cancer – Page 8 – beatingcowdens

“I hope you never lose your sense of wonder…”

Published on January 21, 2013 by beatingcowdens5 Comments

Meghan left tonight for the Father Daughter Dance with her Dad. I am always so grateful for him, but especially on nights like tonight when he can show her the time of her life. She needs that time – to be happy and carefree. She needs time to just be a kid.

I looked back on some old photos from dances in years past. I know it sounds cliche, but I can not believe where the time has gone. It stung especially I think this weekend, as my girl lost her last baby tooth, and came to the realization that Santa, and the tooth fairy, and all that magical mystery of childhood isn’t “real” in the way she had thought.

I think she took it better than me.

I cried a lot this weekend.

I think I am angry too if I am honest. I think I am not just sad, but angry.

And that’s ok. I have to let myself feel even the ugly emotions when they are in there.

I am angry about Cowden’s Syndrome. I am angry about the cloud it carries, even on the sunny days. We always seem to need to pack an umbrella in some game of anticipation – not designed to be won, just played. Forever.

I have said before, and I will say again – if it was just me…

But it’s not. It’s her too. That is reality, and it really does torture me sometimes.

All parents feel pangs of sadness as their children grow. And, Meghan being my one and only, I am sure the pangs sting extra hard. But, there is more than that. We deal with something most parents don’t.

As her age increases the looming cancer threats that Cowden’s carries with it increase as well. At her age, the biggest threat is thyroid cancer, and we are battling the beast head on. We have dealt with, and continue to fight with the AVM in her knee, and we have gotten past the lipoma in her back. All thanks to Cowden’s Syndrome.

But, as she grows and matures, so does her body, and with it her wisdom.

She looks quizzically at my silicone breasts and her own developing ones. She wonders. Sometimes to herself. Sometimes aloud. When will it be my turn?

She asks if she will be able to have children, or if she will need to have her uterus out first. She asks that if she does have children… do they have to have a PTEN mutation? Do they have to have Cowden’s Syndrome?

Too many questions to flood the mind of my 4 foot 11 9 year old. Too many questions for the string bean with the developing body. Too many worries for my baby girl.

I am angry. But thankfully she is not. She takes each day as it comes. She accepts the eventuality that one day the biopsy will not be negative.

I sheltered her for a long time, but they made me lay it on the line this year. So we had the “cancer” talk in the waiting room of Memorial Sloan Kettering last month. I told her there was no guarantee she would get cancer. So she spun the question and asked me how many people with Cowden’s I interact with have NOT had cancer. The number is small.

So we talked about the benefit we have that others don’t. We talked about how constant screening means we will beat whatever beast tried to get at us. We will be vigilant.

We will win.

I get angry sometimes. She just finds other ways to make me smile. She keeps my heart soft. She is my rock. Wise beyond her years, and still a kid at heart.

I hope you and Daddy dance your hearts out tonight!

“The Six Month Leash”

Published on January 13, 2013 by beatingcowdens6 Comments

The new normal… that is normal AFTER the Cowden’s Syndrome diagnosis, revolves around living life 6 months at a time.

On Wednesday I got word that I can keep my spleen for at least 6 more months.

On Friday, we got the anxiously awaited news that Meghan‘s thyroid biopsy was benign. We return for another scan in 6 months.

There is 6 months in between visits to the vascular surgeon. 6 months in between the endocrine surgeon, the dermatologist, the rheumatologist, and the general surgeon too. There are more, so many more, but you get the idea.

See you in 6 months. So we can do it all again.

I am trying to slow down. Instead of waiting for the next appointment, I am trying to enjoy today. I am trying to silence the giant stopwatch in the back of my head, ticking time away until the next appointment.

Truth is if I don’t pull the battery out of that thing, I may lose my mind!

It’s not all neat and clean, this whole Cowden’s mess. Although when I stop to think about it, it is readily apparent that life is far from neat and clean.

Reality is that life is complicated.

Life carries with it no guarantees.

Life is what you make of it.

The struggle for everyone is different. Mine is a struggle with my mind.

Beating Cowden’s is not like training for a sprint. Nope. We are training for a hilly marathon in the snow. We have to build the endurance – and find a way to enjoy the training. Even the really painful ones.

See, if it was just me suffering – it would be easier. But it’s not. And truth be told, having my kid ask me every night last week if I found out yet “Do I have cancer, Mom?” Well, that was downright exhausting, I am NOT looking forward to doing it again, in 6 months, or ever. But, reality tells me there will be more biopsies on the horizon.

So we spent the weekend visiting with some family, dusting off a few things that hadn’t been tended to, finally opening some Emails, and important documents about the new car (a few weeks late) and just trying to readjust… to down shift from acute worry into chronic worry.

Well, that isn’t actually the goal. The goal is for me to shelf the worry altogether… but baby steps please.

Ironic that I am currently the thinnest I have ever been, and in the worst shape of my life – simultaneously. I fell on Saturday. Over the dog. She was on the sheets on the basement floor that were waiting to be washed. I ended up on the floor, my knee and wrist banged up, and my back in spasms reminiscent of the car accident.

My calendar tells me we have about 5 weeks until the next major doctor cycle. Good thing. I need a chiropractor to help me move. and I need a few days without other appointments in order to get there.

The 6 month thing… well that’s not just twice a year. That would be neat and clean. No, the 6 month thing seems to just be ongoing. We try to make the breaks as long as possible. You know, so in between we can deal with the new adventures life tosses our way.

I am going to focus, and keep trying to get this one day at a time thing down. I am going to stop and look around more. I am going to try to enjoy the ride. It won’t be easy. But I am on it. I promise.

I need a new pair of sneakers for this marathon training.

Who knows, I might just get back in shape yet!

Superheroes…

Published on January 4, 2013August 25, 2015 by beatingcowdens4 Comments

I saw superheroes today. Not the kind that normally come to mind.

The 9th floor of Memorial Sloan Kettering Cancer Center was absolutely crawling with them.

None of them had capes. And they weren’t any funny colors.

None of them could fly, and yet I am sure that’s what they were.

I saw young bald superheroes with smiles that could light any room.

I saw older, more mature superheroes, heroically managing their IV poles, after teaching a younger one not to cry.

I saw parent superheroes, who although their capes were invisible to the naked eye, possessed nerves of steel, and the ability to make their young one laugh even as they themselves were inches from despair.

I had a lot of time to watch them. We had a long wait this morning. And even as I kept Meghan distracted, my eyes never left them.

They navigated the floor like it was home, handled IV poles and ports and masks, like they were additional appendages.

These people- the young ones and their parents, are made from a stock stronger than most of us. They endure the unimaginable, day after day. Some endure it for years on end. And they press on – because that is what you do.

My beautiful cousin Meghan was one of those superheroes,

Sometimes it ends well, and some times it doesn’t. But while you are there there is no time to think, or to wonder. You must just press on.

That is the story that the 9th floor of MSKCC told me this morning, as we waited for preadmission testing.

Meghan had a 9 AM appointment and between blood work, and our meeting with the nurse, we had at least an hour to wait, and watch, and marvel, and wonder, and worry.

The biopsy is Tuesday. The results will be in by Thursday so they say.

Then, we can make a plan. They tell me they can get the thyroid removed in a few days if the biopsy is positive.

If it’s not cancer… get us home. And, if it is – GET IT OUT OF MY LITTLE GIRL!

She will have nothing to eat or drink after midnight Monday. She will be tired, and cranky, and hungry when we arrive on Tuesday. But she will get anesthesia like she asked, and the procedure will be much more humane.

Then, we will wait.

Patience and Wisdom

Published on January 3, 2013January 4, 2013 by beatingcowdens2 Comments

I am patient – sometimes.

I am also wise – sometimes.

The trick really might be meshing the two.

That’s where I sometimes have some trouble.

I got a call this morning from Dr. S. The biopsy is scheduled for Tuesday at 12:45. Pleased to have it scheduled, quick math told me it would still be a week before we had a definitive answer. But at least I had the wisdom to shut my mouth and be grateful to have it scheduled.

My next question was about anesthesia. Had they decided to give it? In FNA (Fine Needle Aspiration) thyroid biopsies, anything more than a numbing lotion is uncommon. But Meghan had such TRAUMA from her FNA at another hospital in November of 2011. We had to push.

I had just told this child she could have cancer. I just told her she was likely looking at another surgery. She was unaffected. “I will have whatever surgery I need to. Just make sure I don’t have to be awake when they put those needles in my neck!”

This is the burn the cold spray that was supposed to numb her left on her neck in Nov. 2011.

All day I carry my phone everywhere. I literally put it down for 3 minutes and missed the call about the anesthesia. So the voicemail said, “We need Meghan at the hospital at 9AM tomorrow (Friday) to clear her for anesthesia.”

“When? What type? Why? I can get you a cardiologist report from December. I can be to my pediatrician in 30 minutes, and you just took blood on the 27th.”

“No, we have to see her here at 9Am.”

Patience and Wisdom.

I had pleaded for the anesthesia on her behalf. Now I would pay the price. Very careful not to take days off after my attendance debacle last year – I guess I will be at Sloan tomorrow, ensuring the anesthesia my kid asked for is in place. She doesn’t ask for much.
Working hard on gratitude, I am relieved at least things are moving. Not on my schedule, but progress nonetheless.

So then my oncologists office called. They want me to see the surgeon. The surgeon we first talked about a month ago. The surgeon who had little more information than he had on December 7th after my MRI. The surgeon who insisted he needed the sonogram, but whose system at the hospital cannot upload it. No one thought to send me for another abdominal sono at their hospital – even though I asked. They would like me to see this surgeon at 10:30 Weds. They will have to have patience now. I have a kid to take care of first. If they were in such a rush I could have been healed by now.

So I am waiting still to hear from my car insurance carrier who somewhere in the midst of all this chaos decided I was totally responsible for the accident where I suffered a DIRECT HIT from a car who took no action to avoid me. Waiting to hear exactly who that letter of appeal gets addressed to.

All of these things that keep happening, keep me from seeing my Grandparents as often as I would like to. My heart weighs heavy. Time and stress are hard to manage.

Patience, I am convinced – is more than a virtue. It is down right necessary, and almost debilitating with exhaustion.

Patience for me is hearing, “It is likely your child has cancer,” and then WAITING to take care of it.

I get that in the scheme of things thyroid cancer grows slowly, and 2 weeks won’t make or break things. But this is my little girl we are talking about. May God bless me with the patience to get through the weekend.

And give me WISDOM with that PATIENCE too please?

What a Day!

Published on December 27, 2012December 27, 2012 by beatingcowdens2 Comments

I am getting a bit fatigued by all the positive stories I tell myself. All the ones where everything works out just fine, and we get a bit of a break from doctors and surgery and chaos and worry.

I think I am getting tired of them, because I am starting to doubt if they are true.

The waiting room in the pediatrics department.

We began the day at radiology at MSKCC in NYC. The thyroid sonogram took longer than it should have. I knew that. I also knew when the doctor of radiology asked to speak to me alone that the news wasn’t great.

The nodule they were concerned about in June still has them worried. Despite there being MANY other thyroid nodules, this is the one that is of concern. I have every reason to believe it is the same nodule that caused concern when we had the horrendous biopsy at the other hospital a year ago. The doctor told me right there it had to be biopsied. She didn’t even wait for us to see Dr. S. (See the appointments are set up so you go to radiology an hour and a half before you go to the doctor. Then the doctor usually reports on the findings.) I knew this was out of order, and it spoke to the seriousness of it all.

I explained that Meghan‘s biopsy last November was the most traumatizing experience of our medical lives together. We have been through a lot, but watching that radiologist YELL at her to be quiet, and then BURN her neck with the numbing spray… well it was too much for any of us. She will need to be sedated I said.

We went upstairs for our appointment with Dr. S. Before that Meghan met with one of the Child Life Specialists, and gave over 2 shopping bags full of toys. The woman was in awe, and I was just so proud.

We checked in for our visit with Dr. S. and we waited. While we waited I spoke. Candidly. I had to be the one to tell her they were looking for cancer. I had to tell her they were going to biopsy again. I had to tell her I was TRYING to get her sedation, but I couldn’t promise. She swallowed. She stared at me. She took it all in. Then she reminded me I should try REALLY hard for sedation with the biopsy.

We saw Dr. S. No new information, except that she grew a few inches and lost a few pounds since June. HE said she is OK right now, but he doesn’t want to see her lose any more. I chuckled at the school notices I always get home calling her obese. Dr. S. reexplained what I had heard in radiology. He reassured us that even if the nodule is malignant it is small, and not likely to need more than a thyroid removal. Some comfort… but not a ton, for my girl still growing. We were advised to take the first available biopsy appointment. And we will. I should know in a day or so when that will be.

Once we checked out it was on to the American Girl Store. WHAT A CROWD! Not being crowd people, either of us, we navigated the store and Meghan picked up some essentials – like a backpack and an allergy safe lunch for her new doll. The doll got her ears pierced, and we were out the door.

We headed up to see Daddy at work. We got a close look at the New Year’s Eve ball, and the view never gets old, no matter how many times we see it. Meghan LOVES seeing Daddy at work!

Family shot in front of the New Year's Eve Ball. — Family shot in front of the New Year’s Eve Ball.

45 minuted to get the car out of a midtown lot. We arrived home to 2 dogs that just weren’t able to wait until we got home. Upstairs floor cleaned. Two glasses of wine gone. Some type of leftovers for dinner. And tomorrow we get to wait by the phone again.

Good thing we are always ready for a fight!

Maybe in January the Ortegas should resolve to lose a thyroid and a spleen? One each? Really???

Tonight Cowden’s Syndrome, I will thank you for my gray hair, loss of appetite and generalized anxiety. Cut us a break… please?

Blessed- with my fake boobs

Published on December 9, 2012 by beatingcowdensLeave a comment

No, seriously – I mean it.

Yes, there is the occasional moment where I think the new girls feel a bit awkward, or unnatural. There is the occasional moment when I look in the mirror and try to remember what the old girls looked like, and what it was to have nipples instead of scars.

Then I get over it.

And I think about how comfortable and natural it was last night, as I held my exhausted daughter and she rested her head on this size A silicone that sits where my old boob was. She didn’t even hesitate. She didn’t mention it being weird or unnatural. She didn’t notice.

And my husband, who means it when he says over and over – “I am just so glad you are here.” And, I believe him.

I am blessed to have had great surgeons, a superb support system, and the “push” to say goodbye when it was time.

A year ago I still had more body parts. If I had left them all alone I could be dead now. But I am not. And the cancer is gone.

This Cowden’s Syndrome can really suck sometimes.

Other times I feel very blessed.

Plus – mine will stay perky longer than yours! 😉

Four hours in the gas line

Published on November 3, 2012November 4, 2012 by beatingcowdens4 Comments

I left my house at 8:25 this morning. Admittedly it was later than I had wanted, but I struggle to clear my head in the mornings these days.

I drove for a bit, to all the local gas stations. I even spent a few minutes on line at one. Then I had my friend Siri call to make sure they had gas. Nope. Off that line too.

I drove past a station with a line that seemed manageable. I asked a woman if they had gas. She cried. She said, ” I have been here since midnight waiting. The delivery just hasn’t come.”

I finally ended up at Costco. I knew they had gas. If you are not from Staten Island, it will mean nothing to you when I say that the line began at Richmond Avenue by Best Buy, wrapped around Forest hill Road, onto Richmond Avenue, and the BACK into the Costco lot. I estimated 4 hours when I got on. It was 9:42

Four hours in the gas line is a LONG time. I had more time alone with my thoughts than I like. Thankfully, I had the iPhone to keep me a bit busy. But in between games of scrabble, there was way too much time to think.

It was flat out unnerving, almost surreal to be on a gas line of this magnitude. No matter how I tried, I couldn’t wrap my head around it. I just knew I needed a full tank to get me through the week, so I waited.

I thought about the hurricane. Hurrican Sandy. My mind wandered to Hurricane Katrina, and the news coverage I watched I remember feeling like it was so far away. No more.

The recovery efforts taking place miles from my home, in areas I have frequented my whole life. I thought about their homes, and then I thought about the people- returning to find their homes uninhabitable. And those who could get in, well – they had the job of a lifetime ahead of them.

I thought about the mother, whose 2 babies were ripped from her arms in the rising waters. The babies, safe in God’s hands. The mother – tormented for all of her days. I prayed one of the many prayers I pray for her each day.

I thought about friends from work. Their losses. One with a new baby on the way. Waiting to have the FEET of water that entered their home addressed. Others who suffered damage to their own homes, and the ones whose parents or relatives homes were destroyed.

I thought of the trees that make my neighborhood so spectacular – ripped from their roots.

It was a really long line. So I had time to reflect on the courage, strength and resiliency I have seen. I thought about the downed trees, and the friends STILL without power of heat.

I though about the looters, the liars, and those taking advantage of the tragedy. And I truly hope God has a place all picked out for them.

I thought about my little girl, and all she has gone through, and how she continues to make me so proud. Today she put some of her favorite stuffed animals in a bag, “For the kids who lost everything.’

And of course, all thoughts always return to Grandma. 92 years old – most of it spent right here on Staten Island. She and Pop married in 1945, and moved into their current home in 1956.

Grandma came home last night. Late. So there was confusion as to exactly where she was, but we hung together as a family and worked out some of the kinks last night. I was anxious to see her, and Pop.

I thought about this year. The magnitude of so many things taking place in such a seemingly short period of time, and I remember why I am so tired. The diagnosis of Cowden’s Syndrome – so permanent and life changing, and even on top of that, this year has seen surgeries, cancer, loss of loved ones, more cancer scares, natural disaster… and I am only getting started.

I will shop for Christmas, but mostly I want Christmas to come, because its time to celebrate the birth of the Baby Jesus. We need something to celebrate.

1:35 (3 hours and 53 minutes) Hungry and tired, I pulled up to the pump. I don’t know – or care how much the gas cost. I only know my tank is full – at least for now.

Home for a quick shower, then right to Grandma.

Family. It always mattered a lot. It matters now more than ever.

“More Birthdays”

Published on October 21, 2012 by beatingcowdens5 Comments

I get it. Sometimes it takes a bit – but I get it now.

I mean, I understood in theory what the American Cancer Society meant when they came out with this slogan, but today it really hit me.

Today was it – the “take two” for my little girl who was shut out of the Susan G. Komen Race for the Cure in September because of a fever. This was her chance to walk with Mom and Grandma. She even got the added bonus of having Dad with us this morning.

Living where we do, an event like this seems to bring out just about everyone, and it was hard to take two steps without bumping into someone we knew. It was also almost impossible to look anywhere and NOT see one of those pink survivor sashes. I saw them on women of ALL ages – from the frighteningly young, to the admirably old, and it got me thinking.

More birthdays…

Before my mom had her cancer, she could have sometimes been caught cringing at the sound of “50.” After a double mastectomy, 6 months of chemo, and in the middle of 5 years of tamoxifen – she embraced 50 with a smile, and slid gracefully past 60. “Beats the alternative,” she often says.

More birthdays…

We waited with a group from Meghan’s school for a while, and it was hard not to read some of the “team” T-shirts. A large group gathered right next to us was commemorating a young lady who apparently died of breast cancer in 1994. Her birthdate was listed as 1971. What her family probably would have done for more birthdays. I can’t even imagine…

More birthdays…

As I stood there, I thought about the “previvors” I have “met” on the internet and from this blog. They have courage of a type no other can quite get. The courage to undergo a prophylactic bilateral mastectomy is not to be understated. I am impressed at the maturity of the very young, and the wisdom of those closer to my own age. But, I was struck, somewhere in between the quick math that left me knowing the young lady on the T-shirt had been 23 when she died of breast cancer in 1994, and that my own girl will be 23 in 14 years. Suddenly it didn’t seem that long, and I was afraid.

More birthdays…

My little girl will grow to be 95 I reassured myself. With the power and knowledge we have – she will know lots more birthdays. But the reality that my mom had cancer at 48, and I had it at 38, and the current screening recommendations are to screen 10 years before your closest relative had the disease, well – it made it hard to breathe for a few minutes. Then my husband reminded me that she has ALREADY been screened – twice. We will be vigilant.

More birthdays…

And then I thought about my own. I will turn 39 next month. That is the age some people like to stay at forever. NOT ME! I want MORE BIRTHDAYS!

Meghan1990 — My beautiful cousin Meghan died of Leukemia in 1991, on my 18th birthday.

More birthdays….

My cousin Meghan was a brave soul. She was diagnosed with Leukemia when she was 2. She fought for 4 years before the disease took her from us. She got her wings the day I turned 18, and every birthday since then has been bittersweet. We had a connection that I still find it difficult to describe. My love for her was deep enough, that I needed to name my daughter for our “Angel Meghan.” Meghan did not have enough birthdays. This may be the year that I look at mine a little differently. Maybe its time to use my birthday as a time to celebrate BOTH of our lives.

More birthdays…

We left the walk a little early this morning. We had to head out to Long Island. My nephew Luke was celebrating his 9th birthday today. And as the kids played, and the candles got blown out on the cake, I found myself really sure that I understood. As my sister said just an hour or so ago… It’s not about the gifts. It’s about the people you celebrate with. We celebrated Luke’s birthday with 3 GREAT grandparents, and 4 of his grandparents. It’s easy to fight for more birthdays when you are this blessed.

I get it…

It’s not all about us

Published on October 15, 2012October 15, 2012 by beatingcowdens3 Comments

And this is how the day started. With thoughts of Friday. Never a good way to start the week. I am not one to try to wish my life away, but is it so wrong if I prefer days with my family over anything else in the world?

But, we got it together and got out of the house on time.

Waiting for Meghan to get on the bus, a car doing about 65 speeds down our street. As I refrain from the words I want to yell, I quickly say a prayer to myself – that his stupidity and selfishness doesn’t bring harm to anyone else. I am always appalled – and I don’t care how late you are – by the callous disregard for human life it takes to speed past a school bus. UGH!

Pretty much that sums up how the day continued. There is a sense of urgency in everyone it seems – except about what really matters.

Now I don’t claim to have it all together all the time. And I don’t claim to be free of frustration. Nor do I deny that the ,”Why Me?” bug does bite us all here sometimes.

But, I am still amazed by people who are so narrow-minded that they can’t see the world from someone else’s point of view. I am still deeply troubled by people who won’t take a minute to try to put themself in someone else’s shoes. And I am horrified by those so self – absorbed that they speed past school buses, and generally have little regard for human life.

Maybe that’s it. Maybe I feel like too many people don’t realize how precious life is.

I don’t mean it as a morbid thought – but it really is true. I look at my grandparents, still married – 67 years later at 92 and 93, and they always kiss each other goodbye when they go out. I would hope they will be with us forever, but reality is what reality is, and they take a moment to express their love – often. So many people could learn life lessons from my grandparents. They are role models to be emulated in so many ways.

_DSC0072 — Ist Holy Communion 2011, with GiGi and Pop

It shouldn’t take a rare disease. Cowden’s Syndrome or any other are not prerequisites for compassion. You shouldn’t need to have cancer, or multiple surgeries, or scary benign tumors, or to live in fear of any of the above, before you realize the value of life.

We are in a waiting period here. No major new doctor news. The headaches Meghan was suffering with have subsided, but I still need to get a neurology consult together for her. The joint pain is returning, slowly, one spot at a time. It is manageable still, but the requests for supplemental pain medicine are starting to take place at least 3 times a week. Hoping that the 100mg of Celebrex will be enough to keep her comfortable, maybe until they find the reason for her pain. We go to the eye doctor in 2 weeks. The cardiologist is the beginning of December. He will hopefully tell us that the one too many prescriptions required to keep my little love functional are not harming her heart. Then – on the 27th of December – its on to the endocrinologist to check those thyroid nodules. That same week we will sneak in an MRI of my spleen (which, I am still KEEPING btw..) But, for now we are in a holding pattern and it is a good place to be.

Of course, being in a holding pattern gives my girl time to think. While we wait word on the necklace from the Global Genes Project,

she is already planning our next fund-raising adventure. I am currently on the hunt for denim ribbon so she can outfiit her school in denim ribbons for “Rare Disease Day,” February 28th. And, with a few whispers in her ear from a special third grade teacher, she has begun to ask if we can “pull off a 5k run” for the Global Genes Project.

So, I put a few feelers out. We will keep you posted.

I will be practicing looking at the world through the bright eyes of my child. She sees a lull in doctors as an opportunity to spend time helping others. There has to be a bunch of lessons there.

Take a minute to breathe. Time passes so quickly. Hug a loved one. Look at the world through someone else’s eyes.

I have always known these things on some level – but Cowden’s Syndrome has brought them to the forefront of who I am.

Cowden’s Syndrome took…

Published on October 3, 2012October 3, 2012 by beatingcowdensLeave a comment

Well, it took my thyroid, or at least any functioning part, long before I knew why.

It took my boobs in the prophylactic mastectomy that wasn’t so much prophylactic.

Cowden’s Syndrome took my uterus. But I didn’t need it anyway.

It took my ovaries, but it gave me hot flashes in return. Fair trade?

Cowden’s Syndrome took my checkbook, and used it for copays, and parking lots.

It took my calendar – and filled it with all sorts of places I didn’t want to be.

Cowden’s Syndrome took away my peace of mind, and filled it with worry. (OK, MORE worry…)

It took my appetite. If you don’t count Cheerios, ice cream, and salad.

It took away all my comfortable clothes, and has forced me to replace them in smaller sizes that appropriately cover my fake boobs, without losing track of them in shirts that are too large.

BUT,

it gave me the means and the motivation for education and early detection.

It gave me the motivation to step forward and say, “I don’t need THESE any more.”

Because I have Cowden’s Syndrome I will not suffer at the hands of breast or uterine cancer, and I will do my damndest to make sure my little girl doesn’t either.

Cowden’s Syndrome gave me the courage to fire clueless doctors, and educate the ones who care.

I encountered an acquaintance with breast cancer today. She had on a beautiful wig, and is in the middle of chemotherapy. I felt guilty as she asked me how I was feeling. She knew of my ordeal last spring. Survivor’s guilt I think. It broke my heart to see her hurting, even though I feel she will be well again.

Cowden’s Syndrome SUCKS, in so many ways. But it is part of us now, and like anything that becomes part of you, I believe you have to yank the good out of it.

Cowden’s Syndrome has taken a lot from me, from us in this house. But the knowledge we have gained will give us second chances that some others may never have.

Cowden’s Syndrome took from my body – but in many ways it gave to my soul.

Perspective.