“Super” Man

Published on March 6, 2016March 6, 2016 by beatingcowdensLeave a comment

**Pop brought a smile, love and humor to our lives.**

Superheroes are invincible. No matter what they always find a way to pull through. They make complicated tasks look easy. They make the world a better place just by being there.

Thursday night my family said goodbye to our Superhero. Pop passed away at the age of 96.

Now, before you get on about telling me how lucky I am. I know. Before you tell me he lived a good life, I know. Before you tell me, “at least he’s at peace.” I know that too. I recognize fully that I am 42 years old and I am saying goodbye to my GRANDFATHER. I get how epic it is that he got to know and love his great-grandchildren. I understand all of it. I am acutely aware of young, tragic stories that pepper this world. And, my heart breaks for each of them. But, please don’t think for a moment it will make enduring this loss even the tiniest bit easier.

For every moment of my 42 years there has been Pop. There has been the ability to call him, to chat with him, to follow him around, to hear his stories, to receive his hugs, his humor, and his love. There was Pop to read to me as a young child. There was Pop to teach me about the basics of a car, and oil changes when I went to college. There was Pop to dance with me at my wedding. There was Pop to take his 80-year-old body to my house every day and place my wood trim, piece by piece. There has always been Pop. And now there isn’t.

There was Pop and Grandma living upstairs during the years when Mom had to work a lot. There was Pop to drive me everywhere. There was Pop to record important events. There was Pop who NEVER said,”No,” and NEVER made you feel like you were bothering him. There was Pop who played in his garden, growing lima beans, string beans, cucumbers and tomatoes. There was Pop who built his own deck, and sided his own house. There was Pop who made everything look easy. There was Pop who made rocking horses for grandchildren and great-grandchildren. There was Pop who picked up Meghan from the school bus until about 4 years ago. I could sit here forever and the list would just extend. There has always been Pop. And now there isn’t.

I’ve been pretty silent on this blog for a few weeks. Not because Cowden’s up and left us alone. But, rather because there were other things that needed attention more. For a little while.

I got the call on January 13th that he was at the hospital. He had fallen. They were testing. He was discharged a few days later, although he was only home a few days. Before the rehab could start, he was taken to a different hospital. Strokes were occurring. There was an attempt at rehab there, and then a move to the telemetry floor, and finally a move to a local nursing home to try some rehab there. The strokes had taken away the thing he prided himself on, his mobility. The right leg wasn’t interested in coming around, despite efforts from several good therapists over many weeks.

Pop was many things to many people, but he was undeniably stubborn. That tenacity undoubtedly is what had carried him through the months preceding the series of strokes. He had Grandma, and he was set on taking care of his bride of 70 years, at all costs. He knew we were losing her to alzheimer’s. He was aware in so many ways. Yet, he was unrelenting in his forceful desire to care for her at home, “as long as God gives me breath.” He took only help from my Mom, and in the very short time preceding his hospitalization there was an aide for a few hours each day. But he, cooked, cleaned up, did laundry, shopped. And they lived on the SECOND floor of their home.

He modeled “in sickness and in health,” and “for better or for worse,” in ways that people do not even comprehend anymore. He took his vows and his promises so seriously. I learned what it meant to be married watching them through the years. They modeled love and respect, and he never ever walked away without kissing her goodbye.

That’s why he pushed so hard. Just as he had for all of us through the years, he was propelled by love of God and love of family. He drove his own car, albeit short distances. He handled the bills, the paperwork, and navigated Email and the internet. In the weeks before he passed we watched our 96-year-old Pop go from behaving like he was 70, to being 96. And it was not easy to watch over 25 years catch up with him in those weeks. It was not easy to watch the frustration, the desire to move, and the pounds slipping away as even eating became a challenge.

Grandma now resides in the nursing home Pop passed away in. And she is incredibly well cared for. I do think he would approve. But, her memories are leaving her. And maybe at this point, maybe that’s just better. Because to process the loss of Pop is incomprehensible to those of us who have a tight grasp on a lifetime of memories. Maybe that’s one of the blessings I can find here. Because I know when it’s time, they will be together. And I know the time they will spend apart will equate to a small fraction of the life they spent together.

When Pop first was hospitalized I was quite upset, and I apologized to a friend who had lost her mother at a young age. She spoke to me so kindly, I will never forget. “It’s hard for you because you’ve never lived life without him.” So gracious when she could have chosen to go in so many other directions.

Those are the words that give me comfort. Those are the words that tell me it’s ok to grieve. It’s ok to feel like I’ve got a 600 pound boulder on my chest, suffocating me. Those are the words that tell me that 42 years is a long time to have someone in your life and then lose them.

Pop was sharp. He was up on all of us, and all of our lives. He knew specifics, and questioned and followed along. Meghan always said she was in awe of how he defied his calendar age. She, like the rest of us, was enamored. And as he was at the second hospital having a scan, and he educated the lab technician on Cowden’s Syndrome, I had to laugh in spite of myself. He was always learning, and he wanted to make sure others were too.

I walked through their house yesterday, as I have done so many times before, but this time I stopped and looked at the Bible, held together by tape from constant use. I looked at the devotional set to January 12th, the day before he fell, and I smiled. He was, above all things, devoted to God.

The first great grandchildren - Luke and Meghan — **The first great-grandchildren – Luke and Meghan**

His memorial service will take place next Saturday, at the church I grew up in, at the church he helped build and maintain for so many years. I have some time to get my thoughts together before I speak that day. Pray that I may find a way to honor my grandfather, where words just don’t seem significant enough.

Right now we look for the promises of Spring, and new life. We look forward to my sister’s wedding. We press on, not because we are not broken, but because there is no choice.

Our hearts are torn, because there is never ever enough time. That’s what I tried to get at on my Facebook page.

“I am convinced there is never enough time with those who love us so deeply, and those we love beyond measure or words. We are so devastated at the loss of Pop, who was the anchor of our family through every storm, the wind to our sails, and the bridge under our feet. He was so much to all of us, and through our different relationships he somehow made us all feel like we were incredibly important. He lived through deeds, not words. His actions spoke volumes of his character, and were so telling of who he was. He lived his life in service to God and his country, while loving his family immensely. Rest easy and celebrate with the angels Pop. We will miss you every day. Until we meet again…”

Local Newspaper Coverage

Published on January 20, 2016January 20, 2016 by beatingcowdensLeave a comment

This is already all over for my local friends, but for anyone else who is interested, this article was written for our local newspaper. It will publish in print Monday, but is in the online paper today. Click the link below.

http://blog.silive.com/gracelyns_chronicles/2016/01/post_23.html#incart_river_mobile_home

It’s Complicated…

Published on December 22, 2015December 22, 2015 by beatingcowdens2 Comments

I just ended a 30 minute conversation with Meghan’s adolescent gynecologist. The fact that she spends 30 minutes on the phone with me speaks to a rare spark of passion for her field, and a genuine desire to help. These are things we clutch because they are uncommon, and, when they come at all, they are fleeting.

The long and the short of the pathology, which arrived earlier than planned, was that there was no malignant finding. Yes, you read that right. No malignant finding. (Insert Happy Dance here…)

And the gratitude for the prayers and positive energy was lifted up. We truly are always aware of the potential alternatives, regardless of our situation.

But, as is always the case with Meghan, I encourage you to keep reading. Nothing is ever really simple. And, as the years go by it seems to get progressively more complicated.

While in fact there was no malignant finding, there was not a purely benign pathology either. She had “the best type of hyperplasia you’d want to find.”

Except when pressed, the gynecologist admitted that there is no type of hyperplasia that you’d ever want to find in a 12-year-old, and that there should be nothing but normal cells there.

Hmmm. Hyperplasia. Medicine.net says…. “Hyperplasia: An increase in the number of normal cells in a tissue or an organ. Hyperplasia can represent a precancerous condition.” And various other sites say the same. The doctor agreed. The pathology finding was not “normal,” and therefore it must be treated.

See, hyperplasia, specifically endometrial hyperplasia might be detected in women 3-4 times her age. It might even be expected in women 5 or 6 times her age. But, her age is 12. And none of this is ok.

I pushed her about thinking outside the box, and she reminded me that the entire biopsy WAS thinking outside the box. Any other teen would have been treated for months or more on hormones. That could have had epic consequences.

In the short-haul, she gets to heal from an invasive procedure. In the next week more hormones will be introduced to her body in an attempt to keep the hyperplasia at bay, and most importantly to keep it from progressing. But, hormones, although commonly used to regulate bleeding, require special care in the case of a young lady with no thyroid, a difficult time balancing the endocrine hormones, an extremely elevated risk of uterine and breast cancer, thanks to the PTEN mutation, AND TWO first degree relatives, with estrogen fed breast cancer.

For now, she keeps her uterus. And we hold our breath. We hope that over the next few months things will start to calm down. And some time in the next 6 months the invasive biopsy will be repeated over again to make sure the hyperplasia is gone or behaving itself.

To Meghan this mimics the process that took place at the beginning of the end of thyroid removal. We had about 3 years of progressive biopsies before they decided to pull the plug and take it out. She knows, and agrees, that we will all fight longer and harder for her uterus. For so many reasons. But the similarities can’t be overlooked. Nor can the distressing notion that another body part is misbehaving.

When we were diagnosed in 2011 we were told there would be screenings and monitoring. We even figured on a few doctors every 6 months. At one point we dreamed of getting them all into a week in August and a week in February and living a somewhat normal life the rest of the year.

Instead, in Meghan’s life alone there have been 5 surgical procedures in the last 13 months. Digest that for a minute, because it’s hard to keep track of.

Currently we are monitoring her thyroid levels through blood every 6-8 weeks, visits twice a year, and annual ultrasound to monitor potential regrowth.

We are monitoring her knee where the AVM resides, through twice a year visits to the interventional radiologist and twice a year visits to the orthopedist. There is an annual MRI. And two of those procedures in the last 13 months have been for the knee. Add in surgical follow-up visits, and Physical Therapy.

The dermatologist needs to see her twice a year. Not because anything has been found on her, but because in addition to me passing the PTEN gene to her, apparently her father and I BOTH have Dysplastic Nevus, a “precancerous” condition where moles have a tendency to become malignant. Couple that with the almost 10 % melanoma risk Cowden’s patients carry, and in addition to the sunscreen, there are necessary scannings.

There is the gastroenterologist, who became necessary almost two years ago when the use of Celebrex to control the knee AVM started to rot out the GI tract.

And the ENT who was added so he could monitor the larynx to avoid unnecessary endoscopy but gauge improvement from the scary state she was in in May of 2014.

Oh, and the doctor who prescribes the digestive enzymes because they work, and no one else will.

And the pediatrician who doesn’t like to go more than 3 weeks without examining Meghan, who also keeps her on Acyclovir, prophylactically for chronic HSV that recurs on her face.

And, don’t forget the hand surgeon, who we love, (who doesn’t have a hand surgeon on the team?) who has twice in 3 years removed vascular lesions, one from each palm. And those surgical follow ups.

Nothing is neat and clean. Nothing is contained. Nothing ever fit into those 2 weeks we once dreamed about. This disease has projectile vomited all over our lives. And it’s everywhere. And it’s messy and gross, and we just want to take a hot shower and move on.

Because we haven’t even discussed fitting in MY appointments…

And a full-time job….

And an honor student….

Who is a swimmer….

And a theater buff….

And a community activist in the making…

All after work, and school, into the city, in traffic, and expensive parking lots, in hopes of getting back local in time for practice.

Last week I told Meghan over the Christmas Vacation we would need to see her gyn, and do her knee MRI, and my abdominal sonogram. She was less than impressed. The general sentiment is that we don’t get vacations, we get days off from school to go to the doctor. I can’t argue.

The physical, mental, and social ramifications of this under-funded, “orphan disease” are having a profound effect on the life of my girl, and her mom and dad too.

That is one of the main reasons we work so hard to raise funds and awareness. Maybe one day…

So tonight, we are grateful. We are on our knees in gratitude, for the prayers that were lifted on her behalf. We are thrilled to hear the words, “It’s not malignant,” but we are painfully aware the journey of monitoring another body part has just begun.

So if we are not shouting from the rooftops, please don’t think us ungrateful. We are not. We are relieved. We took our first deep breath in weeks. But, we did ask Santa for some new body armor, polished and ready for the new challenges PTEN Hamartoma Tumor Syndrome, (Cowden’s Syndrome) are actively placing in our way.

We ask that you continue your prayers, and continue to educate yourself about genetic cancers, orphan diseases and people like us, left to be our own advocates, in a world that isn’t overly concerned with how our story shakes out.

While we are in transit, to and from a lot of places we’d rather not be, we talk a lot. Most of it is complicated. But some of it, is quite simply about how a 12-year-old with a vision is going to change the world.

Come join us on FEBRUARY 21st as we try to draw attention to Rare and Genetic Diseases! Beating Cowden’s Fundraiser LINK – PLEASE HELP US SPREAD THE WORD!

Time with "BOB" our favorite entertainer... — Time with “BOB” our favorite entertainer…

Mortality

Published on July 1, 2015 by beatingcowdensLeave a comment

The awareness that one day we’re not going to walk this earth anymore.

Not exactly dinner conversation, but, for lack of a more gentle way to say it, mortality is everyone’s reality.

We face this reality at different points in our lives. Some are frighteningly young, and others are blissfully old. But, eventually, that awareness either creeps in or hits us like a speeding train. (Figuratively, or course.)

In my opinion, so much of the rest of your life is defined by what you do with that realization, that understanding that there is no promise of tomorrow on this earth.

For me, my solace, my comfort, and my focus, come from my faith. My deeply held belief in God, and that life does not end, merely changes, as we are welcomed into Heaven.

Whatever your own belief, is, your own reality, my hope is that it brings you comfort, solace, and gives your life on this earth purpose.

As a daughter of a cancer survivor (18 years and counting!!) I watched my Mom grapple with her own mortality at an age I consider very young. (young for her, and for me too!) She got it. She found clarity, but it was a few tough months. And even then as close as I was, I knew the significance of what I was watching, but I did not get it, not really.

I like to say my breast cancer was found, “by accident” or “divine intervention,” whichever you prefer. But, the moment in the surgeon’s office, that day in March of 2012 when I became a “survivor” by default, started my own journey with mortality. I was 10 years younger than Mom was at the time of her diagnosis. I had just undergone what I had prepared in my mind to be a “prophylactic” mastectomy to battle astronomical cancer statistics associated with the new diagnosis of a PTEN Mutation called Cowden’s Syndrome, that Meghan and I had received less than 6 months prior. When the word malignant was read, there it was; laying thick in the air for my husband and 8-year-old child to process with me.

And there was reality. Unable to ignore. Cancer had lived within me. Could it live again? Would it? When? Why was I going to be OK when so many others were not? Was I going to really be OK? What if they missed it, something bigger?

I was fortunate. Fortunate in the sense that a double mastectomy removed the encapsulated stage 1 cancer. I needed no treatment, no medication. But, my status had changed. In the eyes of the doctors, I was now an even greater risk. Every single lump and bump would be scrutinized, scanned, poked, prodded, and usually removed. The loss of my uterus and ovaries weeks later were a testament to this new-found realization that I was a risk. A significant risk.

Cowden’s Syndrome is one of those diagnoses that forces you to face down your own mortality at sometimes alarmingly young ages. An internet friend just made a jubilant post today that her youngest was now 10 and cancer free, a title she did not have herself at that tender age. The things we celebrate…

My Cowden’s Syndrome people are known to me mostly through the internet. We live across the country and across the globe. We navigate through different time zones and support each other through scans, scares, surgeries, reconstructions, and cancer. While this syndrome does not manifest itself the same in each of us, there are alarming similarities that make us kindred spirits. There is that “Sword of Damocles” hanging above our heads. There is that constant sense of not knowing, of hyper-vigilance, of bi-annual screenings, and worry. We stare at our own mortality each time we look in the mirror.

We have an extra bond when it connects to our children. A universal acceptance of the unfair nature of these young ones even needing to understand a bit of mortality. We have juggled the questions, inevitable after MRIs, CT scans, and biopsies galore. We have gently answered questions about family, and future, that have no real answers to date. We ache for them. We wish to take it all away. We have some guilt in the knowledge that in most cases this disorder, (whether we knew it or not) was passed from us.

Mortality will bind you, and if you’re not careful it can blind you. That is why there are support groups, for cancer patients, and others who have come close to losing their lives.

This weekend I spent some time in West Virginia with another group of men, bonded by their grapplings with their own mortality some 48 ish years ago in the Vietnam War.

I will protect their privacy here, and tell their story as generically as I can.

I connected with Alan, about 6 weeks after my father died. Dad had earned a Purple Heart in my mind, for an incident that occurred while he was serving in the United States Marine Corps. The award was never granted, and I wanted to pursue it on his behalf. So, I sent some letters to Marines, whose contact information I obtained from a reunion Dad attended in DC in 2006. I wanted to know who remembered him, and his story.

Alan contacted me first, verified my information, remembered the story, and has been in touch with me since.

My Dad, the "Irish Marine" — My Dad, the “Irish Marine”

I sent 20 letters out. EVERY SINGLE MARINE responded to me. EVERY ONE. Whether they knew Dad or not, whether they could help or not, they ALL reached out to express their condolences. Many shared some funny anecdotes. And as hard as I’m sure it was, they all connected with me.

I had heard about the Brotherhood of the Marine Corps. I could not have fathomed the depth of that bond. One after another, they all left me with the same heartfelt sentiment. “You are the daughter of our brother. We will help you always in whatever you need.”

Now, I knew, or at least I could infer that their lives had not been any type of peaches and cream, on the island of Vietnam, or when they returned. My Dad battled his own demons for many years before our relationship began to form. But the offers of these Marines were sincere, and genuine.

Alan proved that to me through regular conversations, and almost heroic efforts to get someone to listen to the story of my Dad’s injuries. In the end, we lost the battle on a technicality. Although “The statements provided clearly establish that your father was injured as a direct result of enemy action, the available information fails to establish that your father was treated by a medical officer…Wounds not requiring treatment by a medical officer at the time of injury do not qualify for the Purple Heart Medal.” The letter was cold. The case was closed.

We lost the Purple Heart but gained so much more.

I was sad, mad, angry and disappointed. But I was so grateful for the Marines who wrote letters of support. I was grieving the fact that my Dad had carried this close to him for so many years, and lived with chronic pain as a result. I wanted this for him, because he never fought for it himself.

And as things go, it was not to be, but Alan did as he promised and remained in constant contact with me. He heard my sobs as I glanced at Dad’s headstone for the first time. His were the comforting words that started my healing.

So, this weekend I headed to West Virginia to thank him myself. I met a group of Vietnam Era Marines, several of whom had served with my father. I watched them together, in awe an amazement. I was welcomed into their group with instant acceptance. And as I sat and watched them laughing together, I noticed the war stories were sparse, and funny when they were told. Surely a contrast to the realities they had faced as young men years ago. But, the bond between them was unbreakable. There indeed was the Brotherhood of the Marines, but there was something else.

Mortality.

They faced it in the most horrendous of ways. They lived it daily. They buried their brothers. They knew their return home was not a guarantee.

And once you’ve faced that kind of life altering lesson in mortality together, you are bonded for life. As Alan said to me, “If you weren’t there, there are no words to describe it, and if you were, there are no words needed.”

I was among a group of people who had faced their own mortality almost a half century ago. And they have a bond that can not be explained. It is amazing.

And among the most amazing to me was the woman I met. She was not local either, but she, like I, had traveled for this celebration. It was not her first time. She had been around for almost 10 years. About 10 years ago the woman, who was an infant when her father died a hero in Vietnam, met the men he served with. She had never met her father, but here were father figures galore ready to embrace her. And they did.

A bit ago her father’s diary surfaced from his time in Vietnam. She shared it with me and the last entry written before he died was about the thought that so many of them must have had daily. His diary ends with, “When will it be me?”

Once you have looked your own mortality square in the eye, you can not walk away the same person.

But, it is up to you what you do with the rest of your life.

As for me, I choose bonding with people who “get it,” be they old friends or new.

I choose focusing on what we can do, not what we can’t.

I will not choose reckless living, but I will daily live with the knowledge that there is no guarantee of tomorrow on this earth.

Whether facing your mortality is something you endured, something you will live with daily, or something you are yet to face, how it changes you is really up to you.

As for us, in this house, we choose to remain focused on

BEATINGCOWDENS,

WHILE CELEBRATING ALONG THE WAY.

Today I Cried

Published on June 25, 2015June 25, 2015 by beatingcowdens8 Comments

I cried today.

A lot.

I hate it when that happens.

It wasn’t the loud sobbing kind of crying. It was the kind where the tears just run down your cheeks.

And if they’ve been held in there a long time, it’s really, really hard to make them stop.

I cried first when I saw the office, of the Long Island Surgeon, 30 miles, and 2 or more HOURS away from home. As I approached the room my heart sank and a tear fell. It was empty. That’s never a good sign.

Then when I spoke to the less than sensitive receptionist, she said, “The doctor isn’t here today.” Which I had figured out all by myself. But, I checked the schedule on my phone to be sure I was right, and I was. 2:30 June 25th. I left work early. Rushed to let the dogs out. Got Meghan. Braved the Belt Parkway. And, made it in just on time.

“Look,” I showed her the schedule on my phone.

She was grossly unimpressed and contacted the doctors direct secretary. She said she called my cell phone on May 18th and left a message. Clearly the message never got to me, likely the result of a simple dialing error. I even flashed the less than sensitive one, my voicemail log on my phone. “See, no call on the 18th.” She was still unimpressed, and now annoyed as well.

Meghan told me this morning her knee hurt. I haven’t heard that with regularity in a few weeks. She told me on the way to the appointment that she was glad to see the doctor today. She said she feels like her kneecap is shifting again. This was a primary cause of her preoperative pain. I could see the swelling. I just wanted some reassurance.

But, it was not to be. Because to argue about a phone call would have no real helpful answer, because the bottom line was, there was no doctor.

And the tears just started to fall. At first I worked to wipe them away. Then I just let them go.

I was offered a PA, and initially said no. Then I asked Meghan. She said she’d try one.

“The mother asked the patient, and it’s ok to send a PA down,” mocked the less than sensitive one.

YES! I wanted to scream. YES! The MOTHER, asked the PATIENT, because the PATIENT knows her body better than ANYONE. Her age is irrelevant. Her experience wins.

So we waited for the PA.

He examined her knee, and spoke about the swelling, which he said was likely due to “irritation.” REALLY? I was told her right quad has a good deal of muscle atrophy (something our PT noted BEFORE the surgery,) and that she should suspend all activities for a week, ice and elevate, and return in 7 days to see the surgeon. We scheduled for 9:30 AM, so she can miss the second day of camp, only to travel from Long Island to Sloan Kettering for an endocrinology visit, and back home for PT. (Summer vacation? Anyone?)

He saw my tears, and saw a weak, unstable woman. I know he did. And for the first time ever I stopped myself from justifying my tears. I simply told him there were many things involved in my frustration that he did not comprehend. The end.

I am done apologizing for my feelings. And I am done trying to explain sometimes, although not often, I cry out of sheer frustration for the madness that is our lives.

And as we got 2 cups of green tea to go, I cried some more.

I cried for the stupidity of mis-dialed numbers, and for the 4 and a half hours of our lives wasted, again.

I cried because no one really cares. Not really.

I cried as I watched the teen bald from chemo get out of the car. I shed tears of gratitude that it could always be worse.

I shed tears of sadness, for my girl, growing up too fast. Advocating for herself. Standing her ground with doctors. Because she just shouldn’t have to. And I cried for the doctors, who are missing out on a valuable opportunity. They could listen to my young, articulate, “in touch with her body” daughter, and they could learn a lot. Then I cried in desperation at the reality that they don’t want to.

I cried angry tears for the ones who have no regard for Cowden’s Syndrome. Those who don’t understand it, so they ignore it. They skip over it like a child trying to read a story above grade level. Because they have never seen it, they deem it irrelevant, or unnecessary. They don’t know that our ENTIRE treatment plan ALWAYS need to be grounded in the reality that there is Cowden’s Syndrome, and nothing is as it seems to be.

I cried about the summer that should be free of, or light on schedules, polluted by these doctor’s appointments. Necessary to complete in the summer so I can keep my job, and she doesn’t miss too much school. I thought about the week to come, Monday- Manhattan, Tuesday- Long Island, and PT, Thursday Long Island again, then Manhattan from there, and back to Staten Island for PT. And the following week, appointments for me Monday and Tuesday, 5 in 2 days. Meghan on Wednesday, and the dentist… as soon as we can get a Thursday afternoon free.

I cried about HOURS of our lives we will never get back. Ridiculous trips that take 5 times as long as they should.

I cried because I am wasting her childhood with necessary evils. And I hate it. I hate it a lot.

I cried for the isolation and loneliness created by a disease that keeps us both busier than we want to be.

I cried for our friends with this stupid disease and their physical, emotional, medical, family, and life struggles.

Eventually the tears dried into a scream or two. My girl had no idea I have those lungs.

And, as we arrived LATE for PT, I breathed a sigh of relief. Behind the doors of Leaps and Bounds PT, they “get it.” So Meghan works on getting better, physically and emotionally in a place she feels safe.

I booked PT through the summer. I had hoped we wouldn’t need to. Not for any other reason than it adds to a schedule we’d rather not have. So that “doctorless month” we’ve been trying to plan for three years isn’t happening this summer.

“I’m over it Meghan.” I told her as we were driving. “I’m over the whole Cowden’s Syndrome thing.”

And in her infinite wisdom again, “I guess, but without it I wouldn’t be the person I am. I’ve learned a lot…”

And the teacher is the student again.

Tomorrow I will have the tears back in their proper place. Tomorrow. But this is today’s reality, and sometimes that’s OK too. Because regardless – we are

BEATING COWDENS!

Now we’re back where we started…

Published on May 15, 2015May 15, 2015 by beatingcowdens1 Comment

“Do It Again” (The Kinks)

“Standing in the middle of nowhere,
Wondering how to begin.
Lost between tomorrow and yesterday,
Between now and then.And now we’re back where we started,
Here we go round again.
Day after day I get up and I say
I better do it again…”

The chorus to the old song rings through my head, as we prepare to return to work and school. Eight days post-op and everything checked out just fine at the surgeon. It’s ok to return to school, as long as she limits stairs, reduces the weight she carries, and generally takes it easy. The surgery went well. The recovery is moving along. But, as with each time we’ve done this, there are no promises. There are some cautious words. There are some hopeful words. This is what I have to focus on. And I will.

But, sometimes it can be hard.

Like when you do research and turn up this page from an orthopedic clinic. (Rosenberg Cooley Metcalf) and you do OK until you get to the bottom where it says “Recovery.”

Knee

Primary Inflammatory (Synovial) Disease of the Knee

Diagnosis

Your diagnosis is a primary inflammatory condition involving the lining (synovial tissue) of your knee joint.

Injury or Condition

This condition represents a primary inflammatory disease developing within the velvety lining (synovium) of the knee. In response to inflammation, the lining tissue can thicken and hypertrophy dramatically which may lead to chronic swelling.

Cause

The cause is often unknown. Some inflammatory diseases of the knee lining involve only the knee joint (PVNS). Other diseases like Rheumatoid Arthritis can affect multiple joints.

Symptoms

Typical symptoms are moderate to severe generalized swelling and pain about the knee. Marked swelling can be associated with stiffness usually in bending the knee. Increased warmth is felt about the knee in some cases.

Treatment

Standard treatment includes:

Anti-inflammatory medication for six months.
Safe exercises to improve strength without aggravating swelling.
Ice, warm packs and knee balms can be used to decrease pain.
Swelling can sometimes be reduced by application of elastic stockings and/or sleeves around the knee.
Diagnostically, joint swelling aspiration and MRI can provide information, although it may not change the treatment.
If non-surgical treatment fails, arthroscopic surgery to remove the diseased tissue (synovectomy) should be performed to limit or cure the disease.

Precautions

Important precautions:

Do not aggravate swelling and warmth about your knee. Increased warmth and swelling may weaken your thigh muscles and may raise the risk of destructive changes within your knee.
Do not ignore or neglect your condition. Follow recommendations and do not miss important follow-up visits.
When arthroscopic synovectomy is necessary, elevate your limb very well for 48 hours and initiate full weight-bearing within the first 3 days of surgery.
Avoid stress.

Recovery

As the cause is unknown in many cases, the recovery can be uncertain. Two-thirds of cases generally recover completely. Full recovery after arthroscopic surgery usually takes 3-6 months.

“Two – thirds of cases generally recover completely.” The math teacher in me is unhappy with those numbers. The mother, the mother of this child, knows that she defies statistics whether they are for or against her. She is her own special case.

Meghan spent the week on the couch, making up what seemed to be an astronomical amount of schoolwork. Maybe it was a good distraction. After surgery 13, the novelty of the whole thing has worn off. Days are long. Recovery is mundane. People are busy. Texting helps a bit, but the hours drag.

We got to PT this week, twice. And already I see progress. That’s why quality therapy is worth every minute.

So during my days home I did laundry, and caught up on some household things while I stayed close to my girl. I also attacked “the pile.”

There is a spot on my desk where all the bills, letters, invitations, flyers, and pretty much everything else goes. I try to get to it every few days. But mostly I don’t. Then it overwhelms the table. And somewhere under the pile is “the list.” The upcoming appointments line the top. Then there are the appointments I need to make, and the bills to be addressed that for some reason are not in “the pile.” Today was a good day to tackle it. I made some significant progress.

I also spent hours on the phone. I dredged up the anesthesia bill from my surgery in February. That took an hour. But, it’s done for now.

I started scheduling appointments. We tend to cluster a lot the first two weeks of the summer. Some have been planned for months. Some I’ve been blocking. I got a few more in. Then I got stuck.

In the hospital the pediatrician last week was really on my case. She wanted to know who was “in charge” of Meghan’s appointments, check ups and surveillance. She didn’t like that I said, “ME!” (Maybe it was the way I said it… (grin)) But, truth be told, I really don’t like it either.

I had to tell the endocrinologist that 12 weeks was too long to wait to repeat ANOTHER irregular lab finding last week.

Meghan’s blood pressure in the hospital was low. Like at times crazy, scary low. I know she was just cleared by a cardiologist, but…

And the lesion on her hand dubbed “vascular” by the dermatologist…. What to do with that? The same dermatologist who promised the moon and the stars and the sky in November as I prepared HOURS worth of Meghan’s medical records for her. The same doctor who said she’d help us. That one. Yep, she’s useless at this point too.

I was on the phone today pleading with the receptionist of one of my doctors to let Meghan come in as well. Apparently the fact that she’s “adult size,” doesn’t matter. I was left so frustrated I choked on a few tears.

This Syndrome is big. I can manage it. I can and I will, because there is no other choice. But, I need some help. I need a point person. Someone to force the doctors to listen. Someone to gather it all into one place and make sure it makes sense. Someone to make sure we don’t miss anything.

In desperation I emailed the genetecist who diagnosed us. He responded within an hour.

Dear Mrs. Ortega,

I am sorry I said no need to return. I have been overwhelmed with patients but this is no excuse. I will find out the referrals needed for Meghan and we will together make a surveillance plan. And we will meet so we will document the whole process.

I feel that I am the least helpful of all the physicians because I do not provide treatments. However, I will gladly assume the role of coordinator of care for you and Meghan.

Sincerely,

(The angel I need… I hope)

I will call tomorrow to make an appointment. I have a good feeling about this one. Please, whatever your faith, send some prayers. This would be huge. Really huge, in a life-changing good way. We are three years in and due for an overwhelming cycle of tests again I’m sure – but I know it gets easier.

I just want to keep her safe. I want to use every tool God has given me to keep her as safe as I possibly can, so we remain BEATINGCOWDENS together.

“…Where are all the people going?
Round and round till we reach the end.
One day leading to another,
Get up, go out, do it again.

Then it’s back where you started,
Here we go round again.
Back where you started,
Come on do it again…”

Hurry up… and WAIT!

Published on December 31, 2013 by beatingcowdensLeave a comment

Hurry up – and wait. And wait. And wait.

I don’t know many people whose lives are not a bit of a rat race these days. We race to school and work. We race to take our children to the many places they need to be. We race to shop, and cook, and clean, and wash clothes, and we sometimes even race to arrange our schedule so we can have some time off.

In our house we race. Gratefully, we have added something fun in the form of Swim Team this year. There are many weeks there is even time for two practices. So she won’t be an Olympian. But some fun is an improvement.

Because without that Swim Team – it was all medical – all the time.

Since birth really, as Meghan’s medical history really goes back to the beginning, but especially since our diagnosis of Cowden’s Syndrome in September 2011, we have developed a list of doctors all across the city of New York. And they all require regular check ups…

“Skip it…” whispers the voice inside your head. “I don’t have time…” “We won’t make practice…”

But “skipping it” is not a luxury we can afford. Cowden’s Syndrome has robbed us of the luxury of putting it off. It is the clock that is always running. It is the reality of my breast cancer – beaten. It is the “reminder” in my iphone. It is the spreadsheet necessary to sort out pediatric and adult specialists for just about every body part.

And before we even get to the routine screenings, there is the weekly Physical Therapy, necessary to combat the lax joints, and weak core that leave my girl prone to injury as she tries the most fundamental “kid” tasks. Thankfully PT is a joy, and she truly loves to “PLAY” with Dr. Jill, but all that love not withstanding – it’s another day during the week scheduled.

There are hematology, genetics, interventional radiology, infectious disease, rheumatology, dermatolgy, neurology, and endocrinology to name a few. Some are once a year. Most are twice. And that’s all well and good if everything checks out fine. However, the need for testing arises regularly, which leads to MRI/MRA, lab work, repeat appointments….

Last year I tried to get them all done in July. That was pure indescribable hell and it swallowed our whole summer. Now, I schedule them a bit separated, carefully attentive to the time frames suggested as optimal to screen for any of the pesky cancers we are prone to.

And, while the cancer risks peak around 40, there are several cancers that regularly strike Cowden’s patients in and before their teens.

So, we schedule appointments after school, on holidays, in the evenings, and whenever we can fit them in. We often find ourselves racing into an appointment after a long day – only to find ourselves waiting to be seen.

“Hurry up – and wait.”

Meghan is an outstanding “wait-er.” Partially because she’s used to it, and partially because she knows it’s necessary. We know exactly what to pack, whether its homework, or an Ipad, or a book, to keep her occupied. But she would rather be playing. Or swimming. Or resting. Or crafting. Or just being a kid.

We find ourselves facing the same problems many other families face – laboring to fit in time for fun. But it is further complicated by fatigue and a lack of stamina. She can not walk more that about 3/4 mile without wiping out. She will, when time allows, sleep 13-14 hours a night. So we have to always be careful not to push too hard, because the repercussions can be serious. Sometimes I imagine friends think we make it up.

“Hurry up – and wait.”

And we raced into Sloan Kettering Cancer Center on December 19th after school. I whisked Meghan out of her holiday party, braved the traffic and rushed into the office in time for our 3:30 appointment.

But some time before we got out of the car and walked into the building, Meghan told me about the “bump” in her neck. The one she feels every time she goes to put her necklace on. The one that she thinks is making her cough… that persistent tickle in her throat going back… oh… a few weeks.

So at 4:30 when we were called into the office for the routine endocrinology visit, the one the doctor had told em we did NOT need to have an ultrasound before because things were “stable” he almost immediately zeroed in on the spot Meghan mentioned. He asked for a tape measure. His eyes were serious. He spoke of significant growth. He said we needed a biopsy.

“So let’s do it. I am off for 10 days.”

“Well, you know, with the holidays…”

“Let’s hurry up and get it done. I will take whatever you have.”

And on Friday the 20th when my phone rang at work and I got the news that we were going to first need an ultrasound BEFORE the ultrasound guided Fine Needle Aspiration – I just about went through the roof. The doctor explained that the radiologist doing the FNA needed a recent ultrasound. (You mean like the one I had asked for with the December appointment all along?) I explained I would stand for nothing less than scheduling the ultrasound and the FNA that very minute. So we did. Ultrasound December 23rd. FNA under general anesthesia on December 31st.

“Hurry up – and wait.”

Apparently no one got the memo things have been a bit stressful around here this month.

So we did the ultrasound on the 23rd. 30 minutes with the tech. Then 15 minutes for the doctor to review it, and another 20 minutes for the radiology doctor to rescan. Nothing going on on the 23rd of December. No worries.

“Hey, that’s a lot of nodules on a young lady…” says the doctor. ARGH!

So when do we squeeze in something fun? Something she can say she DID on the vacation?

We made it up to see the New Year’s Eve Ball very early on that Saturday morning. Meghan trying out the camera her Grandpa Tom left for her when he passed away earlier this month. Trying to find the time to view her world through a camera lens. We spent about an hour. Then we went home.

Photo credit -Meghan 12/28/13 — Grandpa Tom’s “smile”

There were 2 play dates. Lovely girls. So I guess there was success.

And then today.

Arrive at 6:30 I was told. So we were up by 5, and on the 9th floor by 6:30 – only to find it locked.

“Hurry up – and wait.”

We eventually found our way to the IV room, and then to Interventional Radiology on the 2nd floor. The procedure was at 8:15 and lasted double the time it should have.

We left with discharge instructions and word that we SHOULD have pathology by Friday, but maybe Monday.

I may have a few cocktails myself as midnight approaches. If I stay awake that long. After all its been a long day, week….

And we know Daddy’s got the New Year’s Eve Ball well taken care of.

Give Thanks…

Published on November 19, 2013November 20, 2013 by beatingcowdens2 Comments

I like fall. I prefer the optimism and new beginnings that come with spring, but I do love fall. I like the sweatshirt jacket weather, and the pumpkins and apples, and the beautiful fall leaves. I like basking in the mystery and wonder of the beautiful colors as they fall through the branches to the ground, and blow through the air with the brisk wind. But, this year I almost missed it.

I sat on the steps Saturday as my husband frantically gathered leaves into bags so they could stop blowing all over our neighbors lawns. And, in our haste I almost didn’t notice, or even take a minute to appreciate the beauty of what was before us.

A testimony on life, and a sad one.

We, like so many others, are busy. We are painfully busy at points. There is school, and work, and homework. There are Physical Therapy appointments, and swim practices. There are lessons to plan. There is a house to maintain, laundry to do, dogs to clean, floors to wash, and marathon grocery shopping every few weeks to keep my allergy girl well-fed. There is mail to sort – regular junk to be shredded, bills to pay now and bills to pay later. And that’s just here.

There are family members grossly under-visited. There are people we love so much that live right close to us – who we never see. There are friends short distances away we haven’t seen in years.

And yet, usually we find a few minutes in the fall. A few minutes to toss some leaves around. A few minutes to giggle. So many thoughts flooded my mind as the last of the leaves hit the bag for this week. One more clean up and the trees will be bare for winter. And I looked up at that bright red tree above my doorway and took a minute to give thanks.

I needed to give thanks for the tree, above the new roof on the place we call our home. I needed to give thanks for my husband and the family and friends that helped it happen 13 years ago.

The fall leaves, like so many things that happen each year, are a beautiful reminder to give thanks – for beauty, for love, for hugs, for smiles…

Meghan got new glasses this week. She got her first pair in 2009, and her eyes have worsened steadily. As we picked them up, and she said, “WOW,” and “THANKS!” all at the same time – I was reminded of the little girl, who is now a young lady. I am struck by the genuine gratitude as her sight is restored. I am thankful for my vision, and the doctors who are able to help her have clear vision.

“Oh how the years go by…”

I have a friend or two who have given thanks every day this month, and I enjoy reading their thoughts and thankfulness each day.

For me I am thankful – but it’s more like a flow chart. One thing, one blessing, one bizarre set of circumstances leads to me being reminded of how many reasons I have to be thankful.

Tomorrow we go for that brain MRI. The one that will confirm that the suffering endured these last few months by my 10 year old who has seen so much, is “probably” migraines. Brain MRIs really suck. The only part to really be thankful for there is the part when they tell you they didn’t find anything.

These have been some difficult weeks. My heart is heavy, and worn. But I am thankful:

For my daughter, and her unfailing determined spirit.
For my husband, and his loving sense of humor, and his unending patience.
For my parents and grandparents, and the blessings of having them.
For my siblings, as we grow and experience life at different stages and paces.
For nephews of all ages and stages.
For my cousins and aunts and uncles all over the country – and for Facebook for helping me connect with so many.
For the friends who refuse to give up on me, even as I am not available – again. I take solace in knowing they will be there when I am.
For those I love who are sick in mind, body and spirit. Their strength inspires me.
For the doctors who care. Whether they get it right or wrong, my heart is open wide for the ones who care.
For Meghan’s teachers – past and present – school and church, and their ability to instill a love of learning.
For Internet friends – who support when other’s can’t.
For dogs, and their unending loyalty.
For two secure jobs in our home.
For giggling, and tickling and fake hand-made flowers.
For those of you who take the time to follow our journey.

I turned 40 last week and it wasn’t so bad. I am thinner and stronger, and more determined than I was in high school – albeit a lot more gray.

I guess that makes me thankful for hair dye.
And for boobs that don’t sag, and no need for a mammogram.
For size “small” – cause who knew people wear that?
For the Isagenix that taught me to eat nutrient rich food.
For the prayers of friends, and the strength and stamina to endure.

MRI tomorrow. Results to follow. Then, we will give thanks even for the torture of migraines, with the knowledge it beats the alternatives.

MOSTLY I AM THANKFUL FOR HOPE, as the Global Genes Project says – “It’s in our genes!”

Give Thanks!

I don’t know anything about “Cowden’s Syndrome…”

Published on July 30, 2013July 30, 2013 by beatingcowdens7 Comments

After last night’s late night strep diagnosis, there was no way I could send her to Bible School this morning.

But, I had an appointment with the breast surgeon – a routine follow-up that I knew would take 5 minutes.

(That is why I had scheduled it July 16th when I was ALREADY IN the city- but last-minute doctor vacations are just one of the many inconveniences of life these days.)

I knew it would take 5 minutes – after I drove through an hour and a half of traffic, parked the car, walked a half mile, and waited to be called.

Truth be told it was lest than 5 minutes. A three-minute groping of my silicone implants and surrounding lymph nodes. The proclamation was made that everything looks “great” and I should return in 6 months. I actually was probably dressed and on my way before 5 minutes were up.

But, I HAD to go. It would have been too easy to cancel. It would have been too easy to blow it off. And what if? What if that one renegade cell… Nope, I HAD to go.

And, Meghan had to come with me. She trekked like a trooper to the main hospital to get another copy of the CD of the MRI of her hand for the orthopedist appointment at 2:30. Then, we traveled on the journey to the Clinical Cancer Center. I had to push her in the push chair today. The strep was knocking the wind out of her this morning and the hips and knees were bothering her.

It was also bothering her that people were staring at her. So it was a great opportunity to give her LOTS of really LOUD pep talks. I hope a few people overheard. Some people are really dumb. Others mean well – but for goodness sakes, don’t just stare at the child. Say “hello,” “good morning,” ANYTHING… UGH! But anyway…

And after the 5 minute appointment there was another hour in travel time back home.

Just in time to let the dogs out and run to pick up some chicken breast cold cuts for her to eat before physical therapy.

As she inhaled the chips and chicken I spoke with the therapist. I am always just so impressed by how smart she is, and how much she actually cares about Meghan. She took the time to READ about Cowden’s and to try to understand WHY and HOW the small fatty masses on her palm are affecting her. If only there were more…

Right after therapy it was off to the orthopedist looking for a few answers about the hand and the wrist.

That’s where things unraveled.

Ok. I understand it’s a rare disease. I do.

I get that with an occurrence rate of 1 in 200,000 you may not have touched on it in medical school.

But, you insisted on the paperwork completed online a full 10 days before the appointment. You could have read it, or had someone flag it.

And, I made the appointment with the doctor who had been prepped already.

Bait and switch?

The orthopedist today was amazingly young. I guess the big 4-0 is approaching fast, because I could scarcely believe he was out of medical school. Everyone seems to be looking younger and younger.

No need to remind me of what that implies. I get it.

We have seen LOTS and LOTS and LOTS of doctors. MOST would rather make something up than admit they didn’t know something, which is a problem in and of itself. Not this guy.

He examined her hand. Validated the pain. Looked at the MRI report. Declared there to be “nothing orthopedic” about her problem. And then he said,

“I don’t know ANYTHING about Cowden’s Syndrome, so you’ll have to tell me what it is and what it does.”

I almost asked him to repeat himself, but that would have just been to buy me time for my response. So, as I was gathering my bags and looking to exit as fast as I possibly could, I gave him a brief lesson on Cowden’s Syndrome.

This doctor was far younger than me.

This is the technology generation.

Step out of the room and hit google.com

The first link is this one http://ghr.nlm.nih.gov/condition/cowden-syndrome

What is Cowden syndrome?

Cowden syndrome is a disorder characterized by multiple noncancerous, tumor-like growths called hamartomas and an increased risk of developing certain cancers.

Almost everyone with Cowden syndrome develops hamartomas. These growths are most commonly found on the skin and mucous membranes (such as the lining of the mouth and nose), but they can also occur in the intestine and other parts of the body. The growth of hamartomas on the skin and mucous membranes typically becomes apparent by a person’s late twenties.

Cowden syndrome is associated with an increased risk of developing several types of cancer, particularly cancers of the breast, a gland in the lower neck called the thyroid, and the lining of the uterus (the endometrium). Other cancers that have been identified in people with Cowden syndrome include colorectal cancer, kidney cancer, and a form of skin cancer called melanoma. Compared with the general population, people with Cowden syndrome develop these cancers at younger ages, often beginning in their thirties or forties. Other diseases of the breast, thyroid, and endometrium are also common in Cowden syndrome. Additional signs and symptoms can include an enlarged head (macrocephaly) and a rare, noncancerous brain tumor called Lhermitte-Duclos disease. A small percentage of affected individuals have delayed development or intellectual disability.

The features of Cowden syndrome overlap with those of another disorder called Bannayan-Riley-Ruvalcaba syndrome. People with Bannayan-Riley-Ruvalcaba syndrome also develop hamartomas and other noncancerous tumors. Both conditions can be caused by mutations in the PTEN gene. Some people with Cowden syndrome have had relatives diagnosed with Bannayan-Riley-Ruvalcaba syndrome, and other individuals have had the characteristic features of both conditions. Based on these similarities, researchers have proposed that Cowden syndrome and Bannayan-Riley-Ruvalcaba syndrome represent a spectrum of overlapping features known as PTEN hamartoma tumor syndrome instead of two distinct conditions.

Some people have some of the characteristic features of Cowden syndrome, particularly the cancers associated with this condition, but do not meet the strict criteria for a diagnosis of Cowden syndrome. These individuals are often described as having Cowden-like syndrome.

Read more about Bannayan-Riley-Ruvalcaba syndrome.

How common is Cowden syndrome?

Although the exact prevalence of Cowden syndrome is unknown, researchers estimate that it affects about 1 in 200,000 people.

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Was that so hard? Meet me half way people.

It’s still hard for me to believe that cost me a co-pay.

Let’s see if the hand surgeon on Thursday can offer us something better.

Or maybe the rheumatologist will actually call me back.

Taking bets?

Every day is a great adventure!

JUNE!

Published on June 10, 2013June 10, 2013 by beatingcowdensLeave a comment

It’s June. It doesn’t feel like it. At least the weather doesn’t. It’s cool and rainy. I guess that’s OK for now – while we are still wrapping up school.

It has been a long week.

I don’t usually leave my blog unattended for so long. I am behind at writing. I am behind even further at my reading. It seems the days just blend together lately.

It is June, and when you are a school teacher, this is a month of eager anticipation, and volumes of paperwork to be settled. There are boxes to back and things to carefully put away in preparation for the fall. There isn’t much time to be still.

Well – in another 2 weeks it is!

It’s June, and when you are an advocate – you do take a few minutes to celebrate the victory that put speed bumps on the street where you had the accident that damaged your back forever and ever. You are grateful for the citizens, and politicians alike that fought relentlessly. You are thrilled by speed bumps, but you still want that stop sign. You celebrate with a glass of wine – or two.

It’s June though, which means that damaged back has to ache longer in between trips to the chiropractor, and the PT you promised yourself seems like it may never happen. You are the mother. You will get by.

It’s June and when you are a Mom of a kid with Cowden’s Syndrome you spend 2 or three afternoons a week at physical therapy to make her chronic pain bearable. Not totally sure the pain is related to the Cowden’s, but sure it’s related to SOMETHING, you scoff at the denial for school based PT and wonder what they would say if one of them could spend a morning in your house watching your 9 year old walk like she’s 90. You balance those PT appointments with swimming lessons, all in preparation for the team she will join. The team she is desperate to swim on successfully, and God willing – pain free.

It’s June, so you balance the breakthrough of the virus on that adorable immune compromised 9 year old’s face with increased doses of the antiviral medicine and extra trips to the pediatrician. It’s June so when it’s not pouring – you make sure she has a hat to keep the sun off her face. And when you look at the dose of antiviral medicine you start to feel a bit guilty, nervous maybe, about her liver – and all the prescription medicine. So, you take a chance and toss the Celebrex to the side. Hoping maybe, just maybe she can get by without it.

It’s June and its raining. You feel a little guilty about “forgetting” to tell her you stopped the Celebrex, but each day you hear the complaint of another joint, another ache, another pain. Ten days later you abandon your hopes of relieving the stress on that young liver, and you relent. Too many Tylenol – not cutting it. Celebrex it is.

The war rages – all the months. The battles are won and lost on a regular basis – but the war looms large. I don my armor – a large binder of medical facts, bloodwork, and reports. I gather my inner strength.

It’s June. Summer vacation is coming, but there will be no camp in our house. It doesn’t fit in with the schedule.

Every six months. Every doctor. Forever. Mine, and hers. Different doctors. Different times. Different facilities.

I am getting better at the scheduling. I have learned to bunch them together. So, we go in February and again in July.

For Meghan it’s the thyroid first. That foreboding nemesis. Ultrasound, appointment… and we will see what comes next. Then its the AVM follow up, and the genetecist. That’s just the last week in June.

Mom has an MRI to schedule to look at that spleen, some more surgical follow ups…

There will be 15 appointments before the 2nd week in July. That’s if every one goes well.

This is how it has to be. We have to work, she has school. We can’t have the appointments all throughout the year, so we must endure them all at once.

It’s June. I am already tired. Wrapping up one full time job to focus on another. I feel my anxiety rising.

Getting all my rest. Gathering my inner strength. Armed and ready. Kicking Cowden’s to the curb…

We can… WE WILL!