Published on January 13, 2013 by beatingcowdens6 Comments

The new normal… that is normal AFTER the Cowden’s Syndrome diagnosis, revolves around living life 6 months at a time.

On Wednesday I got word that I can keep my spleen for at least 6 more months.

On Friday, we got the anxiously awaited news that Meghan‘s thyroid biopsy was benign. We return for another scan in 6 months.

There is 6 months in between visits to the vascular surgeon. 6 months in between the endocrine surgeon, the dermatologist, the rheumatologist, and the general surgeon too. There are more, so many more, but you get the idea.

See you in 6 months. So we can do it all again.

I am trying to slow down. Instead of waiting for the next appointment, I am trying to enjoy today. I am trying to silence the giant stopwatch in the back of my head, ticking time away until the next appointment.

Truth is if I don’t pull the battery out of that thing, I may lose my mind!

It’s not all neat and clean, this whole Cowden’s mess. Although when I stop to think about it, it is readily apparent that life is far from neat and clean.

Reality is that life is complicated.

Life carries with it no guarantees.

Life is what you make of it.

The struggle for everyone is different. Mine is a struggle with my mind.

Beating Cowden’s is not like training for a sprint. Nope. We are training for a hilly marathon in the snow. We have to build the endurance – and find a way to enjoy the training. Even the really painful ones.

See, if it was just me suffering – it would be easier. But it’s not. And truth be told, having my kid ask me every night last week if I found out yet “Do I have cancer, Mom?” Well, that was downright exhausting, I am NOT looking forward to doing it again, in 6 months, or ever. But, reality tells me there will be more biopsies on the horizon.

So we spent the weekend visiting with some family, dusting off a few things that hadn’t been tended to, finally opening some Emails, and important documents about the new car (a few weeks late) and just trying to readjust… to down shift from acute worry into chronic worry.

Well, that isn’t actually the goal. The goal is for me to shelf the worry altogether… but baby steps please.

Ironic that I am currently the thinnest I have ever been, and in the worst shape of my life – simultaneously. I fell on Saturday. Over the dog. She was on the sheets on the basement floor that were waiting to be washed. I ended up on the floor, my knee and wrist banged up, and my back in spasms reminiscent of the car accident.

My calendar tells me we have about 5 weeks until the next major doctor cycle. Good thing. I need a chiropractor to help me move. and I need a few days without other appointments in order to get there.

The 6 month thing… well that’s not just twice a year. That would be neat and clean. No, the 6 month thing seems to just be ongoing. We try to make the breaks as long as possible. You know, so in between we can deal with the new adventures life tosses our way.

I am going to focus, and keep trying to get this one day at a time thing down. I am going to stop and look around more. I am going to try to enjoy the ride. It won’t be easy. But I am on it. I promise.

I need a new pair of sneakers for this marathon training.

Who knows, I might just get back in shape yet!

No place like home

Published on January 8, 2013January 8, 2013 by beatingcowdensLeave a comment

We are home.

The procedure is finished.

A scheduled 1 PM start turned into 2:45 on an empty belly.

But, it went fine.

The doctor got what she needed.

Now its up to the pathologist.

So, we wait.

We pray. (THANK YOU ALL…. WE FELT THE LOVE ALL DAY!)

I have a glass of wine (or two.)

We should have an answer no later than Friday.

Early to bed tonight.

Tomorrow I get to meet a surgeon about my spleen.

Cowden’s Syndrome is EXHAUSTING!

Prayer Circle

Published on January 7, 2013January 7, 2013 by beatingcowdens14 Comments

There are a lot of people who pray for Meghan. And we are grateful for every single one of them. But, there are a special group of ladies…

Well, between them they have 9 children – 3 each. They all have incredibly busy lives, and all of our lives connected some years ago. We don’t see each other all that often, and rarely in the same place, but they are my prayer group of sorts. Our children are connected, in a bunch of different ways. Our lives are intertwined, and we have vowed to support each other.

We all seem to share the belief that –

And, with that belief comes responsibility.

So, they were among the first people I shared my blog with in its infancy last year. They are the ones I turn to and say… lift this up… PLEASE, and without fail it is done. And they do the same for me. We all pray fervently for each other. For friends, and family. For people we know well, and for people we haven’t met, and for people we may never meet.

We pray because we believe it works.

We pray because we have seen it work.

Last spring when my sister’s dear niece was knocking on death’s door – felled by a virus of unimaginable strength, we (along with countless others) prayed. And we witnessed nothing short of a miracle.

The day of my mastectomy, wracked with fear – terror actually – my cell phone rang as I was checking into the hospital. My brother-in-law, a Lutheran minister was on the phone at 6AM, ready to pray with me. As the tears rushed down my face I felt the calm envelop me.

Prayer is powerful.

But, it doesn’t always take worry away.

So tonight, as I struggle to sleep, I will think of them with gratitude. I will also think of the countless others – those we know and those we don’t, who are lifting my little girl up in prayer.

Tomorrow we go for the biopsy. Then we wait. I am not sure which part we will need your prayers for most. But, please – whatever you believe, remember us this week…

No such thing as coincidence

Published on January 6, 2013January 6, 2013 by beatingcowdens2 Comments

I woke up this morning earlier than normal, and that is not like me. Worry had taken its toll on me through the night. I was up and showered with plenty of time to get Meghan to Sunday School.

She woke up sore and stiff – some combination of a difficult swim class, and her body’s realization that it had been two days without Celebrex. That is her “wonder drug,” the one that keeps her moving pain free. She needs to be off of it until it is determined if she will need thyroid surgery. The pain will progress.

Still, determined, she struggled through getting dressed and found her smile before heading out the door. She looks forward to church – the lessons, the children, the teachers. She adores them all.

As I headed home to wait out her class I heard a song on the radio that I have heard many times before, but today Matthew West‘s “Strong Enough” spoke to my heart.

If you don’t know the song, its worth listening to, but some of the words that spoke to me; “I know I’m not strong enough to be everything that I am supposed to be. I give up. I’m not strong enough… Hands of mercy won’t you cover me, Lord right now I’m askign you to be Strong Enough for the both of us…”

Tears streaming down my face I headed home. I am always thankful and amazed when the song I “need” hits at exactly the right time.

As Felix and I headed back for the 11 AM service I reflected on the week in front of us. The biopsy looms large. The results even larger. Sandwiched in between is an appointment for my spleen. Busy week for the Ortegas and their ever troubled organs.

I had Emailed the pastors to let them know of Meghan’s biopsy. They have done such a wonderful job helping us feel at home, even as we are technically “guests,” that they have made it known to us they appreciate being kept “in the loop.”

This morning during Church I was introduced to a Moravian Custom. Appranetly early in the year everyone chooses a scripture verse from a large basket. They called it, jokingly,” Fortune Cookies, Moravian style.”

We were told that this passage would be our “watchword” for the year, and that we would would see God’s work in our lives through the scripture.

I said a quick prayer to God to send us something good.

As usual, He did not disappoint.

For Meghan – Hebrews 11:1 – “Now faith is the assurance of things hoped for, the conviction of things not seen.” For my Meghan, a verse to define the abstract “faith” that yielded lots of good discussion today.

For Felix, a verse from Job 37:5 “God thunders wondrously with His voice. He does great things we can not comprehend.” A reminder to the strength of our family, from Job who suffered so.

For me, Psalm 116:2 – “What shall I return to the Lord for all His bounty to me?” The reminder to continue to “Pay it Forward,” and to remember even on the tough days, I am so blessed.

The prayers of the church lifted up my little girl, and she sighed. So pleased to know the larger community sees her needs. She has such a long prayer list of her own, that to be remembered and prayed for clearly touched her soul.

I left church to a hug from the pastor, who is also a mom. As I looked into her eyes no words were needed, and meaning was clearly conveyed.

Despite our rough times… God is good to us.

I heard the Matthew West song again today. I didn’t cry this time. I just took a deep breath. “I don’t have to be Strong Enough….”

There are no coincidences. Only the hand of God through the power of the Holy Spirit, ready with exactly what we need, when we need it. Truly amazing.

God’s got us covered.

By this time Tuesday we will be awaiting results.

Superheroes…

Published on January 4, 2013August 25, 2015 by beatingcowdens4 Comments

I saw superheroes today. Not the kind that normally come to mind.

The 9th floor of Memorial Sloan Kettering Cancer Center was absolutely crawling with them.

None of them had capes. And they weren’t any funny colors.

None of them could fly, and yet I am sure that’s what they were.

I saw young bald superheroes with smiles that could light any room.

I saw older, more mature superheroes, heroically managing their IV poles, after teaching a younger one not to cry.

I saw parent superheroes, who although their capes were invisible to the naked eye, possessed nerves of steel, and the ability to make their young one laugh even as they themselves were inches from despair.

I had a lot of time to watch them. We had a long wait this morning. And even as I kept Meghan distracted, my eyes never left them.

They navigated the floor like it was home, handled IV poles and ports and masks, like they were additional appendages.

These people- the young ones and their parents, are made from a stock stronger than most of us. They endure the unimaginable, day after day. Some endure it for years on end. And they press on – because that is what you do.

My beautiful cousin Meghan was one of those superheroes,

Sometimes it ends well, and some times it doesn’t. But while you are there there is no time to think, or to wonder. You must just press on.

That is the story that the 9th floor of MSKCC told me this morning, as we waited for preadmission testing.

Meghan had a 9 AM appointment and between blood work, and our meeting with the nurse, we had at least an hour to wait, and watch, and marvel, and wonder, and worry.

The biopsy is Tuesday. The results will be in by Thursday so they say.

Then, we can make a plan. They tell me they can get the thyroid removed in a few days if the biopsy is positive.

If it’s not cancer… get us home. And, if it is – GET IT OUT OF MY LITTLE GIRL!

She will have nothing to eat or drink after midnight Monday. She will be tired, and cranky, and hungry when we arrive on Tuesday. But she will get anesthesia like she asked, and the procedure will be much more humane.

Then, we will wait.

Waiting…

Published on December 29, 2012December 29, 2012 by beatingcowdens2 Comments

Proverbs 3:5-6
Trust in the LORD with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight

As my husband and I lay last night trying to fall asleep. We lamented over the fact that we are waiting. Waiting for a call for a biopsy time for Meghan. Waiting for a final decision on my spleen – still. Waiting… for all sorts of other less significant things.

The waiting is one of the worst parts of Cowden’s Syndrome. It is a blessing to have the warning to seek early detection, but the 6 month cycles of scans and tests, coupled with the waiting for results…. sometimes it’s just torture.

Meghan is nervous. Not about the threat of thyroid cancer. Bright as she is I doubt she grasps the full reality of that. She is waiting and worried about the biopsy. She already struggled to sleep last night.

As we spoke my husband said something that struck me. He said, “I am a little tired of being carried. I am glad God is there, but I want to walk a little too.” It only took me a moment to know he was referring to his favorite poem – the one we used as one of the readings in our wedding.

I guess we are waiting, for our feet to spend some time on the sand, knowing we are being held up – and incredibly grateful for the support…