Magnetic resonance imaging – Page 3

Give Thanks…

Published on November 19, 2013November 20, 2013 by beatingcowdens2 Comments

I like fall. I prefer the optimism and new beginnings that come with spring, but I do love fall. I like the sweatshirt jacket weather, and the pumpkins and apples, and the beautiful fall leaves. I like basking in the mystery and wonder of the beautiful colors as they fall through the branches to the ground, and blow through the air with the brisk wind. But, this year I almost missed it.

I sat on the steps Saturday as my husband frantically gathered leaves into bags so they could stop blowing all over our neighbors lawns. And, in our haste I almost didn’t notice, or even take a minute to appreciate the beauty of what was before us.

A testimony on life, and a sad one.

We, like so many others, are busy. We are painfully busy at points. There is school, and work, and homework. There are Physical Therapy appointments, and swim practices. There are lessons to plan. There is a house to maintain, laundry to do, dogs to clean, floors to wash, and marathon grocery shopping every few weeks to keep my allergy girl well-fed. There is mail to sort – regular junk to be shredded, bills to pay now and bills to pay later. And that’s just here.

There are family members grossly under-visited. There are people we love so much that live right close to us – who we never see. There are friends short distances away we haven’t seen in years.

And yet, usually we find a few minutes in the fall. A few minutes to toss some leaves around. A few minutes to giggle. So many thoughts flooded my mind as the last of the leaves hit the bag for this week. One more clean up and the trees will be bare for winter. And I looked up at that bright red tree above my doorway and took a minute to give thanks.

I needed to give thanks for the tree, above the new roof on the place we call our home. I needed to give thanks for my husband and the family and friends that helped it happen 13 years ago.

The fall leaves, like so many things that happen each year, are a beautiful reminder to give thanks – for beauty, for love, for hugs, for smiles…

Meghan got new glasses this week. She got her first pair in 2009, and her eyes have worsened steadily. As we picked them up, and she said, “WOW,” and “THANKS!” all at the same time – I was reminded of the little girl, who is now a young lady. I am struck by the genuine gratitude as her sight is restored. I am thankful for my vision, and the doctors who are able to help her have clear vision.

“Oh how the years go by…”

I have a friend or two who have given thanks every day this month, and I enjoy reading their thoughts and thankfulness each day.

For me I am thankful – but it’s more like a flow chart. One thing, one blessing, one bizarre set of circumstances leads to me being reminded of how many reasons I have to be thankful.

Tomorrow we go for that brain MRI. The one that will confirm that the suffering endured these last few months by my 10 year old who has seen so much, is “probably” migraines. Brain MRIs really suck. The only part to really be thankful for there is the part when they tell you they didn’t find anything.

These have been some difficult weeks. My heart is heavy, and worn. But I am thankful:

For my daughter, and her unfailing determined spirit.
For my husband, and his loving sense of humor, and his unending patience.
For my parents and grandparents, and the blessings of having them.
For my siblings, as we grow and experience life at different stages and paces.
For nephews of all ages and stages.
For my cousins and aunts and uncles all over the country – and for Facebook for helping me connect with so many.
For the friends who refuse to give up on me, even as I am not available – again. I take solace in knowing they will be there when I am.
For those I love who are sick in mind, body and spirit. Their strength inspires me.
For the doctors who care. Whether they get it right or wrong, my heart is open wide for the ones who care.
For Meghan’s teachers – past and present – school and church, and their ability to instill a love of learning.
For Internet friends – who support when other’s can’t.
For dogs, and their unending loyalty.
For two secure jobs in our home.
For giggling, and tickling and fake hand-made flowers.
For those of you who take the time to follow our journey.

I turned 40 last week and it wasn’t so bad. I am thinner and stronger, and more determined than I was in high school – albeit a lot more gray.

I guess that makes me thankful for hair dye.
And for boobs that don’t sag, and no need for a mammogram.
For size “small” – cause who knew people wear that?
For the Isagenix that taught me to eat nutrient rich food.
For the prayers of friends, and the strength and stamina to endure.

MRI tomorrow. Results to follow. Then, we will give thanks even for the torture of migraines, with the knowledge it beats the alternatives.

MOSTLY I AM THANKFUL FOR HOPE, as the Global Genes Project says – “It’s in our genes!”

Give Thanks!

“Probably”

Published on November 5, 2013 by beatingcowdens2 Comments

I like the word “probably” a lot more when it is favorable. Although sometimes I feel like life is engulfed in ‘probably,’ ‘maybe,’ ‘most likely,’ or ‘I’m not sure.’

Today “probably” means it’s most likely migraines causing her agony.

And with some explanation that migraines can level even the strongest adults, she started to feel a bit better.

There was a thorough exam, and a kind, intelligent neurologist. He knew what Cowden’s Syndrome was, complimented my list of doctors, and even called the oncologist to talk about treatment options.

So my girl, whose pain had actually radiated down and into her shoulders was looking finally at an answer.

I understand her cautious suspicion, as things have often not gone according to plan.

However, this diagnosis actually makes sense. And having lived through my share of migraines, it even explains the level of pain.

So he is 90% sure.

Those are good odds.

Except there needs to be an MRI just to be 100% sure.

And MRI, with gadolinium. Again.

Three steps forward. Two steps back.

But once the MRI is done, and clean, and we can all breathe again, then its onward.

The medicine started tonight. It will be every night. Relief is long overdue.

Fingers crossed. Prayers gladly accepted.

Future Doctor, Meghan

Published on August 20, 2013 by beatingcowdens10 Comments

If they would just listen to Meghan.

I mean really listen, and stop dismissing her.

Since before she could talk we have been working to help this kid become more aware of her body. She can troubleshoot what works for her. She can tell me what foods and medicines help her or hurt her. Every day she becomes more keenly in tune with herself. Its necessary. That is how we keep her healthy.

My heart always gets heavy for my friends whose children, despite everyone’s best efforts can not articulate their needs, pains, desires, or emotions. Those are the situations where doctors might miss something- even if they are trying. Those poor children might suffer needlessly if no one can determine the source of their discomfort.

But not Meghan. If you will listen. She will tell you. If you pay attention. You will understand.

If she hurts- the whole world might know. If she doesn’t hurt anymore, even 5 minutes later, its like it never happened.

That’s it. Plain and simple.

So when she hurt her hand June 4th, I kept waiting for it to get better.

I played tough for a few days, but it still hurt.

Then we tried ice, heat, brace, no brace, different brace – but the pain persisted.

Dr. Jill, our Physical Therapist kept saying, “I think it’s vascular.”

Meghan kept saying, “It pulses like my AVM.”

And on we went – to the vascular surgeon, for the MRI/MRA, to the orthopedist, to the local hand surgeon. Each one finding a reason to dismiss her, and this pain that persisted.

Pain doesn’t persist. Not like this. Not with her.

And, when you have Cowden’s Syndrome, any pain that persists more than 10 days consistently really should be evaluated. You never know where those tumors may grow.

But the MRI, the three hour MRI with 4,000 images was negative. (Although I still have my doubts.)

And, Meghan calmly told the vascular surgeon she thought it was an AVM. He said no.

As the pain mounted over the weeks that followed, and we bounced through other routine follow ups that seemed to swallow up our summer, Meghan took solace in Dr. Jill.

You can’t put anything over on Dr. Jill, but she knows kids, and she knows Meghan.

“Look at this,” she said to me. “It has its own blood supply. That’s why it stops hurting when she puts pressure on that mass. She is cutting off the blood supply.”

Meghan would smile, knowing she was understood – at least by someone.

“Vascular pain goes up the arm, orthopedic pain doesn’t,” she would almost mutter to herself.

And I knew if they were BOTH sure, then I was sure they were right.

I emailed her oncologist, and her genetecist. I sent them pictures. “Biopsy those,” I was told in no uncertain terms.

So Dr. Jill wrote a detailed professional letter to a local orthopedist. I am still not sure he understood all the words.

Then there was the local hand surgeon, who read the letter, and just spent the visit looking perplexed and bothered. The MRI report was negative, his Xray was negative, and there was this bump below her middle finger. He sent us away – apologizing for not helping, but convinced there was no need for surgery.

That was the day Meghan coined the phrase “Donkey Butts!” And I couldn’t blame her.

I went right home from that visit and sent a desperate EMail to the oncologist again. This time I asked for a referral.

She is a woman of few words. Her reply was a link, and the words “Go here.”

So, I called and made an appointment. They took our out of network benefits. We got in the day before vacation.

He looked at Meghan. He talked to her. He sent her for more Xrays. They were negative. Then he looked at her hand again. He told her that he knows all about kids and how well they know their bodies. He told us he treats a few boys who grow bone instead of soft tissue tumors. He told her that the boys ALWAYS know where the problems are. She brightened.

Then he drew a very logical picture of the hand, and traced out the main ligament and tendon. He showed the connection from the soft tissue tumor to the painful wrist spot. He let her feel it, and he told her she made sense. She smiled a huge smile.

Finally a doctor who DIDN'T remind me of this one! — Finally a doctor who DIDN’T remind me of this one!

The he said to us that even though the Xray is negative, sometimes surgeons have to use their heads. Clearly the tumor on her hand was causing trouble. Clearly it had to come out. Exactly what that would mean once he got in there would have to remain to be seen. Relaxed and encouraged that someone was using their head, we scheduled the procedure and left for Disney.

Disney had its ups and downs, and one of the struggles was the frequent hand and wrist pain. Meghan is in pain so often, she can differentiate between the chronic pain, like her hips and knees, and the pain that she can’t stand, like her wrist and hand. Chronic pain is absolutely exhausting.

Today was the surgery.

We went to a LOVELY outpatient facility on 42nd Street. The place was clean, the reception was smooth and effortless.

The nurses were darling, every one of them.

The anesthesiologist instilled comfort, and the surgeon, Dr. R was warm and calming.

The procedure lasted longer than I expected – almost an hour and a half.

I wasn’t surprised to hear the words that have become normal. “It wasn’t exactly what I imagined, but I am pretty sure I got it all.”

A soft tissue tumor, with roots, AND an AVM (arteriovenous malformation) with its very own blood supply!

So many thoughts went through my mind – including, “SHE KNEW IT ALL ALONG!,” and “THANK GOD FOR DR. JILL!”

I was grateful for Dr. R, his patience, his trust in Meghan, and his ability to get it done. I was also instantly tossed into a new level of worry. See, all along they have been insisting the AVM in the knee was an isolated incident. I shouldn’t worry about more cropping up. Well one just cropped up. Game changer.

I was thinking about the rock wall she climbed June 4th, and even after all this turmoil, I am still glad she did it. Although we now almost undoubtedly know that the AVM was under the surface all along, and the bruising her hands took caused her body to “hyper heal,” and likely led to more blood being pushed towards the AVM. The soft tissue tumor erupted some time later.

While the exact sequence of events doesn’t matter, a few things do.

Meghan and Dr. Jill are really intuitive.

AVMs can take place in multiple spots.

Dr. R had to scrape the scar tissue off the ligament, and tendon and nerve in the hand.

Meghan will need quite a bit of therapy (after 9 days of keeping the hand wrapped) to get her mobility back.

I absolutely can not wait to get the pathology report and share it with a few doctors who blew off my girl.

And, most importantly – NEVER DOUBT MEGHAN!

Extra Parts

Published on August 4, 2013 by beatingcowdens2 Comments

We got the car back – with a few extra parts.

And this morning for an added surprise a screwdriver left on the driver’s seat poked me in the bottom!

The car isn’t fixed.

We had to take it back to wait for the “Field Tech” to have a look.

Apparently the “Tech Line” suggestions weren’t helpful, so in their infinite wisdom, they one by one took out parts, swapped them with new ones, then put the old ones back in when the problem wasn’t fixed.

10 days in service and I left with the same broken car, with the same parts as when I dropped it off.

Except that a few “extra” parts were left on my seat and my console.

While we will make an appointment some time next week to leave the car for the “Field Tech,” I had to laugh in spite of myself at the irony of the whole thing.

We have spent the summer at doctors. Some doctors were routine, some were tests and follow ups for things that were not “ok.” While there are many things that will leave me unsettled long after the summer has passed, the most disconcerting right now is the pain in the wrist and the hand.

A three hour MRI, a phone consult with the vascular surgeon, a phone consult with the rheumatologist, a local orthopedist, and a local hand surgeon – NONE of whom have a clue WHY after 8 WEEKS there is significant pain flexing the wrist, or holding a pencil, or performing any number of basic tasks.

Tomorrow we will head to the hand surgeon in Manhattan, with hopes that he can process the “extra” bump on the palm of her hand, and understand its relationship to the pain, and offer us a viable solution.

Too hopeful? Maybe. But, if I give up hope, where will we end up?

Raw with fatigue. Frustrated by “extra parts” and the people who don’t seem to know what to do with them…

Which ones do we put in? Which ones do we take out?

The similarities are almost uncanny. What are the odds that my child and my car would both have problems where the only hope of an answer lies in the “super specialist?”

“Donkey Butts!”

Published on August 2, 2013 by beatingcowdens3 Comments

I could barely contain my laughter, but by then we needed a good laugh.

We had just left the hand surgeon. The one who was hopefully going to have an answer, and get Meghan some relief from the persistent pain in her hand and wrist.

I came as usual, armed with a thick heavy binder, a recent MRI CD and reports, a list of all current doctors.

I think I knew we were in trouble when he didn’t seem to see the small mass at the base of her middle finger. You know, the one she says helps alleviate the pain when she presses on it?

He said it was “barely there.” Yes, and 2 weeks ago it wasn’t there at all.

He took an Xray. Obviously low radiation, (I hope) because no one left the room.

The bone structure is fine.

Shocker!

And he repeated to me that the MRI was fine. (YEP, I know.)

Then he asked if she had a rheumatologist.

Yep, she told me to go see a hand surgeon.

And he asked me to explain Cowden’s Syndrome.

But, at least he, 40 years older than the other doctor, had the decency to take out his iphone5 and google it.

I gave the beautifully written letter from our PT. It explained everything so clearly.

Pause… Pause… Obvious think time for the doctor.

“I don’t know what to tell you.”

EXCUSE ME?

” I am sorry I wasted your time.”

That was it. No request that we come back. No suggestion on what to do next. Pay the Copay (AGAIN!) and leave.

So when we got to the car Meghan and I were both agitated. Rightfully so. She is so frustrated. 8 weeks plus, and she doesn’t have the range of motion in her wrist. She was so angry. How is it that these medical professionals keep turning her away with no answers and still in pain?

I told her she was entitled to a fit. She is above that. She got angry for a bit, then frustrated. But I have definitely had many worse fits this summer alone.

Then, she said, “You know what Mom? They are all Donkey Butts! All these doctors that can’t fix anything, and keep wasting our time and your money- that’s what they are- DONKEY BUTTS!”

I spend a good deal of time working with her on appropriate language for a lady. But I almost had to pull over in hysterics from laughing so hard. I think she nailed it – politely and accurately.

Round three Monday 10 AM in Manhattan.

I don’t know anything about “Cowden’s Syndrome…”

Published on July 30, 2013July 30, 2013 by beatingcowdens7 Comments

After last night’s late night strep diagnosis, there was no way I could send her to Bible School this morning.

But, I had an appointment with the breast surgeon – a routine follow-up that I knew would take 5 minutes.

(That is why I had scheduled it July 16th when I was ALREADY IN the city- but last-minute doctor vacations are just one of the many inconveniences of life these days.)

I knew it would take 5 minutes – after I drove through an hour and a half of traffic, parked the car, walked a half mile, and waited to be called.

Truth be told it was lest than 5 minutes. A three-minute groping of my silicone implants and surrounding lymph nodes. The proclamation was made that everything looks “great” and I should return in 6 months. I actually was probably dressed and on my way before 5 minutes were up.

But, I HAD to go. It would have been too easy to cancel. It would have been too easy to blow it off. And what if? What if that one renegade cell… Nope, I HAD to go.

And, Meghan had to come with me. She trekked like a trooper to the main hospital to get another copy of the CD of the MRI of her hand for the orthopedist appointment at 2:30. Then, we traveled on the journey to the Clinical Cancer Center. I had to push her in the push chair today. The strep was knocking the wind out of her this morning and the hips and knees were bothering her.

It was also bothering her that people were staring at her. So it was a great opportunity to give her LOTS of really LOUD pep talks. I hope a few people overheard. Some people are really dumb. Others mean well – but for goodness sakes, don’t just stare at the child. Say “hello,” “good morning,” ANYTHING… UGH! But anyway…

And after the 5 minute appointment there was another hour in travel time back home.

Just in time to let the dogs out and run to pick up some chicken breast cold cuts for her to eat before physical therapy.

As she inhaled the chips and chicken I spoke with the therapist. I am always just so impressed by how smart she is, and how much she actually cares about Meghan. She took the time to READ about Cowden’s and to try to understand WHY and HOW the small fatty masses on her palm are affecting her. If only there were more…

Right after therapy it was off to the orthopedist looking for a few answers about the hand and the wrist.

That’s where things unraveled.

Ok. I understand it’s a rare disease. I do.

I get that with an occurrence rate of 1 in 200,000 you may not have touched on it in medical school.

But, you insisted on the paperwork completed online a full 10 days before the appointment. You could have read it, or had someone flag it.

And, I made the appointment with the doctor who had been prepped already.

Bait and switch?

The orthopedist today was amazingly young. I guess the big 4-0 is approaching fast, because I could scarcely believe he was out of medical school. Everyone seems to be looking younger and younger.

No need to remind me of what that implies. I get it.

We have seen LOTS and LOTS and LOTS of doctors. MOST would rather make something up than admit they didn’t know something, which is a problem in and of itself. Not this guy.

He examined her hand. Validated the pain. Looked at the MRI report. Declared there to be “nothing orthopedic” about her problem. And then he said,

“I don’t know ANYTHING about Cowden’s Syndrome, so you’ll have to tell me what it is and what it does.”

I almost asked him to repeat himself, but that would have just been to buy me time for my response. So, as I was gathering my bags and looking to exit as fast as I possibly could, I gave him a brief lesson on Cowden’s Syndrome.

This doctor was far younger than me.

This is the technology generation.

Step out of the room and hit google.com

The first link is this one http://ghr.nlm.nih.gov/condition/cowden-syndrome

What is Cowden syndrome?

Cowden syndrome is a disorder characterized by multiple noncancerous, tumor-like growths called hamartomas and an increased risk of developing certain cancers.

Almost everyone with Cowden syndrome develops hamartomas. These growths are most commonly found on the skin and mucous membranes (such as the lining of the mouth and nose), but they can also occur in the intestine and other parts of the body. The growth of hamartomas on the skin and mucous membranes typically becomes apparent by a person’s late twenties.

Cowden syndrome is associated with an increased risk of developing several types of cancer, particularly cancers of the breast, a gland in the lower neck called the thyroid, and the lining of the uterus (the endometrium). Other cancers that have been identified in people with Cowden syndrome include colorectal cancer, kidney cancer, and a form of skin cancer called melanoma. Compared with the general population, people with Cowden syndrome develop these cancers at younger ages, often beginning in their thirties or forties. Other diseases of the breast, thyroid, and endometrium are also common in Cowden syndrome. Additional signs and symptoms can include an enlarged head (macrocephaly) and a rare, noncancerous brain tumor called Lhermitte-Duclos disease. A small percentage of affected individuals have delayed development or intellectual disability.

The features of Cowden syndrome overlap with those of another disorder called Bannayan-Riley-Ruvalcaba syndrome. People with Bannayan-Riley-Ruvalcaba syndrome also develop hamartomas and other noncancerous tumors. Both conditions can be caused by mutations in the PTEN gene. Some people with Cowden syndrome have had relatives diagnosed with Bannayan-Riley-Ruvalcaba syndrome, and other individuals have had the characteristic features of both conditions. Based on these similarities, researchers have proposed that Cowden syndrome and Bannayan-Riley-Ruvalcaba syndrome represent a spectrum of overlapping features known as PTEN hamartoma tumor syndrome instead of two distinct conditions.

Some people have some of the characteristic features of Cowden syndrome, particularly the cancers associated with this condition, but do not meet the strict criteria for a diagnosis of Cowden syndrome. These individuals are often described as having Cowden-like syndrome.

Read more about Bannayan-Riley-Ruvalcaba syndrome.

How common is Cowden syndrome?

Although the exact prevalence of Cowden syndrome is unknown, researchers estimate that it affects about 1 in 200,000 people.

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Was that so hard? Meet me half way people.

It’s still hard for me to believe that cost me a co-pay.

Let’s see if the hand surgeon on Thursday can offer us something better.

Or maybe the rheumatologist will actually call me back.

Taking bets?

Every day is a great adventure!

Tick Tock

Published on July 26, 2013July 26, 2013 by beatingcowdens4 Comments

I actually watched it happen. We were walking up the hill to swim practice last night. Then she was limping.

She handed me her bag – struggling to balance. Before I could ask what had happened…

“My hip, my groin, the whole thing!” Gesturing near her hip bone and down her outer thigh.

I looked for a bench but there was none. She wasn’t interested anyway.

“We can’t sit – I will be late for practice!” Exasperated that I would even think she should stop walking while writhing in pain.

“Um, Meg – I was thinking you shouldn’t go to practice.”

“No way! We are here. I am going, and besides- the only time I feel close to normal, like everyone else – is in the water.”

We took away soccer.

We took away dance.

We can’t take away swimming.

So I made sure she asked her coach to help her stretch the hip. She stopped only once during the hour and fifteen minutes. I am sure I could not have kept up.

As I walked, and she limped back to the car she said it was, “not so bad.” And, she was “glad” she practiced.

Dedication. Admirable. Torture.

After the shower it all fell apart quickly. She froze almost completely. We rubbed it, and elevated it. Within an hour she needed help walking.

She got settled into our bed and tried to rub her hip.

The yelp indicated the pain on her hand and wrist has not subsided either.

As we got her comfortable I thought forward, about the week to come.

I emailed her genetecist and her oncologist this week. I attached photos of her hand. I attached the copies of the MRI report. They responded inside of a few hours.

Biopsy those lesions. On this they agreed. Cowden’s Syndrome -PTEN Hamartoma Tumor Syndrome. Soft tissue tumors are common. The oncologist reminded me only one lesion was visible during her exam just 2 weeks ago.

I know. I watched the other one pop out as she cried out in pain during a shopping trip to Kohl’s. It wasn’t there. Then it was. Now it is. And it hurts too.

Tuesday we will see an orthopedist. Thursday we will see a hand surgeon. Two more doctors we didn’t plan for. Two more afternoons lost waiting. Two more opinions to contend with.

And the prevailing uncertainty that anyone will ever fix the problem.

She is walking a bit better tonight. That is encouraging. A nice afternoon with a friend. Conversation for me was easy and comfortable. Grown up talk – something I have craved, while the children swam in the pool. Almost normal for a few hours there. Almost.

The car is going to stay in the “car doctor” over the weekend. Apparently its condition has been downgraded.

Paperwork to begin a complaint with Better Business Bureau should arrive early next week.

Maybe I should give the CAR an ISAGENIX shake or meal bar. It might be more productive than what is being done to it.

Monday we should know more.

Monday we should also hear from the rheumatologist about her thoughts on the MRI.

Sandwiched in between concerns about family and friends alike. In some ways our lives are miles different. In more ways – they are exactly alike.

Patience. Worry. Anxiety.

Tick Tock, Tick Tock… that would be the sound of summer passing us by….

Lemons

Published on July 23, 2013July 23, 2013 by beatingcowdens1 Comment

Generally I try to be a pretty positive person. But really I have to say this is getting a bit ridiculous. I am starting to wonder if I am doing something wrong. I mean everything feels like a project, every situation an issue.

Its no small wonder people sometimes tire of talking to me. I tire of telling tales over and over again. Really, I am not a big fan of drama at all.

And yet, as the precious weeks of summer tick by, and one obstacle after another seems to end up in our path – today I did feel like squeezing some of our lemons in a few people’s eyes.

My constant awareness that it could be worse; my attentiveness to the struggles of others is what keeps me grounded, but it may be even more exhausting. The prayers for young babies, and new mothers, the prayers for families who have lost young loved ones to tragedy, the prayers for the young children who are ill, the prayers for my grandmas – all three of them dealing with their own health issues… and the list goes on. I DO know it’s not just us. But sometimes when it seems to be one lemon after another, I get tired of ducking.

I know the saying about lemons, and an old cliche is good now and again…

But sometimes it just doesn’t cut it.

Sometimes lemons are, well – just sour.

My girl has been complaining of her wrist and hand since June 4th. I remember the date very specifically. And it has been a long 7 weeks. The last few weeks of school she could barely write. We tried braces, no brace, resting, ice, heat. Nothing. The pain gets worse. Then the MRI says normal and I want to spit. (Lemon juice in someone’s eye!) Now we wait while the MRI gets reviewed again, and its time to have a surgeon look at what appear to be soft tissue tumors (at least 2 of them) forming on her hand. One has been there since – forever. The other appears to have grown in size in the last 72 hours. I am not surprised they didn’t show up on the MRI.

This is the same child who took 7 sonograms to have her gall bladder diagnosed with “milk of calcium” and after three “negative” sonograms for the obvious mass growing out of her back years ago – the surgeon decided to trust his instincts and ended up removing a sizable lipoma.

This kid breaks all the rules.

And that’s before we even get to the ramifications of the diagnosis of Raynaud’s Syndrome and its implications made off the MRI. ( I guess that means it was … almost normal?)

So tomorrow I will call an orthopedist to check on insurance issues and to see if they will take a look at this kid. (This one comes HIGHLY reccomended! :-))She certainly can’t start 5th grade unable to write, and this can’t go on forever. So, another doctor it is.

It should be easier to get to the doctor after Enterprise picks me up at 10 tomorrow and sets me up with a rental as my relatively NEW car spends one too many days at the “car doctor” who seem unable to fix the problem either.

This is how long I waited on hold – before I hung up the phone and drove there myself…

All this as we clean out the attic to prepare for the new roof to be installed in a couple of weeks, and we wait for the people to call us back about the class action lawsuit that somehow explains the water damage and dry rot in our bay window.

So if I stay stuck on the lemons I may lose perspective, and God knows I need that to get by. Instead of wishing troubles away I pray for the stamina to continue to endure, and endure. Wouldn’t trade my life for anyone’s. But, God give me strength to find the rainbows – even in the lemons.

And as I organize my paperwork – constantly – tonight I write a check to support “Alex’s Lemonade Stand.” And I pray for all the parents faced with cancer in their children. It strikes fear in my core, so I do whatever little I can- knowing all too well we can all be tossed into places we would never venture to on purpose.

And as I reflect on today, I guess it was a success. We did get into our much underused pool for some mother/daughter time.

And when all is said and done, and I have had a few glasses of cider, and I can sit down and regain my perspective – I have a pretty cool kid. This Cowden’s Syndrome thing – it really sucks. But its such a part of us now, that I can’t imagine giving it up. We are not defined by it, but it is a part of who we have become.

So in the interim, for those of us who by bilateral mastectomy have gone from a size C to an A cup – maybe this is a more appropriate way to view those lemons.

Couldn’t hurt. Might help.

Keep laughing. Keep swimming. It’s all we’ve got.

Normal?

Published on July 19, 2013 by beatingcowdens4 Comments

Really?

Normal.

That’s it?

Normal MRI.

Three hours, two different magnets, three doses of contrast dye.

Six days of agonizing waiting.

The vascular surgeon called this morning.

I want to be happy.

I want to be relived.

I want to be sure I believe he pored over the images on the disk and didn’t just read the report.

Unfortunately I can not be happy, or relieved, because there is pain. Lots of pain.

When I told Meghan about the conversation she got angry.

I cried.

I don’t know how to help her except to keep pressing and pressing for answers.

At least she knows I believe her. I suppose that’s more than some kids in her boat have.

But still its hard.

There is no diagnosis.

There is pain.

She has work to do.

Writing is agonizing.

Swim practice certainly doesn’t help.

What do you do?

I can’t take away everything she loves.

I can’t absolve her of responsibilities – even when I know they cause pain.

I called the rheumatologist. For a small fee I sent her the CD too. It’s only money.

Maybe she will look harder.

I feel like I have been beaten up.

I spent the afternoon writing a letter to the corporate office about chronic inconvenient car problems.

Really I am tired of all this fighting.

Can’t we all just get along and do the right thing?

No words of wisdom today. Today we do it Dory’s way…

My Wish

Published on July 18, 2013 by beatingcowdens5 Comments

I have been quiet this week. That in and of itself is unlike me.

I am tired – well bordering on downright wiped out.

There are a few more weeks of summer to go, and aside from a well planned Disney Trip, set in place in January – there seems to be precious little to look forward to.

Meghan has a short list of “have tos” which I plan to do EVERYTHING in my power to work out for her, but really every effort I made to keep this summer better – to “streamline the doctor visits” seems to have failed miserably.

Today she began her summer homework. While it is reasonable, it is one more thing on a list of “have-tos” for a kid that just wants to be a kid.

There is no camp for Meghan. It is all doctors appointments – all the time. And when it is not her appointments it seems to be mine. She is swimming three nights a week on a new team, at least she is LOVING that – but we have barely been inside our previously overused pool.

And its funny, while she and I have both had appointments of almost equal number in the last few weeks, I feel so much less stress about mine.

The geneticist the endocrine surgeon, the gyn oncologist, the abdominal MRI, the plastic surgeon, and the oncologist. The spleen survived its next cut – and can live for another 9 months. The 3.5 cm roundish lymphangiomas are stable. That’s all we ask for now. The thyroid lymph nodes – not suspicious enough to biopsy.

The plastic surgeon, well the LOVELY woman offered me a boob job to correct the “asymmetry” caused by me shoving the reconstruction all into one day. Not this year, but thanks. Good to know the offer stands indefinitely. For now, I have other things to do.

So I have only one more of my appointments lingering, a late July follow up with the breast surgeon. I thought of blowing it off and then realized how dumb that would be – for so many reasons. So, I will go.

But Meghan’s appointments, those are the ones that keep me up at night. Those are the ones that strike fear and anxiety in the core of my soul. My heart beats outside my body in this little girl. I can not sum up in any number of words the depth of my love for her.

So to say this summer, and especially this week has been sheer hell would be the understatement of the century.

Her appointments began the day after school ended. The lengthy thyroid sonogram bought us another 6 months. The pituitary function test was a train wreck, but the call this week claims the results were OK. I want to feel more relieved. But its hard. I am waiting to read the report myself. “Doubting Thomas?” Maybe. Realist – probably. Something is not quite right, but at least its not SO wrong it has to be addressed today.

The geneticist began to speak of carnitine issues, and I am waiting to hear of a possible muscle biopsy. In the interim I bought carnitine. Lets see if we can cut that one off.

The vascular surgeon examined the wrist, painful since early June, and the knee. He wants an orthopedist on board, but wanted me to consult with the rheumatologist about the wrist, and then scan the knee that had the 4 surgeries, because its been over a year. The rheumatologist concurred on the MRI studies, so we went forward with the wrist first.

Saturday, as I wrote about previously was hell on earth. I have been through a lot of MRIs with this kid, and the behavior of the two techs scared me to my core. I was assured upon exit, that the results would be available to my doctor Monday that passed. Well multiple calls, over the course of Monday and Tuesday led to a promise the results were being released Tuesday. “It’s a complicated read Mrs. Ortega.”

Wednesday morning – still nothing at the vascular surgeon’s office, only to find the CD and report left by courier at 10 am. They will make it by 3 I was told.

A return call to the surgeon’s office at 4:15. “They just got here, but the doctor is gone – emergencies. He should be able to look at them tomorrow.”

Some time around 4 AM my daughter climbed into bed between my husband and I. She had been awake long enough to finish her book, but she just couldn’t settle over the pain in her wrist. At about 6:15 this morning she nodded off. I tried desperately to find my peace.

And all day today, again, I held my phone. We skipped the pool in between the “have tos” of getting the oil burner cleaned and our annual trip to the dentist (normal stuff.) I refused to be far from my phone. But as minutes became hours, my hope dwindled.

A call to the office at 4:30, “Sorry, he never made it in today, but Meghan’s chart is on top of his desk. He has office hours tomorrow.”

Six days.

Unnecessary torture.

Six days.

Wondering, worrying.

Even if the report – by some freak of nature reads “normal” I can’t even be pleased, because the pain is not normal. It is real, and it is consistent, and it has gone on too long.

I wish for a lot of things in the world.

I wish for children and their parents not to suffer with illnesses or adversity of any kind.

I wish for relief for those in physical, mental, and emotional anguish.

I wish for peace in the hearts and minds of the caretakers of those who struggle.

But today I also wish something else.

I wish that EVERY SINGLE medical professional who performs a test – from what is perceived as insignificant, to critical recognizes the power of their words, and their actions. I wish that EACH of them understand what it is like to be on the receiving end of cryptic messages, grossly extended tests, and precious little reassurance. I wish that EVERY doctor who receives a call from a patient panicked about their results be PROMPT in their response. I wish that EVERY one of them, who goes to work each day and forgets that our child, parent, sibling, loved one exists will at some point in their life be on the waiting side.

I WISH for every one of them – from the techs, to the couriers, to the office staff, to the doctors- to have the opportunity to await the results of a test from someone they love dearly.

Then MAYBE, just MAYBE they will understand our torture.

Hang on Meghan. Summer is coming. Hang on.