And the body says… SLOW DOWN!

Published on February 23, 2014 by beatingcowdens5 Comments

So it’s almost 2 AM on Sunday. And I have to say, I didn’t see this one coming.

This is the part where I remind people over and over that just because you CAN live without a body part, doesn’t mean your body doesn’t miss it when its gone. I mean we were made in one piece…

So the recovery was going pretty well, but that’s mostly due to her feisty determination.

But there is a point where you look back over the last 9 days and consider a few major things. That point came at about 4, and 5 , and 6 this afternoon as she was violently and quickly vomiting herself into dehydration.

If you consider that there was the stress and worry of HOW we were going to get to the surgery, then the brief pleasant stay at Ronald McDonald House, followed by a 4 hour surgical delay, coupled with a less than smooth hospital stay that had its share of communication issues… you start to get a sense of the stress that has been this February “vacation.”

Sorry we didn't send a post card, but it was a blast ... — Sorry we didn’t send a post card, but it was a blast …

Really it extends way farther back than that… but rather than bore you again with all the back story I’ll stay current.

So on the 13th the thyroid came out. It was a three hour procedure with lots of general anesthesia junk for my pretty organic girl. Then there was the whole removing an actual PART of her body. And then there was the introduction of the synthetic replacement hormone. And there was lots of fidgeting with calcium levels. And there were narcotic pain meds for a few days too to keep the edge off.

And at some point around 4 today her body had had enough.

I love when Meghan vomits and people say, “Is she sick?” And I say “nope.” Rarely, (knock on wood – NOW please) does Meghan get a “stomach virus,” but she’s not a stranger to vomiting. She vomits when her body has had enough.

And today, her stomach hurt. Her knees hurt. Her hips hurt. Today I couldn’t keep the pedialyte in cause it all happened so fast. And, since there’s a first time for everything – we actually had to go to the ER for fluids. Except she’s Meghan. And she’s only a bit over a week post op. And they just wanted to be careful… so she’s asleep in the bed. I am typing away as I won’t even attempt to sleep until after the 3 AM meds.

And after the ER was over and we came up to the floor for a bed – in a place we have spent some time before- we passed by the NICU where she started her life in 2003. While I was reflecting I looked at our nurse and thought she looked a little familiar. Once she told me her name I was incredibly grateful I had been kind to her son when he was in my 5th grade class some (AHEM 13 – or more) years ago. You never know when you’ll need Karma on your side…

And now this poor, lovely nurse was left to contend with my daughter, reading package inserts and discussing medications before they were given. Meghan talks a lot. But I didn’t feel guilty about that part (GRIN.)

So the fluids kicked in and she began to perk up. She had time to share with the doctors and the nurse her denim ribbons, her Cowden’s card, AND her movie for RARE Disease Day. They want us to bring them some ribbons for the floor.

Me, I got my nutrients in my – thank goodness I always stuff a meal bar and an EShot into my bag… ALWAYS. That knocked that pounding headache right out.

She bounces back. Quickly. But sometimes a little too well. I have to watch her. Determination can’t do it all. The body has to help too. And as strong and tough as she is, we all need to be reminded that, well she has this RARE Genetic Disorder called PTEN Hamartoma Tumor Syndrome… or Cowden’s Syndrome… and well, even though we may not always want to admit it – that darned syndrome can make life a little extra tricky.

Thyroid PREvivor!

Published on February 21, 2014 by beatingcowdens8 Comments

The phone rang at about 7 PM. It’s Friday night. I did not expect the call to be from the nurse practitioner at the endocrinology office that manages Meghan’s care.

Wednesday we went in for a surgical follow up appointment. The incision is healing nicely. She is still sore but cleared to return to school Monday… and swimming too. While were there, they asked for some lab tests to be rerun.

Calcium levels which were botched Friday before discharge needed to be looked at again. And the parathyroid hormone to make sure it was still functional.

Before we left the facility, we received word that the calcium levels were actually high. No need for me to even start ranting again.

We were advised to keep her on the current supplementation level for 4 weeks, then wean her off and revisit the surgeon in 8 weeks. We would also see the endocrinologist at that time. Although, endocrinology would be ordering lots of labs in the mean time. All of this I understand.

Except, when the nurse told me she was calling, at 7 on Friday night (when the results from Weds. labs were in the system on Weds) to tell me to keep Meghan on her baseline calcium (the Isagneix Calcium she has taken for almost a year) and lower the supplemental pills they gave from three to two.

Seems logical. EXCEPT when we were discharged in that debacle Friday night they altered the script from 3 to 2 already. So so we go down to one?

The nurse stuttered, confused. I still don’t think anyone understands what a mess they made out of her care on Friday. No, she said. We will rerun the calcium in a week. Anyone want to wager that it will be too high?

As she went to hang up I asked about the pathology I had been waiting on pins and needles for. Almost as an afterthought, she said she didn’t think it was in. Then, “Oh, it’s right here… want me to send it to you?”

Um, YES.

“Everything seems ok, do you have a fax?”

YES!

And that was the end of the conversation. Left to read the pathology report on my own I pored over it as best I could. Confused that it was date stamped 6PM on Weds…. and I found out it was in by accident. But, whatever…

So without the aid of a doctor, and with my somewhat well developed medical vocabulary, everything looks to be

BENIGN!!!!

There are things about it I don’t like, of course. Like that some of the “lumps” are referred to as nodules, while the three problematic ones are called “tumors.” The largest of these tumors measured 2.4 x 1.3 x 1.3 cm, and the others were not that small either. No wonder this kid was choking! There is “hyperplasia” all over the place too. But it seems like the bottom line is, we got in in time.

Cowden’s we BEAT YOU to it!

Of course there is no crystal ball. There is no way to say for sure that it WOULD HAVE become cancerous, although I think we all know the reality. There is no way to know if it could have stayed in a little longer, but I like to think eliminating the anxiety over the constant FNAs, which incidentally had caused quite a mess of scar tissue according to the surgeon (THANK YOU COWDENS!) will be the better choice in the end.

It is ~~easy~~ easier, to make decisions about prophylactic organ removal when it is your own body. You just do what you have to do and move on. But my husband and I had to make the conscious decision to remove something from our child’s body. Can she live without it? Absolutely. But just because you CAN live without something doesn’t always mean you should, and it doesn’t mean that removing it is without consequence or effect.

As a new mastectomy patient I read lots of stories of brave young women who had decided not to spend their lives waiting for cancer to get them. They had taken steps, usually to get ahead of BRCA1 or BRCA2. I immediately admired each of them. They somewhere along the line coined the term “PREVIVOR.”

https://www.facingourrisk.org/FORCE_community/previvors.php

Primarily used to deal with the risk of hereditary breast and ovarian cancer, I think the term has a broader reach. My girl does not need to be a thyroid cancer survivor. She is a PREVIVOR. She got there first.

For this I am thankful.

BEATINGCOWDENS!

This card was created out of her need to "teach" others about Cowden's Syndrome. — This card was created out of her need to “teach” others about Cowden’s Syndrome.

Recovery – the real deal (Phase 2)

Published on February 14, 2014February 14, 2014 by beatingcowdens7 Comments

It was almost 11 last night when we were cleared to leave recovery, and taken to a bed on the Peds floor. Dad had to leave to head back home before the next round of snow began. After all, he needed to have a car ready for our (hopeful) Valentine’s Day discharge.

So we settled into a tiny, awkwardly laid out room. trying not to disturb a roomate who likely would have preferred not to be awoken at 11 to share a room with someone she didn’t know.

By that point I might have been a little difficult. (I know that is SHOCKING!)

But as we settled into the room it became apparent that there was no place to walk safely. Some rearrangements were made, and the reality that she couldn’t possibly see the TV was softened by Amazon Prime (on demand) on the laptop.

She was hungry. At this point she was close to 24 hours with no food. I try not to let her go four hours. Her stomach needs constant gentle reminders it hasn’t been forgotten to keep it from getting angry. They said soft and clear. We tried apple juice. Then they offered an italian ice with soy protein. Not so much. Another juice I was told. And I should have trusted myself.

Soon after came the familiar green face from the child with a body full of toxic anesthesia crap, AND apple juice – which just isn’t on her list of beverages.

She is always my angel girl. Even post op – she got herself to the pail before her body forcefully removed its toxic contents.

I took the opportunity to change the gown and bed sheets, because – why not? And by midnight she was on my laptop watching “The Hunger Games.”

They said clear liquid. I said ginger ale and gluten free pretzels. I win because I don’t ask. And she started to perk up.

Pain medicine in place, she enjoyed the movie. Except the blood draw. Which fortunately was through the IV. Then again an hour later. (Good thing she wasn’t asleep) only to find out her blood sugar was crazy out of whack. The finger stick brought it into a much more normal range. Thank goodness!

By 2:30 there were actually 5 uninterrupted hours of sleep for my exhausted girl.

She awoke at 7:30 immediately remembering the pain of having your throat slit open, and a small lumpy organ removed. Today things were more stiff. All the local anesthesia gone. She was hurting. And its a hurt I remember. So it broke my heart worse. You never realize how many things you use your neck for, until…

Brave girl. Held it together. Had some more of her pretzels and ginger ale, and even some of her chicken breast I brought.

We wheeled and dealed and got her to agree to a nap after her second movie. And so she rests now.

Calcium levels keep us here. Wondering and working to determine parathyroid damage. The synthroid has begun.

The doctor will set us up with restrictions, rules, and orders. When he’s able.

For now our chart reads “Pending Discharge.”

We are ready, and I am behaving…. I promise.

Ten years ago we spent Valentine’s Day in the hospital. And here we are again. What a decade. It’s not glamorous by any means – but I am still with the loves of my life, and that makes me a lucky gal.

Recovery – the real deal (Phase 1)

Published on February 13, 2014February 13, 2014 by beatingcowdens5 Comments

So a huge part of writing this blog is about raising awareness of Cowden’s syndrome, and its realities. Some of the realities are really not so nice.

Cowden’s Syndrome involves surgery. Lots of it. Surgery really sucks. Sorry, but it does.

General anesthesia is awful. Toxic crap. Especially awful in a body that isn’t fond of toxic crap. Top that off with a breathing tube when your throat is being cut, and its definitely an uncomfortable wake up.

The surgeon said she did well. He said he got the whole thyroid and the vocal nerves are intact. He said she had many nodules. Numbers in the teens. A bunch were small. A bunch were not. He said there was lots of scar tissue from her three previous biopsies. Only three FNA – tiny microscopic needles, caused significant scar tissue.

Cowden’s Syndrome – “HYPERHEALING is our Superpower” What’s yours?

Surgery number 11 – done. Procedures…. I’ve lost count.

Pathology 5 to 7 days.

She is sitting up, looking at her ipad. A professional. A tough girl.

Her Daddy is on his way home. Home to get the car. Hoping. Praying that the calcium levels are good, and the thyroid levels are good, and tomorrow we can go home.

That brave face hides this... — That brave face hides this…

And sometimes needs this... — And sometimes needs this…

Two of my girl’s favorites…. “Let it Go….”

The snow glows white on the mountain tonight,
not a footprint to be seen.
A kingdom of isolation and it looks like I’m the queen.
The wind is howling like this swirling storm inside.
Couldn’t keep it in, Heaven knows I tried.
Don’t let them in, don’t let them see.
Be the good girl you always have to be.
Conceal, don’t feel, don’t let them know.
Well, now they know!

Let it go, let it go!
Can’t hold it back any more.
Let it go, let it go!
Turn away and slam the door.
I don’t care what they’re going to say.
Let the storm rage on.
The cold never bothered me anyway.

It’s funny how some distance,
makes everything seem small.
And the fears that once controlled me, can’t get to me at all
It’s time to see what I can do,
to test the limits and break through.
No right, no wrong, no rules for me.
I’m free!

Let it go, let it go.
I am one with the wind and sky.
Let it go, let it go.
You’ll never see me cry.
Here I’ll stand, and here I’ll stay.
Let the storm rage on.

My power flurries through the air into the ground.
My soul is spiraling in frozen fractals all around
And one thought crystallizes like an icy blast
I’m never going back; the past is in the past!

Let it go, let it go.
And I’ll rise like the break of dawn.
Let it go, let it go
That perfect girl is gone
Here I stand, in the light of day.

Let the storm rage on!
The cold never bothered me anyway…
And ROAR…

“Roar”

I used to bite my tongue and hold my breath
Scared to rock the boat and make a mess
So I sat quietly, agreed politely
I guess that I forgot I had a choice
I let you push me past the breaking point
I stood for nothing, so I fell for everythingYou held me down, but I got up (HEY!)
Already brushing off the dust
You hear my voice, you hear that sound
Like thunder gonna shake the ground
You held me down, but I got up (HEY!)
Get ready ’cause I’ve had enough
I see it all, I see it now

[Chorus]
I got the eye of the tiger, a fighter, dancing through the fire
‘Cause I am a champion and you’re gonna hear me roar
Louder, louder than a lion
‘Cause I am a champion and you’re gonna hear me roar
Oh oh oh oh oh oh
Oh oh oh oh oh oh
Oh oh oh oh oh oh
You’re gonna hear me roar

Now I’m floating like a butterfly
Stinging like a bee I earned my stripes
I went from zero, to my own hero

You held me down, but I got up (HEY!)
Already brushing off the dust
You hear my voice, you hear that sound
Like thunder gonna shake the ground
You held me down, but I got up (HEY!)
Get ready ’cause I’ve had enough
I see it all, I see it now

Ro-oar, ro-oar, ro-oar, ro-oar, ro-oar

I got the eye of the tiger, a fighter, dancing through the fire
‘Cause I am a champion and you’re gonna hear me roar
Louder, louder than a lion
‘Cause I am a champion and you’re gonna hear me roar
Oh oh oh oh oh oh
Oh oh oh oh oh oh
Oh oh oh oh oh oh
You’re gonna hear me roar
Oh oh oh oh oh oh
Oh oh oh oh oh oh
You’ll hear me roar
Oh oh oh oh oh oh
You’re gonna hear me roar…

These three remain….

Published on February 13, 2014February 13, 2014 by beatingcowdens12 Comments

She walked away today. She broke the rules. She updated the plan. On surgery number 11 she hugged us goodbye, and dry eyed walked through the secure area with two young nurses. The doors barely closed before I dissolved, an exhausted puddle, into my husband’s arms.

That didn’t last long… You only get a moment or two to pull it together. Then there was some really rotten cafeteria food, and WAITING.

They took her in at 3. Three and a half hours after she was scheduled. She was tired, and hungry. And more grown up than I am at 3 PM when I haven’t eaten.

What a whirlwind! Last Wednesday when we met the surgeon I was stunned by how quickly he wanted the entire thyroid removed. Stupid Cowden’s Syndrome. Makes people quick to pull out whatever seems to be misbehaving. And (SIGH) they are usually right.

So as the week built, and the media started predicting the newest storm coming…. I brushed it away for a while. I thought there was no way it could stand in the way. The surgery was scheduled. She was ready. The throat clearing has reached epic levels.

Faith.

Faith that it was going to be fine. Initially faith that the storm would pass. Faith that we would arrive on time to an early surgery Thursday morning.

Then, as happens so often I was reminded that FAITH, is not about me. It’s not about my terms, or my time, or my way. FAITH is knowing, trusting, believing. that God will provide what we need. Whether it fits my plan or not.

So, as it became evident that there would be no safe way to travel Thursday morning, the phone calls began.

HOPE

So much talk about HOPE this month. Rare Disease Day, and “HOPE – It’s in our genes.” Hope became necessary. The faith and hope working hand in hand, with a few mini meltdowns of worry mixed in. (HEY, I never claimed to be perfect!)

Back and forth to the surgical team, to the social worker, the secretaries. Pleading. Help us. Hotel rooms that were available running several hundred dollars. Offers from loving people to pay the bill. But in the end money wouldn’t have stopped us. We would have paid whatever we needed. Because we had to be here. Right here. Right now.

So finally around 2 O’Clock on Weds. the call came. “We can put you up at the Ronald McDonald House for the night.” The fee – incredibly reasonable. The location- perfect. The reality – it was time to pack us up and be out of the house by 8.

Packing to take Meghan away is an adventure. It’s not the electronics, or the “stuff” but rather the food. Not even a major hospital can safely prepare Gluten, Dairy, Soy free food. So there has to be a cooler. Dad made fried chicken and plantains. I picked up a pound of a Boar’s Head staple. Cookies, granola, ginger ale, and other necessities. Showers for all. And Grandpa picked us up at 8.

We brought our own sheets – because you need to wash theirs before you go, and I doubted we’d have time. I have to admit I was worried. Really worried about what I would find through the doors. But what I found was… love.

I had heard of “The Ronald McDonald House- The house that love built.” But I never gave it any thought.

I have a new charity on my favorite list.

We were welcomed – almost embraced by love and kindness. There was a nonjudgmental compassion the radiated out of every staff member. We were given keys to our rooms, and a tour with the rules of the “house.” We were shown to our room only after Meghan was allowed to choose a few games to play – and keep – from their back room. And, after she was given a backpack – with a special monkey, and a monkey blanket.

And on the return trip after the tour, before we saw our room – she was handed a warm, beautiful, blue and green blanket. Her grateful smile. My heart – full of love in this house.

Our room was on the 11th floor. Immediately I was at ease with the wood floors, foam mattresses, and EVERYTHING wrapped in plastic. And there was the most beautiful view.

And as we each found our way last night into our own level of sleep, there was LOVE. Everywhere in the room.

We checked out gratefully this morning, due to arrive at the hospital for an 11:30 surgery.

View out the window on this "Beautiful Day" — View out the window on this “Beautiful Day”

Waiting for surgery with the new monkey from the bag last night!

By 3:00 when she finally walked through the doors we had had to spend some time reminding ourselves that we were blessed.

A beautiful chaplain met us this morning, and clearly spoke Meghan’s language. She compared God to a loyal dog… always there – forever understanding of our needs.

The doctors took extra time with someone else’s baby this morning. I am glad they have that level of compassion. I am glad they take their time.

Now they need to take their time with mine.

The last status update came 15 minutes ago. They only began around 3:40. Prep took a while. She is stable, but its slow going. What to expect from a Cowden’s Syndrome thyroid filled with 16 or more nodules? Why make it easy.

Thankfully – she has some very special guardian angels on the case today. And the prayers of countless others.

In our family of three its appropriate to remember “These three remain; faith, hope, and love – and the greatest of these is LOVE!”

More to follow as soon as I can…

Here. We. Go. Again.

Published on February 6, 2014February 6, 2014 by beatingcowdens6 Comments

This will be the year the surgeries outpace the age. She’s been running a cool average of one a year for quite some time. Now, at just about 10 and a half, she will get a jump start of her 11th surgery. February 13th. One week.

That’s 11 surgeries. Full on. Operating room. General anesthesia. Waiting for pathology. Sometimes ICU. Often staying overnight. Real deal surgeries.

By my count we have been in 4 hospitals. We have a system. Felix goes into the OR. I stay overnight. It works for us.

Who has a “system” for surgery?

And that’s not the tests. The MRIs that early on required general anesthesia, the three thyroid biopsies, the ultrasounds in countless places. Nope. Those have their own tally altogether.

My Grandma is 93. She hasn’t had surgery yet. Meghan thinks that’s weird.

That’s life with Cowden’s Syndrome. Healing is “BEATINGCOWDENS.”

Surgery – the new normal. Organ removal – the necessary means to avoid something worse.

I expected the surgical consult to be on the 6th. Then my cell phone rang on the afternoon of the 4th. It was confirming our appointment for the 5th. The day it was going to snow, and ice and create horrendous road conditions. And, if I couldn’t make it – it would be another month.

So, I spoke to my super understanding boss. I rewrote my plans for a Weds. absence instead of Thursday, and after chopping anout 1/4 inch of ice off everything we left home at about 10:30 Weds. morning.

We have created quite an an army of guardian angels, and I called on every single one of them to guide our trip. They were on point. Not a hitch. We were sitting in the waiting room hours before our appointment.

I got to develop the pit in my stomach as the young superheroes and their parents spent the afternoon on chemo pumps. Pushing time. The beautiful bald two year old in the blood room was a reminder to mind my blessings.

I had been under the impression I was coming to discuss IF surgery was a good option. I had already decided I was unsure how I felt about whatever the poor pediatric surgeon at Memorial Sloan Kettering Cancer Center was going to be able to tell me. But, I was a bit shocked when there really was no “if” in the room.

Her neck was examined. Her notes reviewed. I was reminded again of the failure rate of Fine Needle Aspirations for the thyroid. (Close to 10% in case you wanted to know.) I asked again what made her a good candidate for a complete thryoidectomy at 10. The nodules. Consistent growth. Vascular feed. The tickle in the throat… It’s time they said. It’s time.

I lost my thryoid at 20 in 1993 to a condition called “multinodular goiter” and “Hashimoto’s thyroiditis.” They both stink. But now I find myself wishing for such benign conditions to be the final result of the pathology we will receive 5 to 7 days post op.

Everything is moving faster here. I don’t like it. Not one bit. I am a numbers person and these stats make me ill.

But, onward we go… because what choice do we have?

There will be work. Follow ups. Thyroid hormones to balance. But we will figure it out.

She laughed today. A lot. Maybe she is relieved without the uncertainty. She knew. We all knew.

Saturday I will sign her up for her second year of CYO swimming. The surgeon says only a week out of the pool. And her scar should be half the size of mine.

Two days off of school Then a vacation. Kind of. A “Stay-cation.” Daddy will be home too. Some movies, and maybe even some resting. Maybe some healing for all of us.

She’ll be back in full effect. Ready to rock “RARE DISEASE DAY 2014.” Denim ribbons. T-Shirts. Movie night.

A denim cause ribbon, crafted after the Global Genes Project's slogan, "Hope it's in our Genes!" — A denim cause ribbon, crafted after the Global Genes Project’s slogan, “Hope it’s in our Genes!”

A girl has to have SOMETHING to focus on.

What if every day was a snow day?

Published on February 3, 2014 by beatingcowdensLeave a comment

Now before you jump through the page – hear me out.

The kid in you may be cheering. “SNOW! FUN! PLAY! ”

And the grown up in you may be growling. “TIRED OF SHOVELING AND GETTING STUCK AND BEING COLD.”

But actually, neither is exactly what I meant.

I got a message around noon that my daughter was hurting. The pain has been bad again. The weather doesn’t help. I fought through a wicked virus last week, and there is always the possibility of it eating at her. Her nerves are shot. The thyroid consult is Thursday. Consciously or not – she is worried. I’d be shocked if she wasn’t. I am too.

And between the weather, and the stress, there is the pain. It started a few weeks ago in the shoulder. It found its way to the ankle. Physical therapy in between. Swim practice ends up being haphazard and inconsistent. My heart breaks. I am distracted. Most of the time.

But this afternoon, when we left school together, and there were 8 inches of snow on the ground where it hadn’t been a few hours earlier – no one we were about to meet would have had any real idea of what I wrote in the last 2 paragraphs.

After settling Meghan into the warming car I set about clearing it off. Its a decent car, but a sedan,not an SUV, and while it can handle 2 or 3 inches, it is NOT designed to drive in 8 inches of anything. I ended up on my bottom twice as I finally got the windows and roof clear enough to be safe and legal.

Then, I decided to pull out. Well I went through all the motions anyway. There was lots of spinning and not much moving.

Then there were people all around my car. Some I knew, others I don’t think I ever met. And for a moment getting my car out of the spot was the most important thing on their agenda. They guided me as I behaved like a ditsy distracted woman. They had no idea how full my head was, and they passed no judgement. They were patient. I got free.

I kept driving, ready to make the first right when a woman waved me away. Someone was stuck.

I proceeded straight slowly, and when I tried to move slightly to the left to be sure I cleared someone in the road, I quickly ended up on the curb.

Fortunately no cars were in the way. But I was not moving.

And then… there were people. New people. Surrounding my car. Strategizing. Thoughts of Thursdays appointment still waffling around in my head, I desperately tried to focus. They worked at it. I did as they said. And in a few moments, I was free again.

I kept to the main roads for as much of the rest of the trip as I could manage. And I was doing well until I had to stop to let a car pass at the service road. Stuck again. This time I had the wherewithal to free the car on my own. And as I turned down my block, there was a sense of relief.

So I pulled up alongside our other car to quickly shovel out the spot in front of our house. Then I got in the car to back it up. Spinning wheels. Sliding.

Then there was a neighbor. Then another. People I have lived near for 13 years, but I am embarrassed to say I formally met for the first time today.

This time the predicament was a bit more dicey. My new car was literally inches from the old one. A slide in the wrong direction was going to cost me the front corner panel of one, OR BOTH, of my cars.

Hesitant I called my parents house. I knew my Dad would make it down and help me make sense of it. I frantically shoveled until I could see the blacktop of the street, looking over my shoulder and holding my breath as a few cars sporadically made their way down the street. Our other neighbor, a former bus driver, came over and strategized a bit. Before I knew it the two of them were moving my Saturn out of the way. As my stepdad’s familiar smile greeted my from the window of his truck – my neighbors had safely parked both of my cars – without them ever touching!

Relieved. Grateful. Exhausted. I gleefully accepted my Dad’s news that he’d be using the snow blower on the back of our property and I busily got to work on the front. Street to street property is nice… most of the time.

Some time close to five – a few minutes before my husband got home, I walked my sore back into the house to greet the face of my wiped out “I’ve totally had it.” kid.

Close to two hours after I had left my job, I had to stop for a minute and reflect. The chaos of my mind was still swirling about my head.

I chatted with “The Captain” for about 15 minutes in awe of exactly how many angels had crossed my path today. By my count at least 15 people had in some way “paid it forward” to me and my girl.

And I work less than a mile from my house.

So what if every day was a snow day? Well we may have lots more chances to find out. But, more importantly, what if we TREATED each other, EVERY day, as if it was a snow day. What a wonderful world it would be.

Hope…

Published on January 29, 2014 by beatingcowdens1 Comment

“Hope” is the thing with feathers

“Hope” is the thing with feathers—
That perches in the soul—
And sings the tune without the words—
And never stops—at all—

And sweetest—in the Gale—is heard—
And sore must be the storm—
That could abash the little Bird
That kept so many warm—

I’ve heard it in the chillest land—
And on the strangest Sea—
Yet, never, in Extremity,
It asked a crumb—of Me.

Emily Dickinson

Lots of talk about HOPE this month, as RARE DISEASE DAY approaches. The phrase “Hope, It’s in our Genes” has become one my family relies on when we struggle. Hope is complicated. Or its simple. I guess it depends on how you look at it. Regardless, its necessary- for all people at all times.

I can not imagine living my own life devoid of HOPE. FAITH and HOPE work hand in hand here, and at our most desperate hours one is always there to shine a light in the darkness. I am convinced HOPE is there, even in the darkest hours. When we look. Here’s what HOPE looks like at our house.

HOPE is the kiss of a dog when the tears just won’t stop.

HOPE is a hug, or an,” I love you.”

HOPE is an EMail or a text, or a phone call at just the right time, from the person you’d never expect.

HOPE is believing that it’s all going to be OK. Somehow – some way.

HOPE is pain relief, even if it’s fleeting.

HOPE is quality Physical Therapy.

HOPE is the friends, (and the people we barely know) who “Care about RARE” because of us.

HOPE is an answered letter from someone you’ve never met, whose willing to help – just because.

HOPE is laughter.

HOPE is medicine that works.

HOPE is butterfly kisses.

HOPE is the internet, and connections to old and new friends.

HOPE is family.

HOPE is knowing you’re not alone – ever.

HOPE is when that special thing you thought was lost forever… shows up out of nowhere.

HOPE is believing that the surgeon will have the right answer.

HOPE is confidence that you are doing the best you can.

HOPE is real.

HOPE is love.

HOPE – It’s in our Genes!

WHAT IS HOPE to you?

Getting out of my own way…

Published on January 23, 2014January 23, 2014 by beatingcowdens1 Comment

I am actively, consciously, deliberately, trying to get out of my own way.

I have hopes, goals, dreams, aspirations. I love my daughter, my husband and God and my family and friends.

I want to be stellar mom, an outstanding wife, and a good friend.

I want to be a Christian woman who leads by example.

I want to shout from the mountaintops about the organic superfood changing lives in my house, and giving us energy and clarity of mind we never thought possible.

I want to teach people about health and wealth and how they can go hand in hand.

But I am stuck.

Right in the middle of my own way.

We had Meghan to the neurologist today. We left Staten Island at 1:45 and traveled the approximately 17 miles to the appointment in Manhattan. It took an hour and a half. I just about worked myself into a migraine on the way.

But, fortunately, the torturous migraines of the fall are a memory. Controlled by a medication I would rather her not take. Today we got a dose increase, and something to help her sleep. It should be noted the ONLY side effect the neurologist would even discuss from the medication was drowsiness. HA! Not here. There’s my Meg… doing it her own way.

This was an easy appointment. We were home by 5:30 although wiped out by the journey – all of us. The follow-up is in a few months, the new script is in hand.

They are asleep.

I am sitting at the computer. Thinking. Researching. Typing. Organizing. Planning. Attacking everything. Accomplishing – not so much.

Today I called to reschedule the thyroid surgical consultation. Suddenly 5 weeks seems like a really long time. The tickle in the throat is troublesome. It turns into coughing when she gets nervous, and is only pacified into a tickle by the boxes of cough drops on my counter. I try to ignore the reality that we both know exists. I try to tell her it’s no big deal, and to casually ask her to show me where it bothers her.

“It’s not sore till I cough. It just feels weird – right here.”

And there on the right side of the thyroid is what has begun to feel like a small stone. I try not to let my imagination get the best of me as I picture it pushing on her windpipe.

“It’s fine,” I tell her. “We’ll just get the doctor to take a quick look.”

She’s not dumb. Not by any means. And that is a good deal of the problem. Gone are the days when I could lie through my teeth and protect her from the evils of Cowden’s Syndrome – lurking behind each corner, hiding under the bed, and in the closet. Now the monster is real. And it gives real life nightmares.

So in 2 weeks, on February 6th we will head to Sloan Kettering to meet the pediatric surgeon. No one can be sure what he will say. And I am not sure there is a statement he will make that will soothe me or make me happy.

And the waiting game continues. One appointment down. Two weeks till the next. Then on the 11th I have 3 and she has one. I still haven’t figured if its better to consolidate or spread them out. They just keep coming. One after another…

“Beatingcowdens” will suck out your energy if you let it.

But I won’t. That’s why I have gotten so involved in this superfood, and this fabulous company called Isagenix. Recently they named their 100th millionaire. A school guidance counselor from NJ with no network marketing experience. We three start every day with our shakes. We use the snacks and the meal bars, and the tea, and tonight they both took the melatonin spray to sleep. We are feeling better and better. So in the time I have at night, I listen to podcasts, I learn all I can. And I try to share with my family and friends that I am finally not that sickly little girl they knew. I try to share with them the health and wellness opportunities, and the vision for financial freedom. I am here. I am ready. If they will listen.

And its a good thing I am a master at multitasking, because there are lesson plans to write – for a subject I love across a LOT of grades. Trying every moment to be the best I can be.

As I sort through the last boxes from Dad’s apartment. And I laugh, and I smile, and I cry. As I make binders of beautiful 8×10 prints I found everywhere. As I sort through the photos on CD and prepare hard drives for my brother and sister. And I chuckle at the bills that come in, and I make contact with the members of his platoon in Vietnam, and his old friends – one at a time. Unearthing buried treasure from a man I loved dearly. Not a saint, but who is? And so much wiser than any of us really gave him credit for.

And I make list after list of the things I need to do. In the house, in life, on the computer… Supplements to order, new pants for my growing girl, laundry, and a haircut, and all sorts of other random yet necessary things.

I think about my friends who I love. The ones I never call, or barely talk to. The ones who I text instead of calling or visiting. I think of how busy our lives are… and for what?

Rare Disease Day is coming. February 28th. Our school is celebrating. Meghan is thrilled. There will be Tshirt sales, and a movie night, and proceeds to the “Global Genes Project.” It gives purpose. Hope. A distraction.

Somewhere in the midst of all this I have to stop and wonder. How do people do it?

Our lives have their own brand of busy – a medical type – which may be different than that of my friends, but it bears similarities. Over run. Overworked. Exhausted. Worried.

How do they get out of their own way? How do they manage to keep the balance of friendships and “play dates” for adults and kids? How do they get the laundry and the grocery shopping done, and still find time to play?

I think I am a pretty organized Mom. But yet – I need to use my time better. I won’t part with my writing. That’s therapy for me.

I’ve minimized the clutter in my house (just don’t look in the closets.) Now its time to minimize the clutter in my head.

Cowden’s Syndrome Awareness

Rare Disease Day

Doctors, surgery?

Isagenix – health and wealth

Reconnecting with old friends

Making the time to exercise… cause I like it.

FOCUS

Now if you’ll excuse me… I have to find my way out of this maze…

I’ve got work to do!

Courageous…

Published on January 14, 2014January 14, 2014 by beatingcowdens1 Comment

Lions and Tigers and Bears, Oh MY… Lions and Tigers and Bears, Oh MY…

Three Years ago Meghan was Dorothy for Halloween. The idea originated on a trip to Disney as we went through “The Great Movie Ride.” Felix and I realized she had never seen “The Wizard of Oz,” and we had a thrilling time explaining the story and later watching the movie together.

Meghan liked Dorothy because she felt like she could relate to her. She respected Dorothy’s bravery as she led the Lion, the Tin Man, and the Scarecrow to see the Wizard of Oz. She liked Dorothy’s stamina, and her determination. Dorothy never gave up. And she carried a dog. Really, what more could a girl want?

Of course for my only child, my girl, I jumped full in and spent a ridiculous sum on a fabulous Dorothy dress and some ruby slippers. Well worth it. Worth it for the memories, for her smile of excitement, and for days like today when I can remind her that she and Dorothy have an awful lot in common.

Meghan is fighting shoulder pain. Deep, knotted pain. The mean, painful kind, only pacified with full strength muscle relaxants, that you don’t wish on anyone – especially not a 10 year old. And definitely not THIS 10 year old.

One might theorize that its stress related, and one might even be tempted to tell her to relax, and let a few things go. One might be tempted to admonish her for making herself so tense. Really, at 10 – what should she be worried about?

Then if that very same person, who hopefully thought before they spoke, really contemplated the life of this kid – they might understand. They might even grab a pen and help her write her homework, or make some time to rub that shoulder.

And, while they rubbed, and listened to the throat clearing which must just be flat-out annoying to HER, they would really be in awe that she holds it together as well as she does.

She is a kid. A kid with a growing up body, and grown up worries. And a kid who still has kid worries too.

While anyone who sees her sees a cool, confident smile, and a remarkable, articulate presence, only a precious few have glimmers of the “lion” side.

Meghan strives to achieve excellence, all the time. She wants to do her best in school. Actually, she expects herself to be perfect in school. She agonizes over each step along the way. She loves the children. She enjoys the teachers. And this young lady who spends so much time feeling “abnormal,” strives every second of the day to fit in perfectly at school. She relishes the feeling of “normalcy,” even if only for a few hours each day. The problem is, anything less than perfection is unacceptable to her.

Now, if I am honest, and introspective the phrase “alligators have alligators” comes to mind. She learned a lot of this worry from me. And even though I do not have the expectations of her that she has of herself, I have those expectations of MYSELF. I want to give it all to everyone, all the time. And sometimes, I feel as though the “perfect storm” is lurking, and my inability to “let it go,” could be the inevitable cause.

But what to “let go?” Please, don’t even get me started. Maybe instead I, the lion, should focus on my faith – toss it up to God, and lead by example.

Easier said than done of course.

So I, the Cowardly Lion watch, as my brave Dorothy leads down our “Yellow Brick Road.”

Sometimes we have to duck out of the way, as obstacles fly in our faces, but we press on. And I watch as my brave girl starts to work on a Rare Disease Day Movie Night fundraiser. I watch as she puts others first. I follow her lead, glad to be her back up.