“BE the Change You Wish to See in the World” – Ghandi

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With another fall season upon us, life is in full blown crazy mode.  And, to be honest, we wouldn’t have it any other way.

Yesterday, my 12 year old FINALLY throughly enjoyed a Halloween.  It was such a thrill to watch.  FINALLY, she was able to trick or treat, EAT a few treats, AND keep up with some serious walking with friends.

Of course, she slept until almost 1 pm, even with the time change, and woke up unable to move her AVM knee.  These are the repurcussions we expect.  She is not “normal,”  but when she can pretend for a while when it really counts… well that is a great success.  And even as she lay still most of the day, she smiled.  She sang.  Joy.

Fall is full of things, and so far she’s managing nicely.  With a marking period to end Friday, Pupil Path tells me grades are at an all time high.  Practice 4 times a week has her swim times at an all time low.  And, drama twice a week is leaving hopeful anticipation as “The Wizard of Oz” is soon to be cast.

She is working with me to plan our second fund raiser in February.  We chose a date close to World Rare Disease Day, with the continued desire, and intention to bring awareness to our rare disease, and over 7,000 rare diseases worldwide that affect 10% of the world’s population.  We are acutely aware that to be heard, we need to join collective voices.  Individually we matter little to most of the healthcare system, overwhelmed, uneqipped to diagnose and treat us.  Together is the only way we have a chance.

Last year we raised over $12,000 and donated it to the PTEN Foundation (www.PTENfoundation.org) and the Global Genes Project (www.GlobalGenes.org).  This year we hope to exceed $20,000 in donations.

We have brought in Bob Jackson, a performer from Walt Disney World.  He will be flying up to entertain our guests.  Our whole family LOVES Bob, but Meghan especially will not hear of celebrating a birthday until Bob sings to her.  We’ve spent her last 8 birthdays at Disney.

Here is a youtube video that is a great indicator of the FUN time Bob brings!

We have lined up sound with Partners in Sound, and we have Balloon Charlie returning to also help entertain the children.

We have established a children’s menu in hopes that families can enjoy the afternoon out together.

There will be raffles and lots of laughing.

There will be comfortable JEANS and good friends.

We are setting up a facebook group called Jeans for Rare Genes 2016 Staten Island, and we encourage you to join.

We have tickets to the event available through Jeans For Rare Genes 2 – Tickets and Donations link

Meghan is living life as a 12 year old who just happens to have had 15 surgeries.  She is a 12 year old who just happens to have a Rare Disease.  She is a 12 year old who realizes that as challenging as life is, so many others suffer worse.  She is my hero.  She is MY role model.

Together we will make Jeans for Rare Genes a thrilling success.  Hope to see you there!

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Time with “BOB” our favorite entertainer…

Losing Count…

In school I count children.  Religiously.  Especially in September.  I count them in, and out.

I count pencils, to pacify my OCD.  12 to a table.

I count days until appointments, special occasions, and vacations.  I love numbers.

I have a tendency to remember addresses, phone numbers, anniversaries and dates.

So it’s a really big deal in my mind when I realize I am losing count of Meghan’s surgical procedures.

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I keep a list in my bag, that I update often.  I have a 16 gig flash drive with a history spanning 12 years in that same ziploc bag in my purse.  But, this year.  Well, this year has been a little more wild than usual.

And every time I say it, I find the old saying, “You ain’t seen nothing yet..” coming true.  But, every year I sit at an IEP meeting talking about discontinuing some services, and we always say, “When she goes a year with no surgery…”

Good thing I’m not holding my breath.

See I wrote, and I think I blogged, TWICE in the last week, that the hand surgery was Meghan’s 13th surgery.  Except it wasn’t.  It was the 14th.

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And maybe, when I lose count, it’s time to stop counting.  Because they are all starting to blur together.

2004- Epigastric hernia surgery

2007 –  Gall Bladder Removed

2008 Tonsils and adenoids removed

2008 Back mass lipoma

2009 Oral “fibrous polyp”

2009 Embolization (internal) AVM right knee

2010 Embolization (internal)  AVM right knee

2011 Direct Stick Embolization AVM right knee

2012 Direct Stick Embolization AVM right knee

2013 excision of mass from right palm

2014 complete thyroidectomy

Nov. 2014 emergency (direct stick) embolization AVM right knee

May 2015 Arthroscopic Surgery – Right knee

August 2015 Excision of vascular lesion from left palm

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But, just as I think I should stop counting.  Just as I think that this is “normal,” or that these procedures are somehow “minor,” I realize the ridiculous nature of that train of thought.

THIS IS NOT NORMAL.  THIS IS COWDEN’S SYNDROME.  And, BEATINGCOWDENS is what we do, but it is far from NORMAL!

This week, Meghan had a fever blister break out before her surgery.  Maybe nerves, maybe coincidence, maybe a medication screw up.  Whatever.  It reminded me again, that her body is taxed.  It is tired.  I have been hunting through past blood work, another plan in place to try to deal with chronically low IgG levels.

She spent the 48 hours after the “minor” hand surgery with high fever and frightening headaches.

We had to postpone the follow-up to the “real” 13th surgery Thursday morning because she could not get into the car.

No surgery is minor.  And we run the risk of confusing things we are used to with things that are not significant.  And that is a dangerous road.

It is so important to keep validated, as an adolescent or as an adult.  When we trivialize procedures, intentionally or not, we invalidate the patient.  Cowden’s Syndrome patients will undergo insane numbers of procedures, surgeries, hospitalizations and testing in their lives.  They all matter.  Because we matter.  And while we are forever grateful every time a surgery is smooth, benign, and uncomplicated, we are all a little more rattled than we were before.

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So LOSING COUNT, is not acceptable.  It somehow trivializes the nature of what goes on here.

We didn’t get to the beach this summer.  We did get to Disney.  Thank goodness.  Because pretty much everything else we did involved traffic, a co-pay and a parking garage.

We are blessed.  We are grateful.  We are in tune to the tragedies and horrors around us.  But, sometimes it gets lonely.

We miss barbeques and parties.  We cancel at the last-minute.  We rarely socialize.  It’s not because we don’t want to.  It’s because things change so quickly we can not keep up.  And then it looks like we don’t want to.  But, it’s just not true.

We are eternally grateful to the people who reach out.  Just for a minute. Because it matters.

If you’re reading this because you know someone with Cowden’s or a similar syndrome, my advice to you is reach out.  Text.  Call.  Email.  It’s not about money, or grand gestures.  It’s the 5 minutes you spend that will truly aid in the recovery process.

Because recovery is essential.  Number 15 is just around the corner.  And even though that’s a “regular” surgery, I bet not many of us have had our wisdom teeth extracted at the age of 12.

It’s physical.

It’s mental.

It’s emotional.

It does not stop.

BEATINGCOWDENS

 

 

Hurry up… and waiting rooms…

The early hour usually means I would be at work.  Instead, I am sitting on the 10th floor, in the waiting room.  Again.

Right now my beautiful girl in undergoing surgery number 13, the 6th on her knee.  The goal is to stop the blood that has been leaking into her knee and causing degeneration and chronic pain.  This time there is a new doctor at the helm, an orthopedist from Long Island.  Our vascular guy, the leader of surgeries one through 5 on that same right knee has taken a back seat.  He is on standby.  We are sitting.

Waiting.

Alone with our thoughts.  Not always my favorite place.

These last few weeks have been a whirlwind.  When we met the orthopedic surgeon in February, and Meg said May was a good time for surgery, she had certainly calculated her plan.

Over the last few weeks, we have been busy packing in as much good stuff as we could fit.

The school play, her first production, was April 30, and May 1.  It was such a thrill to watch the spirited enthusiasm from my daughter and all the other children.  She is hooked.
 And while drama practice was going on 5 days a week, she was still making three swim practices a week, working hard to finish out strong.  As a result she received the “Coaches Award” at the team dinner last week, and she was moved “up” a level.  She was able to practice with her new group starting Monday, so she got in 2 practices before this procedure will derail her for a bit.


She also almost finished the CYO Swim season.  Making 7 out of 8 meets (the last one is May 9th) she swam hard and strong one day each weekend as well.

In the midst of all this, she managed to balance her time well and was inducted into Arista, the National Honor Society.

All the while we looked for spring clothes, and shoes (in 2 different sizes) for my beautiful 5 foot 5 young woman.

I know there are people who are busier.  I know multiple kids jostles the world.  But, I also know I am proud.

She ran on raw nerve.  She pushed and pushed in ways that would have taxed a healthy child.  And she made it.  Sunday’s morning swim meet was a no – go, but I am just so impressed she accomplished all she did.

And just for fun she broke her first pair of glasses yesterday. Not bad for a kid whose had them since K. New pair already on…

 And I’m impressed I got her there.

We like to convince ourselves that we are just like everyone else.  But the reality is that this genetic disorder messes with our bodies and our minds.

As I said to the nurse this morning when she wondered why Meg was a little edgy,  “It’s not you.  You are just an ACCUMULATION of her life.  Step by step.  Poke by poke.  Surgery by surgery.”

I think she got it.  Maybe.  As the woman in the bed next door in preop – clearly in her 60s, said she had never had surgery before.

So very hard to believe.


I’ll update later.  I’m waiting.  Cheering my kid on as she continues to be BEATINGCOWDENS.

World Rare Disease Day – Advocacy and Awareness

World Rare Disease Day is February 28th.  Although the actual day is February 29th (the rarest day…)

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It is a day of raising awareness across the globe about the 7,000 rare diseases that plague 1 in 10 people.

Our fundraiser has ended for the year.  Our checks have been sent.  All that’s left for tomorrow is our denim ribbons and our shirts.  This day is right up Meghan’s alley.  Meghan, whose entire platform has become raising funds and awareness, relishes a day set aside for just that.

Although some days I suspect it would be easier to be an advocate, rather than a patient AND advocate, I suspect   am sure that we are more effective advocates BECAUSE we are patients too.

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I get that not all diseases, ailments, or medical issues are “RARE.”  I also fully understand that that doesn’t make one more important than the other.  It’s just that when you have a chronic illness, life is really challenging.  When you have a chronic illness BECAUSE of a RARE disease, that really has NO treatment, and definitely NO cure, some days the hill seems insurmountable.

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I texted my husband yesterday afternoon to let him know I was going grocery shopping.  He told me I was nuts.  A week post-op from vascular surgery that put 25 incisions in my right leg, he might have been right.  Except he didn’t argue.  Timing would not allow him to go.

Grocery shopping in my house is an endeavor.  I cross a bridge, and hit not one, but two stores – miles apart before returning home after about a 4 hour round trip.  It’s one of the few things easier in the winter – as I don’t have to pack ice!

Why such a journey?  Meghan.

Among other things I have learned from my daughter, she has inadvertently schooled her parents on the value of nutrition.  Meghan has had food “issues” since birth.  Slowly we have played and peeled away and adjusted her diet to be free of Gluten, Casein, and Soy, as well as most dyes and preservatives, and highly acidic foods.  She takes digestive enzymes with every meal, and a host of nutritional supplements.

She went from grossly behind in speech/ language to miles ahead.  She surpassed extensive sensory issues.

I don’t cook.  Ever.  But, I shop.  And it’s my job to make sure the tools are in place to whip up tasty meals for Meghan, and all of us.  My husband never disappoints.  He is creative, tasty, almost passionate about Meghan having a culinary experience she will enjoy.  He is fantastic.

I shop at Wegmans.  And at Whole Foods.  Most things Meghan eats are organic, and  by default a lot of ours is too.   My grocery bill is usually about half a mortgage payment every 3 weeks by the time I feed the dogs too.  It is the sole reason we don’t settle all out debt.  And it is worth every penny. Nutrition is without a doubt the best investment I have made into the health of my child.

The game changer was the addition of a nutritional cleansing program I have come to trust into her diet.  Felix has been using it for almost three years.  Meghan and I for about 18 months.

Felix needed to lose weight.  But almost as an after effect, after losing 50 pounds, he noticed he felt great.  I cautiously introduced the product to Meghan in slow, low doses.  Once I was clear she had no reaction, I went all in.  For well over a year now she has had a protein shake for breakfast every morning, and since starting school she takes a meal bar for lunch on school days.  Over 40 grams of healthy, well-digested protein a day, and this child has done nothing but grow!

Growth spurt?  Maybe.  But the hair, the skin, the nails, the teeth.  She glows of good health.  She missed her shake for 2 days a month ago.  She had a tough swim and felt awful.  Coincidence?  Maybe.  But she’s not even taking chances any more.

In my house we have a protein shake every morning, and Meghan has some organic, home-made waffles too.  We don’t just trust any protein shake.  Ours is high in whey protein from “happy cows” in New Zealand.  And my girl who can have no dairy at all without severe pain – tolerates these like nothing.

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Leaves a mom to wonder- maybe it’s not a “dairy” allergy, as much as a “what’s fed to the cows” allergy?

I could debate processed vs. natural vs. organic all day.  What I have here is results.

When you are fighting a rare disease, you need to have the best food in you as possible so you can battle like a champion.

Meghan got out of swim practice tonight.  She never gets out of the pool.  Her coaches know that.  I know that.

“It hurts Mom.”

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She knows.  All of it.  Whether I say it or not.  She misses nothing the doctors say, and despite my wishes they ALL talk right in front of her.

She has earned the right to sit out.  Her coaches know how hard she works.  She waited for starts – to get a few in before Sunday’s Silver Championship meet.

On the way to the car she told me she wasn’t sure the knee would hold till May.

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I am still waiting for a call back from the orthopedist from last week.  Apparently her notes are being typed.  He can’t possibly speak to her case without them.  He saw 65 patients the day we were there.

The knee is swollen.  We will try ice.  Hopefully that’s it.

“What if it’s blood?”

“What if it’s not?”

That’s kind of how the conversation went.

Truth is, neither of us know.  So we will press on.  We have the main plan – the one that lasts till May.  And we have the back up.  The one where we just yell “plot twist!”  and go with whatever happens.

Why did I go grocery shopping last night?  For Meghan.  For her food.  And so she sees me press on.  Despite being hurt.  Because if I don’t press on through tough times, how can I ask the same of her?

My Mom may not have a “rare disease,” but I learned stubbornness, stamina and work ethic from her.

Rare Disease Day 2015.  It’s not so much about “celebrating” as it is about advocacy and awareness.

Because the under diagnosed, the underfunded, and the often ignored – matter.  Very much.

We are BEATINGCOWDENS… One day at a time…

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Global Genes hit this one spot on!

The Speed of Life

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I am always amazed by the speed of life.

I don’t know why at this point I’m not used to it yet.  But, as I sit here with my leg elevated recovering from a vein stripping on Thursday, I find it hard to imagine it hasn’t been quite a week since “Jeans for Rare Genes” took place.

Rare Disease Day Fundraiser

Acknowledgements have been sent by Email.  Some are waiting for the mail, and others will be delivered to the local businesses that supported us in the next few days.  We wanted everyone to know that what we considered a lofty goal of $10,000 to be donated to the PTEN Hamartoma Tumor Syndrome Foundation, and The Global Genes Project has been surpassed.  The checks are still being counted, and the final payment from eventbrite is due any moment.  But it looks like the total will clear $12,000 before we are through.  Not too shabby for the vision of a feisty 11-year-old who has already begun to make tentative plans for what we will do even better “next year.”

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And as I’ve digested the success, and have processed the overwhelming pride of a mother, and expressed our gratitude to family and friends near and far, (like the Yokleys from Colorado!)  I’ve taken some time to reflect.  Standing before a room filled with 150 of our friends and family on a bitter cold February morning left my insides warm and toasty from the love surrounding us.

Life moves quickly.  For all of us for different reasons.  But, with this syndrome x2 life seems to be literally swallowed by doctors, and tests and surgeries, with every spare moment trying to shove “normal” into the cracks.  We miss stuff.  A lot.  We miss friends, and gatherings and social events, and celebrations, and ordinary get-togethers.  We are absent more than we are present.  Our friends and extended family are often neglected as immediate family has to occupy any moment that isn’t already full.  I don’t actually remember the last time we had friends for pizza, or a casual summer gathering on the deck by the pool.

And I think about the pure innocence and wisdom of Meghan and Connor, as they finally met.  Two friends from miles apart, with a life altering syndrome in common.  Two bright, funny kids who have seen more than their fair share.  Two kids who get compassion, and understanding, and life.  Two sets of parents, immediately at ease with each other because we understand.  And sometimes that’s all you need.  And if you missed the two articulate, wise beyond their years, kids talking to the local news – click here.

I think about Georgia, a world away in Australia, and how she and Meghan have hit it off in a way only girls who share such a bond ever could.  I think how wonderful it will be one day to get them together too.

And I think about Ashton, older than Meghan, but a girl on a mission all the same.  And I think of all she has to offer the world, as she endures her 14th procedure on a stubborn AV fistula in her brain this week.  I think about all the prayers we say, and all the questions Meghan asks.  And her Mom.  My peer.  A Cowden’s patient too.  A school teacher turned full-time mother later in life.  Because it was meant to be.  I think about the hours spent texting and messaging.  And how I already feel so comfortable…

And I know that the room was full for them too.

I am grateful beyond measure for the ones who understand.  Who don’t give up on us.  Who stand with us, beside us, behind us, or just about wherever we need them to be.

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I will resolve to try to reach out more.  I just don’t know how many more hours I can squeeze out of a week.  But I will try.  Because the speed of life is astounding.

Sunday some of my college friends were delayed to the fundraiser.  They were in the hospital with one, as her father was very ill.  Yet, they found the balance.  They stayed with her, and then came to us.

Thursday as I came out of I think my 7th vascular procedure I got the texts on my phone that things weren’t good.  Her Dad passed away Thursday morning.  My heart hurt.  It was ironic really, as I had felt my own Dad ever-present as I got checked in and prepped.  I got to thinking that out of 5 of us from college that I really stay in touch with, three had already lost a father, and one a mother and a brother.  How did we get to this stage?  How did life move so fast?  And although my own recovery will keep me from making it to her side tomorrow, – I know she will feel the love in my heart.

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We have to try to slow things down.  Sometimes.

But, I’m not sure when.  Or how.  Because yesterday I sat in the back seat with my heavily bandaged leg, and we made the trek to Cohen’s Children’s Hospital on Long Island.  And we saw an orthopedist about Meghan’s knee.  Her vascular surgeon suggested we go – before the next embolization procedure in her knee.

Her MRI shows some damage to the knee structure.  “Blood is a terrible irritant, even in small quantities…” And I would imagine that this AVM, probably active since birth, has been slowly eroding the knee.  So there is swelling in the bone marrow, and issues with the patella, and all sorts of explanations as to why it keeps hurting.  There is no real solution, but a synnovectomy will get him in the knee.  He can “clean out” some of the scar tissue, and we can pray that gives relief and doesn’t provoke a “hyper healing” Cowden’s type response.  But we have to try.  They have to see.  It’s time to get a real baseline.

So they will present her case next week.  And we will hope that the recommendation is for the vascular surgeon to do his work on the AVM at the same time the orthopedist does his work.  Because the recovery from the embolizations is tough.  This one promises to be outright nasty.  “At least a week on crutches.  Minimum 4-6 week recovery.  PT to build back the strength in the thigh muscle.”  They will fill the knee with saline to get a clear view…

So he asked about her activities, and approved of swimming.  Almost relieved when she told him she had given up soccer and dance because they hurt too much.  He asked what strokes in swimming, almost tentatively, as if he was hoping for the answer he got.

“Butterfly is my favorite!”

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And he looked relieved as he explained to Felix and I that butterfly kick was best on the knees.  Meghan chimed in, “because you kick from your hips!”

We were once again impressed by her instincts and her depth of knowledge of her own body.  She gravitated to a stroke most hate because it probably hurt her the least.  We got the nod to let her continue freestyle and backstroke.  But breaststroke is off-limits.  Probably forever.  Ironically – she never like that one much anyway…

We asked about the timing of the procedure.  He thought before he spoke and told us he wanted to hear what his colleagues had to say.

We pressed him for early May.  The tail end of the CYO season.  The week after her first play, “Hairspray” at school.  He told us to take it very easy.  And if she doesn’t have another bleed before then, that’s probably a reasonable time frame.

“If… Probably…”

We should be used to all this by now.  But, I think you never get used to watching your child get beat up over and over again.  That’s why we pushed to try to plan… to try to squeeze in all the normal we can.  Because she can’t keep having the fun taken away for the medical.  It’s not ok.  But, we plan very tentatively.

The speed of life can be overwhelming.

Thankfully we have so many of you along for the ride.

Next Saturday, February 28th is World Rare Disease Day.

Next Sunday, March 1st is Meghan’s first championship swim meet.  Silvers.  For the 100 butterfly – naturally.

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Pain is temporary….

At least I hope so.

I vaguely remember a shirt my older sister used to wear when she was swimming.  The message was something like this.

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It was motivational, meant I am sure to remind the young swimmers that their fatigue from grueling practice would translate into race times that would forever keep them proud of their accomplishments.

And in that case, I hope the pain, the pain of lap after lap, translated into successful meet times that led to a gratifying feeling of pride.

But what about when it’s not that neat?  What about when you can’t sort it out in a package, or tie a bow on it?

There is emotional pain.  The empty pain of loss.

As I type, I have two lit candles on my desk, celebrating the 60th birthday of my uncle in heaven.  The pain of his wife, his children, his mother, my dad, (his brother,) can not be explained.  The loss is raw.  The pain is an open wound.

I think of my college roommate, and her nephews and sister-in-law preparing for Christmas without their 36 year-old father.

I think of the loss of my Dad, just over a year ago, and the flood of memories and seasonal connections complicating my every thought.

I think of the loss of our beloved Allie Girl last week.

I think… and I think.  And I know how badly it hurts.  And I know we are so far from alone.  I am grateful not to be able to imagine the depth of the pain some feel.

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Pain is temporary…

There is the pain of anxiety.  Very real.  Depression.   Equally crippling.  I’d be lying if I said I haven’t battled with both my whole life, amped up by this Cowden’s Syndrome torment under which my girl and I will live forever.

Try as I might, the worry is stifling.  The sense of urgency all the time is exhausting.  There is little room for error.   Screenings, medications, lab work, surgery.  All scheduled with precision to conserve sick days and minimize missed school.  Except when I can’t.  Like when it’s an emergency.  Then we just roll with it.

The anxiety weighs on my girl as well.  11 years old, trying so hard to be normal, and to fit in.  But, the reality is there is no “normal.”  So she fakes it as best she can, blessed to be surrounded by some spectacular kids.

But, she gets mad.  Mad at the doctor, mad at her knee, mad that she takes two steps forward and three steps back, in this poorly choreographed dance she is forced to participate in.  Mad that she can’t be “the best,” because her own best is unacceptable to her.  And some days when she is extra mad, I wonder about the thyroid.  Cause its absence affects all things.  And this week came the phone call that the numbers have increased 400% over the last 3 months again.  So we continue to raise the dose of a medication that I don’t think does a damned thing for her.  We play the game while I search, frantically for someone to “get it.”

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Pain is temporary…

Except when it’s chronic.  And it involves every single minute of every day.  And the one medication that does work is off-limits.  And the surgery to plug the hole in the artery that was likely provoked by the absence of THAT medicine, causes and abundance of scar tissue and this feeling of a lump the size of a cashew or two exactly where the knee should be able to bend.  And you have no way of knowing if its going to get better, or happen again.  Any minute.

And the pain, well if it was only in your knee it would be better.  But it’s in the shoulder, and the neck, and maybe it’s caused by the feet over a 1/2 size off, or that slight curve in the lower spine, or something else no one cares to figure out.

So, you gather your spoons.  And you borrow a few.

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And you press on.  Through sixth grade and onto the principal’s honor roll, and through student council, and drama club, and fundraising activities, and swimming your butt off.  Cause what choice do you have?

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Pain is temporary…

We talk about injury pain, vs healing pain.  Tonight’s pain counts as the healing type cause it was generated largely by exercise.  This pain is movement in the right direction.  Swimming heals the soul.

You have to find what heals the soul, or you will lose your mind.  There is no other way.

Pain is temporary… cause it needs to be.

You have to find what brings you peace.

Two weeks ago on December 4th, I chose this.  The butterfly breaking out of the cocoon.  Free forever.

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I miss my Dad.

My heart is full.

But we press on.  Because pain is temporary.  Even for all of us in the middle of the worst pain of our lives.  The sun will shine again.

Channeling that energy into raising awareness, fundraising, and helping those whose sun hasn’t come back up.

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Jeans for Rare Genes Fundraiser  (Click here to support our fundraiser for the Global Genes Project and the PTEN foundation)

We are living real life, AND

WE ARE BEATING COWDEN’S TOO!

Vascular Road Maps and other Cowden’s adventures…

I sometimes hate the saying that things work out the way they are supposed to.  Sometimes I just don’t buy it.  But, then there are other times.

I have suffered with varicose veins since I was in my early 20s.  I had 2 stripped surgically before I was 30  I had 5 VNUS closure procedures in 2011.

Over the years I have tried compression stockings, switching to comfortable shoes, losing almost 40 pounds, and the veins just keep on bulging.

It gets to the point that the throbbing in my legs is the last thing I feel before I close my eyes, and the first thing I feel when I wake up in the morning.  During the day I get distracted.  And when I get home at night to take off my shoes and switch to pajamas, the size of my legs is noticeably larger.  The swelling is evident.  The blue veins bulge.

Although this is far more than a cosmetic issue, the ugliness and the irony doesn’t help.  Last summer I bought shorts.  In a size 2.

 

This is not my leg - but a close comparison...
This is not my leg – but a close comparison…

This summer I barely ever wore a pair, and despite having a pool at home, I never put a bathing suit on.

As Meghan has battled with her AVM (Arteriovenous Malformation) in her right knee since around 2009, I have learned more about the vascular malformations that can be associated with the PTEN mutation that causes Cowden’s Syndrome.  It seems the connection is documented, but small sample sizes make it hard to study the specifics of this rare disease and all its variations in detail.  See there are differences even within the PTEN mutations that link us all.  Some are germline mutations, some are frameshift, some are missense, others nonsense.  AND, there are further specific differences too complicated for me to process.  It seems, in layman’s terms, that each mutation manifests slightly differently, although there are major criteria that link us together.

And, it seems that the frameshift mutation Meghan inherited from me, is likely at the root of our vascular problems.

Another symptom I have dealt with for years, explained, but not gone after this PTEN diagnosis.

I had an appointment with a highly recommended vascular surgeon on Tuesday. I expected what I have come to expect.

There was the sonogram.  The attempt at settling out the roadmap of veins, so many of which have already been treated. It is no easy task, and I leave them at a disadvantage because I have had my vascular work done in several different facilities.  (You can read that as difficult to please.)  Though for the first time I was told that the deep veins in my left calf are so dilated that they are at great risk for blood clotting.  The blood sits stagnant there.  That apparently is not the most intense of my issues.

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Then there was the visit with the doctor.  A young, bright eyed, refreshingly competent doctor who was very interested in my Cowden’s Syndrome, and my previous abdominal surgeries.

He asked if things got worse with the vein in my leg after the tubal ligation in 2011.

“You mean the hysterectomy?”

“No, that was the following year.”  He was reading from a sheet I had given him.  He was right.

I guess somehow I had blocked the tubal ligation which had become unnecessary less than 12 months later when Cowden’s and a uterine polyp (post breast cancer) necessitated a full hysterectomy.

“I’m not sure, why?”

“I am wondering what is causing these veins to turn.  And I have to look at every possibility.”  As he places his hand on my abdomen.

“How long had that pulsing been there?”

“Um… I don’t know.  (Feeling incredibly dumb for ignoring my body) Why?”

“Well, I won’t even consider surgery without some major tests.  First I want a full abdominal CT to check for vascular malformations.”

Now truth be told I wasn’t shocked to hear this.  I had a nagging, behind the ear voice telling me to get that pulsing checked out.  But I had met with a vascular surgeon in July and that turned train wreck.  So I was a bit delayed.  I also I guess didn’t really like the fact that he could feel the pulsing too.  I thought, well I thought that was just mine….

So I left with a script for the CT, waiting for authorization, and a script for blood to assess my kidney’s capability to handle the CT dye.

And as I tried to process that, I thought of everything.  I ran the gamut from aneurysm to AVM.

As I washed my hair the next morning (I do my best thinking in the shower) I had one more thought.

MY SPLEEN!

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I had never mentioned my spleen.  The hamartomas/lymphangiomas/masses on my spleen, the largest of which are 4 cm round.  I was told they are vascular.  I have been watching them with periodic MRIs and I was told as long as they stayed stable I could keep my spleen.

I really hope they aren’t misbehaving.

I like my spleen.

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I also like that this doctor cares enough to check everything out first.

Pain in the butt?  Absolutely.  Life-changing?  Maybe.

The other doctor was ready to take the vein out in the office with no prior testing.  This guy told me I need an ER and tons of pretesting.  You know what?  At least he takes things seriously.

So now I wait.  For authorization.  For testing.  For a whole host of inconvenient to schedules to processes.

And fortunately there isn’t much time to waste on worry.

Life is busy.  We squeeze what we need to into the crevices.

We can’t let Cowden’s Syndrome distract us from this life that needs living.

This one is a favorite of a dear internet friend :-)
This one is a favorite of a dear internet friend 🙂