These three remain….

Published on February 13, 2014February 13, 2014 by beatingcowdens12 Comments

She walked away today. She broke the rules. She updated the plan. On surgery number 11 she hugged us goodbye, and dry eyed walked through the secure area with two young nurses. The doors barely closed before I dissolved, an exhausted puddle, into my husband’s arms.

That didn’t last long… You only get a moment or two to pull it together. Then there was some really rotten cafeteria food, and WAITING.

They took her in at 3. Three and a half hours after she was scheduled. She was tired, and hungry. And more grown up than I am at 3 PM when I haven’t eaten.

What a whirlwind! Last Wednesday when we met the surgeon I was stunned by how quickly he wanted the entire thyroid removed. Stupid Cowden’s Syndrome. Makes people quick to pull out whatever seems to be misbehaving. And (SIGH) they are usually right.

So as the week built, and the media started predicting the newest storm coming…. I brushed it away for a while. I thought there was no way it could stand in the way. The surgery was scheduled. She was ready. The throat clearing has reached epic levels.

Faith.

Faith that it was going to be fine. Initially faith that the storm would pass. Faith that we would arrive on time to an early surgery Thursday morning.

Then, as happens so often I was reminded that FAITH, is not about me. It’s not about my terms, or my time, or my way. FAITH is knowing, trusting, believing. that God will provide what we need. Whether it fits my plan or not.

So, as it became evident that there would be no safe way to travel Thursday morning, the phone calls began.

HOPE

So much talk about HOPE this month. Rare Disease Day, and “HOPE – It’s in our genes.” Hope became necessary. The faith and hope working hand in hand, with a few mini meltdowns of worry mixed in. (HEY, I never claimed to be perfect!)

Back and forth to the surgical team, to the social worker, the secretaries. Pleading. Help us. Hotel rooms that were available running several hundred dollars. Offers from loving people to pay the bill. But in the end money wouldn’t have stopped us. We would have paid whatever we needed. Because we had to be here. Right here. Right now.

So finally around 2 O’Clock on Weds. the call came. “We can put you up at the Ronald McDonald House for the night.” The fee – incredibly reasonable. The location- perfect. The reality – it was time to pack us up and be out of the house by 8.

Packing to take Meghan away is an adventure. It’s not the electronics, or the “stuff” but rather the food. Not even a major hospital can safely prepare Gluten, Dairy, Soy free food. So there has to be a cooler. Dad made fried chicken and plantains. I picked up a pound of a Boar’s Head staple. Cookies, granola, ginger ale, and other necessities. Showers for all. And Grandpa picked us up at 8.

We brought our own sheets – because you need to wash theirs before you go, and I doubted we’d have time. I have to admit I was worried. Really worried about what I would find through the doors. But what I found was… love.

I had heard of “The Ronald McDonald House- The house that love built.” But I never gave it any thought.

I have a new charity on my favorite list.

We were welcomed – almost embraced by love and kindness. There was a nonjudgmental compassion the radiated out of every staff member. We were given keys to our rooms, and a tour with the rules of the “house.” We were shown to our room only after Meghan was allowed to choose a few games to play – and keep – from their back room. And, after she was given a backpack – with a special monkey, and a monkey blanket.

And on the return trip after the tour, before we saw our room – she was handed a warm, beautiful, blue and green blanket. Her grateful smile. My heart – full of love in this house.

Our room was on the 11th floor. Immediately I was at ease with the wood floors, foam mattresses, and EVERYTHING wrapped in plastic. And there was the most beautiful view.

And as we each found our way last night into our own level of sleep, there was LOVE. Everywhere in the room.

We checked out gratefully this morning, due to arrive at the hospital for an 11:30 surgery.

View out the window on this "Beautiful Day" — View out the window on this “Beautiful Day”

Waiting for surgery with the new monkey from the bag last night!

By 3:00 when she finally walked through the doors we had had to spend some time reminding ourselves that we were blessed.

A beautiful chaplain met us this morning, and clearly spoke Meghan’s language. She compared God to a loyal dog… always there – forever understanding of our needs.

The doctors took extra time with someone else’s baby this morning. I am glad they have that level of compassion. I am glad they take their time.

Now they need to take their time with mine.

The last status update came 15 minutes ago. They only began around 3:40. Prep took a while. She is stable, but its slow going. What to expect from a Cowden’s Syndrome thyroid filled with 16 or more nodules? Why make it easy.

Thankfully – she has some very special guardian angels on the case today. And the prayers of countless others.

In our family of three its appropriate to remember “These three remain; faith, hope, and love – and the greatest of these is LOVE!”

More to follow as soon as I can…

Hope…

Published on January 29, 2014 by beatingcowdens1 Comment

“Hope” is the thing with feathers

“Hope” is the thing with feathers—
That perches in the soul—
And sings the tune without the words—
And never stops—at all—

And sweetest—in the Gale—is heard—
And sore must be the storm—
That could abash the little Bird
That kept so many warm—

I’ve heard it in the chillest land—
And on the strangest Sea—
Yet, never, in Extremity,
It asked a crumb—of Me.

Emily Dickinson

Lots of talk about HOPE this month, as RARE DISEASE DAY approaches. The phrase “Hope, It’s in our Genes” has become one my family relies on when we struggle. Hope is complicated. Or its simple. I guess it depends on how you look at it. Regardless, its necessary- for all people at all times.

I can not imagine living my own life devoid of HOPE. FAITH and HOPE work hand in hand here, and at our most desperate hours one is always there to shine a light in the darkness. I am convinced HOPE is there, even in the darkest hours. When we look. Here’s what HOPE looks like at our house.

HOPE is the kiss of a dog when the tears just won’t stop.

HOPE is a hug, or an,” I love you.”

HOPE is an EMail or a text, or a phone call at just the right time, from the person you’d never expect.

HOPE is believing that it’s all going to be OK. Somehow – some way.

HOPE is pain relief, even if it’s fleeting.

HOPE is quality Physical Therapy.

HOPE is the friends, (and the people we barely know) who “Care about RARE” because of us.

HOPE is an answered letter from someone you’ve never met, whose willing to help – just because.

HOPE is laughter.

HOPE is medicine that works.

HOPE is butterfly kisses.

HOPE is the internet, and connections to old and new friends.

HOPE is family.

HOPE is knowing you’re not alone – ever.

HOPE is when that special thing you thought was lost forever… shows up out of nowhere.

HOPE is believing that the surgeon will have the right answer.

HOPE is confidence that you are doing the best you can.

HOPE is real.

HOPE is love.

HOPE – It’s in our Genes!

WHAT IS HOPE to you?

Getting out of my own way…

Published on January 23, 2014January 23, 2014 by beatingcowdens1 Comment

I am actively, consciously, deliberately, trying to get out of my own way.

I have hopes, goals, dreams, aspirations. I love my daughter, my husband and God and my family and friends.

I want to be stellar mom, an outstanding wife, and a good friend.

I want to be a Christian woman who leads by example.

I want to shout from the mountaintops about the organic superfood changing lives in my house, and giving us energy and clarity of mind we never thought possible.

I want to teach people about health and wealth and how they can go hand in hand.

But I am stuck.

Right in the middle of my own way.

We had Meghan to the neurologist today. We left Staten Island at 1:45 and traveled the approximately 17 miles to the appointment in Manhattan. It took an hour and a half. I just about worked myself into a migraine on the way.

But, fortunately, the torturous migraines of the fall are a memory. Controlled by a medication I would rather her not take. Today we got a dose increase, and something to help her sleep. It should be noted the ONLY side effect the neurologist would even discuss from the medication was drowsiness. HA! Not here. There’s my Meg… doing it her own way.

This was an easy appointment. We were home by 5:30 although wiped out by the journey – all of us. The follow-up is in a few months, the new script is in hand.

They are asleep.

I am sitting at the computer. Thinking. Researching. Typing. Organizing. Planning. Attacking everything. Accomplishing – not so much.

Today I called to reschedule the thyroid surgical consultation. Suddenly 5 weeks seems like a really long time. The tickle in the throat is troublesome. It turns into coughing when she gets nervous, and is only pacified into a tickle by the boxes of cough drops on my counter. I try to ignore the reality that we both know exists. I try to tell her it’s no big deal, and to casually ask her to show me where it bothers her.

“It’s not sore till I cough. It just feels weird – right here.”

And there on the right side of the thyroid is what has begun to feel like a small stone. I try not to let my imagination get the best of me as I picture it pushing on her windpipe.

“It’s fine,” I tell her. “We’ll just get the doctor to take a quick look.”

She’s not dumb. Not by any means. And that is a good deal of the problem. Gone are the days when I could lie through my teeth and protect her from the evils of Cowden’s Syndrome – lurking behind each corner, hiding under the bed, and in the closet. Now the monster is real. And it gives real life nightmares.

So in 2 weeks, on February 6th we will head to Sloan Kettering to meet the pediatric surgeon. No one can be sure what he will say. And I am not sure there is a statement he will make that will soothe me or make me happy.

And the waiting game continues. One appointment down. Two weeks till the next. Then on the 11th I have 3 and she has one. I still haven’t figured if its better to consolidate or spread them out. They just keep coming. One after another…

“Beatingcowdens” will suck out your energy if you let it.

But I won’t. That’s why I have gotten so involved in this superfood, and this fabulous company called Isagenix. Recently they named their 100th millionaire. A school guidance counselor from NJ with no network marketing experience. We three start every day with our shakes. We use the snacks and the meal bars, and the tea, and tonight they both took the melatonin spray to sleep. We are feeling better and better. So in the time I have at night, I listen to podcasts, I learn all I can. And I try to share with my family and friends that I am finally not that sickly little girl they knew. I try to share with them the health and wellness opportunities, and the vision for financial freedom. I am here. I am ready. If they will listen.

And its a good thing I am a master at multitasking, because there are lesson plans to write – for a subject I love across a LOT of grades. Trying every moment to be the best I can be.

As I sort through the last boxes from Dad’s apartment. And I laugh, and I smile, and I cry. As I make binders of beautiful 8×10 prints I found everywhere. As I sort through the photos on CD and prepare hard drives for my brother and sister. And I chuckle at the bills that come in, and I make contact with the members of his platoon in Vietnam, and his old friends – one at a time. Unearthing buried treasure from a man I loved dearly. Not a saint, but who is? And so much wiser than any of us really gave him credit for.

And I make list after list of the things I need to do. In the house, in life, on the computer… Supplements to order, new pants for my growing girl, laundry, and a haircut, and all sorts of other random yet necessary things.

I think about my friends who I love. The ones I never call, or barely talk to. The ones who I text instead of calling or visiting. I think of how busy our lives are… and for what?

Rare Disease Day is coming. February 28th. Our school is celebrating. Meghan is thrilled. There will be Tshirt sales, and a movie night, and proceeds to the “Global Genes Project.” It gives purpose. Hope. A distraction.

Somewhere in the midst of all this I have to stop and wonder. How do people do it?

Our lives have their own brand of busy – a medical type – which may be different than that of my friends, but it bears similarities. Over run. Overworked. Exhausted. Worried.

How do they get out of their own way? How do they manage to keep the balance of friendships and “play dates” for adults and kids? How do they get the laundry and the grocery shopping done, and still find time to play?

I think I am a pretty organized Mom. But yet – I need to use my time better. I won’t part with my writing. That’s therapy for me.

I’ve minimized the clutter in my house (just don’t look in the closets.) Now its time to minimize the clutter in my head.

Cowden’s Syndrome Awareness

This card was created out of her need to "teach" others about Cowden's Syndrome. — This card was created out of her need to “teach” others about Cowden’s Syndrome.

Rare Disease Day

Doctors, surgery?

Isagenix – health and wealth

Reconnecting with old friends

Making the time to exercise… cause I like it.

FOCUS

Now if you’ll excuse me… I have to find my way out of this maze…

I’ve got work to do!

It’s not malignant… BUT…

Published on January 3, 2014 by beatingcowdens7 Comments

It was an interesting phone call this afternoon.

I knew from the caller ID that it was going to be the hospital with the pathology report. Home on a snow day, relaxing with the family – I took a deep breath. It was the endocrinologist on the other end of the line.

“I have the results of the pathology…”

AND???

“The samples are not malignant, but…”

YAY, and UGH!

And there followed a conversation that lasted several minutes. I tried multiple times to use the word “benign” to refer to the results. Each time I was carefully deflected. When he spoke he never said “benign’ once – only “not malignant.” Synonyms – yet apparently not interchangeable.

Someone less in tune might have missed this conversational nuance. I don’t miss much when it comes to my daughter.

So the doctor recounted how each off the 4 cell biopsies obtained through the Fine Needle Aspiration, showed cells that were “not malignant.” When I asked about the cells, specifically remembering the “precancerous” title given to the cells that had brought us to this hospital to begin with, he told me again the report says they are, “not malignant.”

SO WHAT’S NEXT?

I know I didn’t imagine the deep breath on the doctor’s end of the phone when he began, “Typically, we would follow the case in 6 months with an ultrasound, and I think you should make that appointment.” Then there was a deep breath and a pause. “I also think you should take her to see a surgeon – just for another pair of eyes.”

Now I was thoroughly confused. “Why? Do you think the throat clearing that has been going on could be related to the nodules? What about the Fine Needle Aspiration? How accurate is the test?”

He addressed one question at a time. Almost as if he expected them. He and I were not fast friends, and he often seemed annoyed by the countless questions I ask. It never stopped me, but I couldn’t help but notice he was almost anticipating my questions today. Maybe he was even welcoming then. I flashed back to that visit on December 19th where he was visibly uneasy about the feel of that right thyroid. “The FNA is accurate 90-95% of the time. Usually that is not an issue because thyroid cancer tends to grow very slowly and if we follow every 6 months, we will typically catch anything we need. That being said, in a situation like Meghan’s where there are so many nodules, and there is Cowden’s Syndrome, it sometimes is harder to manage. In regards to the throat clearing – I don’t THINK it’s caused by the nodules, but again I can’t be sure. Why don’t you set up a consultation with the surgeon?”

Deep breath. It’s good news I kept reminding myself. It’s not cancer. (Yet… nagged the little voice that never knows when to shut up.) I reassured him that I would schedule the appointments with him and the surgeon. Of course after I arranged to have the pathology and ultrasound reports Emailed to me so I could agonize over every detail…

I scheduled the appointment for the first week in June. I tried for the first week in July – but he is on vacation that MONTH… Then I sat down to Email Meghan’s hematologist/oncologist the reports and ask her opinion. She concurred with the endocrinologist and approved of his choice of surgeon.

Within 45 minutes my phone rang. The caller ID showed the hospital number again. This time it was the surgeon’s office. They were contacting ME, at the doctor’s request – to set up a consultation for Meghan. Well I have to tell you that didn’t do a whole lot to ease my mind. Obviously it was nagging at the doctor enough that he reached out to be sure I made the appointment. Scheduled. February 25th. I couldn’t get a time because they call the day before with that. So, I explained how much I really NEED to be at work. They made me no promises. The 25th it will be. Regardless of the time.

The snow was so pretty today. So nice to be home as a family, to shovel, to play, to take some pictures, to watch an old movie.

I sat down to type this almost three hours ago, but somehow as Meghan was getting ready for bed she developed severe pain in her back and a ruthless headache. Reminders that even an hour or so in the snow is too much for her body to endure. Frustration. Fear. Two hours at her side, her father and I alternating pressure on the most painful spots. She’s asleep in my bed now. Moaning. The night will be long.

Some time this afternoon I realized again, that this is just how its going to be. We are going to walk out of one fire, while walking around another. We aren’t going to know the hows and whys. We aren’t going to be able to make many plans despite our best efforts. This is life with Cowden’s. This is our life.

And tonight, as I held my husband’s hand, and we each had one hand helping soothe Meghan’s agony, I realized again that through the depth and power of our love for each other – all of us – this works for us. It’s not what I would have chosen, but it’s what we have.

Never in my wildest dreams could I imagine a day without the two of them. Somehow, that has to make us the luckiest family in the world.

And that is my happy thought tonight.

Happy New Year!

Hurry up… and WAIT!

Published on December 31, 2013 by beatingcowdensLeave a comment

Hurry up – and wait. And wait. And wait.

I don’t know many people whose lives are not a bit of a rat race these days. We race to school and work. We race to take our children to the many places they need to be. We race to shop, and cook, and clean, and wash clothes, and we sometimes even race to arrange our schedule so we can have some time off.

In our house we race. Gratefully, we have added something fun in the form of Swim Team this year. There are many weeks there is even time for two practices. So she won’t be an Olympian. But some fun is an improvement.

Because without that Swim Team – it was all medical – all the time.

Since birth really, as Meghan’s medical history really goes back to the beginning, but especially since our diagnosis of Cowden’s Syndrome in September 2011, we have developed a list of doctors all across the city of New York. And they all require regular check ups…

“Skip it…” whispers the voice inside your head. “I don’t have time…” “We won’t make practice…”

But “skipping it” is not a luxury we can afford. Cowden’s Syndrome has robbed us of the luxury of putting it off. It is the clock that is always running. It is the reality of my breast cancer – beaten. It is the “reminder” in my iphone. It is the spreadsheet necessary to sort out pediatric and adult specialists for just about every body part.

And before we even get to the routine screenings, there is the weekly Physical Therapy, necessary to combat the lax joints, and weak core that leave my girl prone to injury as she tries the most fundamental “kid” tasks. Thankfully PT is a joy, and she truly loves to “PLAY” with Dr. Jill, but all that love not withstanding – it’s another day during the week scheduled.

There are hematology, genetics, interventional radiology, infectious disease, rheumatology, dermatolgy, neurology, and endocrinology to name a few. Some are once a year. Most are twice. And that’s all well and good if everything checks out fine. However, the need for testing arises regularly, which leads to MRI/MRA, lab work, repeat appointments….

Last year I tried to get them all done in July. That was pure indescribable hell and it swallowed our whole summer. Now, I schedule them a bit separated, carefully attentive to the time frames suggested as optimal to screen for any of the pesky cancers we are prone to.

And, while the cancer risks peak around 40, there are several cancers that regularly strike Cowden’s patients in and before their teens.

So, we schedule appointments after school, on holidays, in the evenings, and whenever we can fit them in. We often find ourselves racing into an appointment after a long day – only to find ourselves waiting to be seen.

“Hurry up – and wait.”

Meghan is an outstanding “wait-er.” Partially because she’s used to it, and partially because she knows it’s necessary. We know exactly what to pack, whether its homework, or an Ipad, or a book, to keep her occupied. But she would rather be playing. Or swimming. Or resting. Or crafting. Or just being a kid.

We find ourselves facing the same problems many other families face – laboring to fit in time for fun. But it is further complicated by fatigue and a lack of stamina. She can not walk more that about 3/4 mile without wiping out. She will, when time allows, sleep 13-14 hours a night. So we have to always be careful not to push too hard, because the repercussions can be serious. Sometimes I imagine friends think we make it up.

“Hurry up – and wait.”

And we raced into Sloan Kettering Cancer Center on December 19th after school. I whisked Meghan out of her holiday party, braved the traffic and rushed into the office in time for our 3:30 appointment.

But some time before we got out of the car and walked into the building, Meghan told me about the “bump” in her neck. The one she feels every time she goes to put her necklace on. The one that she thinks is making her cough… that persistent tickle in her throat going back… oh… a few weeks.

So at 4:30 when we were called into the office for the routine endocrinology visit, the one the doctor had told em we did NOT need to have an ultrasound before because things were “stable” he almost immediately zeroed in on the spot Meghan mentioned. He asked for a tape measure. His eyes were serious. He spoke of significant growth. He said we needed a biopsy.

“So let’s do it. I am off for 10 days.”

“Well, you know, with the holidays…”

“Let’s hurry up and get it done. I will take whatever you have.”

And on Friday the 20th when my phone rang at work and I got the news that we were going to first need an ultrasound BEFORE the ultrasound guided Fine Needle Aspiration – I just about went through the roof. The doctor explained that the radiologist doing the FNA needed a recent ultrasound. (You mean like the one I had asked for with the December appointment all along?) I explained I would stand for nothing less than scheduling the ultrasound and the FNA that very minute. So we did. Ultrasound December 23rd. FNA under general anesthesia on December 31st.

“Hurry up – and wait.”

Apparently no one got the memo things have been a bit stressful around here this month.

So we did the ultrasound on the 23rd. 30 minutes with the tech. Then 15 minutes for the doctor to review it, and another 20 minutes for the radiology doctor to rescan. Nothing going on on the 23rd of December. No worries.

“Hey, that’s a lot of nodules on a young lady…” says the doctor. ARGH!

So when do we squeeze in something fun? Something she can say she DID on the vacation?

We made it up to see the New Year’s Eve Ball very early on that Saturday morning. Meghan trying out the camera her Grandpa Tom left for her when he passed away earlier this month. Trying to find the time to view her world through a camera lens. We spent about an hour. Then we went home.

Photo credit -Meghan 12/28/13 — Grandpa Tom’s “smile”

There were 2 play dates. Lovely girls. So I guess there was success.

And then today.

Arrive at 6:30 I was told. So we were up by 5, and on the 9th floor by 6:30 – only to find it locked.

“Hurry up – and wait.”

We eventually found our way to the IV room, and then to Interventional Radiology on the 2nd floor. The procedure was at 8:15 and lasted double the time it should have.

We left with discharge instructions and word that we SHOULD have pathology by Friday, but maybe Monday.

I may have a few cocktails myself as midnight approaches. If I stay awake that long. After all its been a long day, week….

And we know Daddy’s got the New Year’s Eve Ball well taken care of.

Disconnected

Published on December 19, 2013December 19, 2013 by beatingcowdens1 Comment

Breathe in… Breathe out… Breathe in…

I looked up at my Christmas Tree this week and was struck with the incredible sense that I would love to take it down. Now.

I know that’s wrong for any number of reasons, but I have always been candid here.

In the 10 days since we have buried my father there has been a whirlwind of papers and errands. There have been things to organize and sort. There have also been “regular” things to do, as I pretend to feel like I am part of the world going on around me.

And as I sat in the chair last night trying to absorb the beauty of the brightly lit tree and the litany of memories spread out across it as the ornaments we have collected through the years, I couldn’t shake how disconnected I feel.

This year the reasons are kind of obvious. I am starting to think its likely to get worse before it gets anywhere close to better.

Then my husband reminded me about last year. He reminded me about Hurricane Sandy, and the fall Grandma took, and the days in ICU. He reminded me about the car accident last November, and the months spent sorting out the paper, aggravation, and pain in my back.

It was right after Christmas last year that we had the “Santa” talk with my girl. My one and only.

So, I guess I knew all along this would be a year I had to look a bit harder for the magic. We looked hard in Disney in August. And we found it.

But, by the time we put the tree up this year my father lay dying in the hospital with less than a week to live. That day our family turkey and Felix’s special gluten free stuffing warmed the house with a soothing aroma. I heard the Christmas tunes. I helped with the ornaments. And I felt like I was in a bad movie.

Meghan had suffered with migraine headaches most of October and November as my father was sick. An MRI on November 20th confirmed the migraine headache diagnosis and the medication – once doubled – finally brought her some relief.

I couldn’t get the cards together this year. I just couldn’t do it. Maybe some time around Valentine’s Day I will feel up to a greeting. I ordered the food for Christmas dinner too. Yep, its better for everyone anyway, as I am a rotten cook. And the family is bringing dessert. I bought gifts for the children. Although even those were mostly purchased online. And so many of the adults are getting gift cards to their favorite stores.

Last weekend Dad’s mom was in the hospital. Today she is back at her home, but she is worn out.

And as I size up the dust that has gathered in every corner of my home I strive to remind myself that Baby Jesus was born in a stable, and slept in a manger. Somehow, as long as we open our hearts to celebrate the real meaning of Christmas, the miracle of the birth of the Baby Jesus, it will all be ok. Somehow.

So tonight as I took Meghan to her 6 month thyroid check up; the appointment where they monitor those pesky precancerous nodules, I was reminded yet again that it is just not ours to control. After the doctor examined her, and her neck, he asked for a tape measure. He measured “significant” growth since June in one of the right side nodules. “No point in wasting time with a sonogram, I need a tissue sample so we will schedule a biopsy.”

My heart skipped a beat.

“Where did you get that necklace Meghan?” asked the nurse.

“My Grandpa Tom gave it to me. He died this month from pancreatic cancer.”

Sometimes silence really is deafening.

“It may take a few days to get it scheduled Mrs. Ortega. You know, with the holidays…”

Yep. I know.

“Probably”

Published on November 5, 2013 by beatingcowdens2 Comments

I like the word “probably” a lot more when it is favorable. Although sometimes I feel like life is engulfed in ‘probably,’ ‘maybe,’ ‘most likely,’ or ‘I’m not sure.’

Today “probably” means it’s most likely migraines causing her agony.

And with some explanation that migraines can level even the strongest adults, she started to feel a bit better.

There was a thorough exam, and a kind, intelligent neurologist. He knew what Cowden’s Syndrome was, complimented my list of doctors, and even called the oncologist to talk about treatment options.

So my girl, whose pain had actually radiated down and into her shoulders was looking finally at an answer.

I understand her cautious suspicion, as things have often not gone according to plan.

However, this diagnosis actually makes sense. And having lived through my share of migraines, it even explains the level of pain.

So he is 90% sure.

Those are good odds.

Except there needs to be an MRI just to be 100% sure.

And MRI, with gadolinium. Again.

Three steps forward. Two steps back.

But once the MRI is done, and clean, and we can all breathe again, then its onward.

The medicine started tonight. It will be every night. Relief is long overdue.

Fingers crossed. Prayers gladly accepted.

Do penguins have knees?

Published on November 4, 2013November 4, 2013 by beatingcowdensLeave a comment

I can credit someone else’s Facebook post for even allowing that random wondering to slip into my head. But it has served as a distraction… so I am grateful.

It’s hard for me when I need to choose my words carefully. I usually just lay it all on the line and that’s how I keep it together. Except when your heart is heavy because of matters that just need to be private, that makes it extra hard. So that is why I haven’t been posting much. But without my writing the voices just stay in my head, and then…

But my heart is full for so many reasons, and some I can share with you. Blessed by my consenting 10 year old, as long as I don’t disclose anything embarrassing – to educate the world about “beatingcowdens.”

The headaches have been around on and off for a while. So long that I don’t actually remember. It sounds awful that I as a mom could say that, but it’s true.

I remember the pediatrician saying to me that I should take her to a neurologist because he kept hearing me mention headaches. I remember being overwhelmed by too many doctors. I remember last year blaming the prescription change on her glasses. I remember blaming chelation. I remember blaming allergies…

But the headache hasn’t quit. It’s been weeks now.

It varies with intensity. We are trying to get her to understand and use a pain scale to get some consistency.

But pain is such a personal thing. It’s just not easy. We can never exactly know the pain of another because every body perceives pain differently.

What I do know is that there has been a headache to some extent for over a month and that’s too long.

What pushed me into action was last Monday night. Homework was finished, and I was ready to bring her to swim practice- the place she loves more than anything. And she told me no.

She said she didn’t feel right. She said she wasn’t strong enough. So I let it go and kept her home. But THAT didn’t feel right to me.

Then there was the day that she was waiting in my classroom for the school day to start and she said, “There it is mom! Feel that pulsing?” As she put my hand on the side of her head I got queasy. We all have pulsing in our heads to some degree, but once you have dealt with a vascular malformation – or a few – the pulsing takes you to a new mind numbing level of anxiety.

And when the teacher gave her a shell and she held it to both ears, and said , “I can’t hear it the same in my left ear…” And then there is the ringing that comes and goes…

So tomorrow we head back to Manhattan to visit a neurologist. A little later than the pediatrician would have liked, but we are going. And with every deep fiber of my soul I hope with all my heart that he tells me my girl has the worst fall allergies in the world. And in a few weeks it will all be just perfect.

That’s the story that will get me through the night.

STUPID CANCER show!

Published on October 21, 2013 by beatingcowdens3 Comments

I am absolutely high on adrenaline right now…

In August the husband of a friend from High School asked me to be on “The Stupid Cancer Show.”

https://www.facebook.com/stupidcancer

I said yes, not quite sure exactly what would be involved, but knowing that it was a rare opportunity to speak to Cowden’s Syndrome awareness.

Tonight was the night.

What an amazing show. I am so glad to be familiar with it now, and you should check it out!

Somehow the words came pouring out. It’s amazing what speaking from the heart can do. I can only hope that someone tonight knows what they didn’t know before.

I find there to be no coincidences in life.

After my segment in the “Survivor Spotlight,” the show focused on toxicity and cancer. Well even though I just listened in to THAT part of the show, I was so in tune to what they were saying.

http://www.blogtalkradio.com/stupidcancershow/2013/10/22/stupid-environment

(My part of the show starts at about 11 minutes, and ends around 30 – I talk too much! But I managed to mention my friends at Life with Cowden’s, PTEN world, and The Global Genes Project!)

Near as I can figure these days, breathing increases your cancer risk. But, taking crappy care of your body, eating junky food, and generally being careless, puts you at a greater risk than if you are careful.

There is nothing we can do, especially those of us with genetic predispositions to cancer, to fully protect us. But we can do what we can to help.

There is no guarantee I won’t get hit by a car, but if I stand in the middle of the street I greatly increase my chances.

People ask why we devote so much of our time, energy and budget into healthy food.

Genetics are not on our side. But we can fill our bodies with healthy, pure, organic superfood.

These days the core of the nutrition in our home comes from Isagenix. It does not claim to prevent, treat or cure any disease, but If you haven’t looked yet – now is a good time.

This company provides quality food, and they make it possible for you to afford it, because you can eat your Isagenix for free.

“You plus two, them plus two.”

Well worth my initial investment. Quality nutrition for my entire family.

We are certainly going to do the best we can at all times.

Our health, no guarantee. But we are going to do the best we can to keep that “STUPID CANCER” away.

I STILL HATE CHEMISTRY!

Published on October 16, 2013 by beatingcowdens3 Comments

I am dating myself I am sure, but the year I was to sit for the Chemistry Regents Exam in NYC, someone swiped the answers. The morning of the test they were published in the NY Post. I remember sitting in my high school cafeteria waiting to take the exam, only to find out it had been cancelled. You know thinking back on that story, I guess I understand now why I have never won the lottery. That was probably one of the “luckiest” thing to happen in my life. I never did have to take that exam.

Except now, 25 years later, I sit poring over a piece of paper full of words I don’t understand. I am brought back to the periodic table, and left to wonder if maybe I should have paid a bit more attention in class.

I have actively picked apart each of these levels since being handed the report on Thursday. I have read the descriptions of where this toxicity could have originated from. I have made the few moves I could understand, and the old aluminum cookware hit the recycle bag, and the new stainless steel – to supplement the few pieces we did have – arrives this week. The old cookie sheets are gone. Parchment paper replaces aluminum foil for cooking. But what about the other ones? What about the ones I can’t understand? Or worse, what about the ones like “gadolinium” that I CAN understand, but I just can’t fix?????

This printout is old now. The new urine sample was picked up Friday morning, and hopefully someone in a lab somewhere is generating lower numbers and shorter bars. But, I won’t know that for a few weeks. So I am left alone with my worries, and my thoughts, and my sick kid.

I suspect if Meghan could tell the world how she feels, this might be the sentiment. She is constantly conflicted with feeling like crap, and being pushed to keep on. She not only plays in pain – she smiles and laughs through it. And no one who sees her outside of this house would typically have any idea of the agony she endures each day. She works hard to hide it all. She has told me, in her very own words, that “no one would like me if I told them how I really felt all the time.” I would like to tell her she’s wrong, but she’s not.

And she is the bravest kid I know.

The sore throat started Friday, hours after the chelation, and exactly the same as last time. On Friday she pushed herself through gym class because she just wanted to be “normal.” By Friday afternoon she was shot – too wiped out to swim. She could barely swallow. By Saturday morning her nuscles ached along with her throat. No swimming Saturday either.

We barely left the house all weekend, except for a quick strep test Sunday that was negative.

The friends she wanted to invite over – postponed.

This was no coincidence. This was twice in a row she was knocked on her *ss after chelation. This was her immune system saying,” WHAT THE HECK WAS THAT?” To the toxic storm unleashed by the chelating agents. We have kept her well hydrated in hopes much could be excreted… but we will have to wait and see.

Early to bed Friday, Saturday, Sunday, Monday, Tuesday, and again tonight.

SHE HATES going to bed early – but has gone willingly.

She went home from school early today. No fever, but a clammy sweat. She just needs rest, and water, and rest.

The headache is ruthless. Even as some of the cold like symptoms start to subside, the headache does not want to quit. A week now. It leaves such a pit in my stomach I don’t want her out of my sight. I hate headaches. I especially hate wondering if the renegade toxins likely causing them are doing any other damage.

The doctor who last month said there was no way her symptoms were connected to the chelation recanted through an email today. He is now keeping tabs, giving me tips to keep her comfortable, keeping my resolve strong that this is necessary, and working on downward adjusting her dose for next time. More trips, more treatments… hopefully less misery.

I just can’t shake the image of a snow globe, and as we try to get the metals out we stir it all up. Some escapes, but the rest causes misery as it finds hiding spots again.

An in between it all life presses on. Laundry gets done. Bills get paid. Lessons get planned. Cars get exchanged. Files are kept. Clothes for the growing girl, are ordered. Floors get vacuumed, and washed, and vacuumed again. Groceries are purchased. Lists are made, and lost and remade. Tabs are kept on family and friends, and their health, and their struggles.

These are the every day tasks that keep me sane. On autopilot.

Dinners are missed. Meetings go unattended, Places I want to go – but, I just can’t right now.

You see I am having a battle with the Periodic Table of Elements, and I need to study. I am the front line.

So, I take my IONIX, and my t+chai, and I am thankful for energy and stamina to endure.

Maybe missing that regents wasn’t so “lucky” after all. So as I study some these next few weeks – please know we haven’t forgotten you. Our prayer list is long. We don’t want you to leave us out, or not to call. Don’t feel badly about overburdening us. We NEED to be in your lives. We WANT to be in your lives.

We are in touch enough to know that “Everybody has SOMETHING!”