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Onward…

Published on March 20, 2016 by beatingcowdensLeave a comment

“Onward Christian Soldiers, marching as to war, with the cross of Jesus going on before…” That was one of Pop’s favorite hymns growing up in our Lutheran Church. He sang it loud. He lived it softly, but meaningfully…

It’s been a long time since I have written and I am sorry.

Writing is my therapy. It’s free and easy. When there is a few minutes to do it.

And that, well that has been the problem these last few weeks.

I know it’s hard to imagine life getting so crazy that I wouldn’t have an hour or two a week to get my thoughts together, but it’s true.

Time to catch you all up –

On Sunday, February 21, 2016 the Second Annual “Genes for Rare Genes” fundraiser took place at the Hilton Garden Inn on Staten Island. We had www.yeehahbob.com Bob Jackson from Walt Disney World at the piano entertaining the masses. We had generously donated raffles galore. We had 178 friends and family with us, raising money and awareness for Rare Diseases. We had Meghan, hosting, and giving her speech and showing her video. https://beatingcowdens.com/2016/02/21/meghans-rare-disease-day-video-and-speech-2016/ We had Borough President Oddo stop by to continue to support Meghan in her desire to raise awareness and funds. We had Charlie Balloons entertaining the children and the adults too.

Bob Jackson - Our Disney Friend — **Bob Jackson – Our Disney Friend**

It was a perfect day, and a month later I can tell you the total funds raised were $13,045.40 to be exact! A large portion of that money has been sent to the PTEN Foundation and will have a significant impact on helping people like us with PTEN Mutations. The balance of the money is soon to be on it’s way to the Global Genes Project They will always be near and dear to Meghan. We identified first with the denim ribbon, and the logo “Hope, It’s in our Genes.” And that is the site we learned first about Rare Diseases, and that we in fact are among the lucky ones. These are lessons we will never forget.

Finally, I THINK, (and I apologize if we forgot anyone) all the thank you notes have been written or Emailed. When I finally settled down to do it, there were over 80. Meg helped, but I just flat out write faster. Now, we rest on that a bit, while we consider what changes and what remains the same for next year.

But, life did not even pause while we planned this event. My grandfather, my 96 year old grandfather, who was still living on the second floor of the two family home my mother grew up in, caring for my grandma, his bride of 70 years, fell on January 13th. This set of a tirade of events of the next few weeks that brought us all through an emotional roller coaster. My grandparents were the center of my world for much of my life, and even though I am blessed to have had them for 42 years, it is hard to imagine navigating life without them. Pop visited two hospitals, had mutliple strokes, and ultimately ended up in the nursing home for rehabilitation. The rehab was not meant to be, and on March 3rd he passed away peacefully, after some tumultuous days.

Pop - So much to so many — **Pop – So much to so many**

Grandma, now resides in that same nursing home. Alzheimer’s has robbed her of much of her memory, but she is well cared for by kind, patient people. She is safe. She is calmer. This is a good thing. And, in one of many ironies, perhaps her disease has been a blessing. There was no need for her to say goodbye to Pop, as he always seems to be just “across the room” when we visit. They were never meant to be apart any way.

Always together... — **Always together…**

We celebrated Pop’s life at a beautiful service on March 12th. My conscious mind, the rational one, is grateful he is at peace, and thrilled to know he is Home in Heaven. The little girl in me, the one who adores her grandfather is sad. Just very sad, and not looking forward to the series of “firsts” in front of us as reality sets in.

I planted the seedlings for my garden, just as my Pop showed me. I am tending to them on the kitchen table with plenty of sunlight. They have begun to sprout.

And those seedlings, and signs of new life remind me of why Pop loved the garden so. It is refreshing to see growth, new life, and new promise each day.

We celebrated Kathi’s bridal shower, as she and Jon will marry April 15th. All things new.

Time keeps passing.

In the interim there have been regular Mommy things to do, like swim practice, and doctor’s appointments, and household stuff. Thankfully in this house we have a very, very helpful Daddy, and we do a lot of team work. Thanks to him, all those weeks I was out of commission cherishing every moment with Pop, he was here, keeping it all going.

Last week we went dress shopping for some of the events coming quickly.

This week it was shoe shopping. Shopping for shoes is never as much fun, because it is hard to find a shoe that is 12 years old, and supports those feet, knees and legs. The right knee, the site of 6 surgeries targeting that AVM, has residual damage. The muscles are not formed as well, obvious only to Meghan when she puts on a pair of jeans. The foot is over one full size smaller than the other, and it is skinnier too. So, we buy two pairs of shoes to make one “pair.” We are careful. Frugal when we can be as it’s all x2, but focus is always on fit, style and comfort combined. No easy task. But, we did it.

Meghan left the store apologizing for the bill. I told her how grateful I am that we can pay for shoes, and other things. We had a long talk about the phrase, “I cried because I had no shoes, then I met a man who had no feet.” It fits nicely with the perspective talks we have all the time.

Tonight I was thrilled to find a website that will allow me to donate her “other” shoes to amputees. She was excited too. Something that will make us both feel better.

This week I scheduled some more appointments. I was waiting.

Friday we head to the gyn for the 3 month follow up. The hormones are a nightmare, but that’s for another post. The next biopsy is supposed to be in June…

The dermatologist 6 month will be during spring break. So will the orthopedist.

Cowden’s wasn’t gone. Heck, it wasn’t even resting. I was just using a big stick to hold it at bay for a few weeks. I’m sure I left some stuff out. It’ll come up if it was all that important. Just know-

We are still #BEATINGCOWDENS!

Onward…

Meghan’s Rare Disease Day Video and Speech 2016

Published on February 21, 2016 by beatingcowdens3 Comments

This is the text of the speech Meghan delivered at this year’s “Jean’s for Rare Genes 2” Fundraiser. Regardless of the monetary totals, which will come in the next days to weeks, I can assure you it was a success.

I want to start by thanking you for attending this fundraiser here today. This is the second “Jeans for Rare Genes, a tradition I hope continues to grow each year.

I knew nothing at all about Rare Diseases until the fall of 2011. I was in 3^rd grade. I went to a geneticist because I was having all sorts of medical trouble. He diagnosed me with Cowden’s Syndrome. A few weeks later he diagnosed my mom with the same thing.

Cowden’s Syndrome is a mutation (a break or a mistake) on the PTEN gene which is a gene that is supposed to keep the body from making tumors. Basically, when you have Cowden’s Syndrome, which is pretty rare (only 1 in 200,000 people) your body makes tumors. Sometimes they are benign, and sometimes they are cancer. It also causes my body to make vascular malformations, like the one in my right knee, that has caused me 6 surgeries all by itself. That is why with Cowden’s Syndrome we have to be watched all the time. There are so many doctors, so many things that need to be checked, and scanned and looked at, it can be really overwhelming.

You can’t catch Cowden’s Syndrome, it has to be inherited, like I got it from my Mom. You also can’t get rid of it. Once you have it, the only thing you can do is get checked, a lot.

I have had 16 surgeries so far, and I only turned 12 in August. That doesn’t even count for the doctor’s appointments, Emergency Room visits, scans, and never-ending blood tests.

When I first learned I had Cowden’s Syndrome, I went to a website called the Global Genes Project to learn of facts about rare diseases. I learned all sorts of interesting, and sometimes upsetting facts.

There are approximately7,000 different types of rare diseases and disorders, with more being discovered each day
30 million people in the United States are living with rare diseases. This equates to 1 in 10 Americans or 10% of the S. population
80% of rare diseases are genetic in origin
Approximately 50% of the people affected by rare diseases are children
30% of children with rare disease will not live to see their 5th birthday
95% of rare diseases have not one single FDA approved drug treatment
Approximately 50% of rare diseases do not have a disease specific foundation supporting or researching their rare disease

I started out feeling like I didn’t fit in anywhere. I couldn’t understand why all these diseases existed and no one seemed to know or care. I found the “Global Genes Project” motto, “Hope it’s in our Genes” to be a comforting play on words. I identified myself with the denim ribbon, a powerful symbol of Rare Genetic Disorders. My Mom’s friend made me a denim ribbon necklace, and I felt like I had an identity piece, something that represented me.

At first I organized an assembly at my school, and in 4^th grade we gave out denim ribbons to raise awareness. In 5^th grade we had a fundraiser. We sold some T-shirts, and had a small event at the school. The money went to the Global Genes Project.

Last year, a charity was created called the PTEN Foundation. It is the first charity that looks to help people with our specific disease. They want to create a patient database, so people with our Syndrome can be studied and learned about. Then, maybe there will be a way to help us.

As happy as I was about the PTEN Foundation, by this time, I had learned about a lot of other Rare Diseases, and kids, who didn’t have a chance to live and do as much as I can. I promised myself I would always remember those kids when I did any fundraisers.

Last February, “Jeans for Rare Genes” happened at the Hilton Garden Inn. I wasn’t sure I could pull off anything that big, but with a vote of confidence from Borough President Oddo, and my Mom supporting my vision, it happened. 150 people showed up, and we raised over $12,000. True to my word, half of the money went to the Global Genes Project, and the other half went to the PTEN Foundation.

This year, I invited Bob Jackson, my favorite entertainer from Walt Disney World, to come and play piano at “Jeans for Rare Genes 2.” He is here with us today and I am so excited! We also have “Charlie Balloons,” back to help us again, and lots of great raffles from generous donors. This year, I think and hope we can raise a lot of money to send to the PTEN Foundation and the Global Genes Project.

One of the hardest parts of having a Rare Disease is one I don’t like to talk about too much. Middle school is tough enough, but when you spend more time at the doctor than at social gatherings, it gets tougher to fit in. I am glad that with Cowden’s Syndrome I don’t “look” sick, except it makes it even harder for people to understand why my life is so different.

I’ve gained an appreciation for the reality that “everyone has something,” and I work hard at not judging others, because everyone is fighting their own battle. I want to make more people aware that this is the case, and that is why raising awareness for Rare Diseases is so important to me.

The pressure of life, the surgeries, the hospitals, the worrying, the waiting, and the wondering, has done a lot to make me who I am. I don’t wish for anyone else to really understand this pressure, but I sometimes wish more people would understand me.

I have met a handful of people along the way, some in the most unlikely places. These people have provided me support through the pressure, and I am forever grateful.

I know I still have a lot of time to grow into the person I am supposed to be. I love swimming, and drama and singing. I do well in school, and I love being with my friends. I love helping others. I will continue to search out my “Corner of the Sky.”

As you watch the video I have prepared for you, you will see that despite the pressure of life, I will not ever be defined by my disease. I am determined to focus on a brighter future, and to channel my energy into making a real difference in this world.

I look forward to seeing what the future hold, and how the next chapter in my life turns out. I hope to see you at our event next year!

When you’re through reading take the time to appreciate her video, created by herself!

Inspiration

Published on February 17, 2016 by beatingcowdens1 Comment

Mother. Father. Daughter. Son. Spouse. Sister. Brother. Grandparent. Aunt. Uncle. Niece. Nephew. Friend.

If we are lucky, we connect the word “Inspiration” with one or more of them in our lives.

It’s been a really long month. And on the surface we have been preparing for the Second Annual “Jeans for Rare Genes” Fundraiser at the Hilton this Sunday, February 21st. ( TICKETS FOR THE FUNDRAISER – HERE )

My husband has been wrapping baskets. My daughter has been soliciting donations, and publicizing the event. She was invited to speak at a Young Republicans Meeting, a Junior Giving Circle Meeting at IS75, and she was invited to speak to PS30 in Westerleigh. Tonight she is thrilled to be speaking at the Staten Island Giving Circle Meeting. Staten Island Giving Circle

I have been trying to stay on top of vendors, and seating, and tickets. But I have been distracted. We have all been distracted.

Those two, in the center, my grandparents, are at the center of this family. They are the inspiration. It is their ripple effect that allows all of us to do what we can to make the world better. They are married 70 years. She is 95. He is 96. And until just over a month ago he lovingly cared for her with the limited assistance of my mom and a 4 hour a day aide. He cooked, cleaned, shopped, did the laundry, paid the bills. And endured a great deal, out of love. Pure love.

My grandfather spent 4 years in service to our country during World War II. He married my Grandma a few weeks after returning in December of 1945. He became a member of the FDNY for 23 years. They raised two children. They acted as second parents for many years to my older sister and myself. We watched Pop, a man of faith, not talk the talk, but also ‘walk the walk.’

I learned the meaning of inspiration through his humble humility. I learned love by watching him kiss Grandma every time he left the house. I learned generosity by watching him give of himself, unceasing, to neighbors, friends, and especially family. He inspires my life, and daily inspires me to be a better person.

His health is failing. In one month the transformation is utterly disturbing. And yet, he managed the strength to mouth the words to “Jesus Loves Me” and the Lord’s Prayer on Sunday as my brother-in-law gave us communion. I’ve been distracted by one of my inspirations.

His stubbornness, one of his best, and most challenging qualities, is one I passed on to my daughter.

Most of you know her story well. For those who don’t I’ll give you the shortest version I can.

She was born in distress, spent 4 days as the biggest, fiestiest baby in the NICU before heading home. There was a year or more of colicky sleepless nights, which melded together with hospital visits, the first of many surgeries to come, developmental delays, early intervention, and so on. By the time she was three I had CPSE telling me she’d never sit in a normal PreK or a regular school. We read, and researched, and peeled away layers in ways that were sometimes conventional and sometimes alternative. We found a combination of strategies that left my girl in an honors program early in her academic career.

The surgeries kept coming. The doctors appointments were relentless. The Physical Therapist Dr. Jill who loved her so much, pushed me to genetic testing. There the diagnosis of PTEN mutation, or Cowden’s Syndrome changed things forever.

Now there was a name. Now there was a reason. But now there was so much more to be worried about. Now people scurried and scampered about and whispered and doctors “googled” while we were in the room. Now her diagnosis prompted MY diagnosis, as Cowden’s is inherited. And so much of my own medical history made sense.

Four years ago I was pushed to undergo a bilateral mastectomy. It was supposed to be prophylactic based on the insane breast cancer risks for Cowden’s Syndrome patients. And then on pathology there was the breast cancer diagnosis, and the realization that my daughter saved my life. Humbled.

The surgeries persist. And get more complicated as the years go on. Life gets more complicated when you are 12 and in Junior High. Kids don’t really get this life. And well, they shouldn’t. But it gets lonely.

Sometimes she gets angry. Mostly she tolerates the loneliness. Mostly she channels her energy. She dreams of cures. She knows cures take money. So she spearheads fundraisers. She talks even when no one listens. She is grateful for her Cowden’s in the midst of the rare diseases we have seen.

She gave up soccer, and running, and dance. She hurts after normal kid play. She gets frustrated. Then she swims. Not to be put off, she found the place she can compete. And she pushes herself to be better every day.

She does well in school. Although it’s not always politically correct to talk about it. I’m her Mom, so I can say it.

She gets up every day. She smiles. She reaches. She inspires. Me, and countless others. I am one of the lucky ones who has been inspired by many – right in my own family.

So, a few weeks ago when the local paper asked for an inspirational Staten Islander, she was my natural choice. And I wrote, honestly, and without a second thought.

When the paper came out asking for us to vote I read every bio. And I was inspired. By all of them. Then Meghan read them. She was so touched I had written about her, she told me she’s be proud to lose to any of them.

There was a Facebook post this morning by the daughter of another nominee. Her Dad sounds like a stellar man. He offered to do anything for Meghan. He is kind and generous of heart. The daughter is lucky, as I am lucky. We have inspiration right in our own families.

Maybe we can all meet at the fundraiser Sunday!

TICKETS FOR SUNDAY 2/21 HERE!

You can read all about all of them and vote below.

Somehow, I think they’ve all won.

READ AND VOTE FOR INSPIRATIONAL STATEN ISLANDER!

The Best You Can…

Published on January 24, 2016January 24, 2016 by beatingcowdens2 Comments

Friday we met a good doctor. A new endocrinologist. He is young. He is friendly. He is smart. He is ready to be a doctor to Meghan. I am grateful.

Friday Mom got her second cataract done and checked before the storm. So necessary for more than visual acuity. It just needed to be done. I am thankful.

I was about to say today was one of those days where you have to focus on your perspective, and it will define your outcome. But, really that’s every day, isn’t it?

We woke up under about 30 inches of snow here in NYC. Now the thing about living in NYC is that you have to learn, as the Marines say, to “Improvise, Adapt, and Overcome.” Because nothing really stops. At least not for long.

Yesterday there were travel bans. Yesterday we were to stay off the roads. Today we are told that the City’s 1 million school children will report to school tomorrow, and with them, their thousands of teachers and support staff will report as well.

In many boroughs this is not such a big deal. Public transportation is at the ready. Moving around is easy.

Not the case here on Staten Island. Almost everyone travels by car.

Yesterday Felix tried to keep on top of the snow. It was fruitless.

Last night an ambulance got stuck in front of my house. My husband and a neighbor dug them back to a main road. We said a prayer for the person they were headed to, and continued on our night.

This morning, we woke early got the shovels and the snowblower. He started at one end, and I at the other. But in the front of the house I was met by my neighbors. We groaned a bit, and pleasant conversation ensued as we gave each other a hand.

At one point the conversation turned to Meghan’s footwear. Somehow. And as I explained that she has 2 different sized feet, and we buy 2 different shoes and toss the opposites, she seemed stunned. And I said soon after we toss the opposites we sit for a moment in gratitude for 2 working feet, and a financial situation that allows us to pay our credit card bills. She smiled. She gets it. She’s had life struggles of her own.

We got the cars free. We set ourselves up to hope for the best for tomorrow.

Then Felix headed with Ken to shovel out my grandparents.

Grandma, when memory came easier to her, used to sing, ” Count your many blessings, count them one by one…”

Grandma is 95 and Pop is 96. Life is more challenging for them than it ever was before. Yet there are so many blessings. They have neighbors that help clear pathways when we can’t get to them. They have a tenant who is a friend, who looks in on them and keeps us posted. They are really special, and we are grateful for the kindness of those they interface with daily.

When he got home, my husband stole a quick meal and headed out to make an igloo and a snowman with Meghan, after a romp in the snow with the dogs. He is a good husband, and a good Dad. A really good man.

Some time this afternoon my phone rang. It was an internet friend looking for some reassurance. I think I was able to give it. Keep your heart and mind focused. Stay physically, mentally, and spiritually healthy. Do the best you can with what you have, where you are. Always.

Tomorrow Meghan will see the knee surgeon. Time to follow-up on a less than stellar MRI/MRA experience the week before last. Time to check on the status of the AVM. Holding my breath that it’s behaving. Tomorrow I will hope all the main roads from here to NYC are plowed well, and I will gratefully pay to park in an overpriced lot. Perspective.

We are actively engaged in “Jeans for Rare Genes 2,” working on everything from ticket sales to journal ads to raffles. My Meghan is ready to channel this week’s pain into a focused goal. Meghan wants the PTEN foundation to have the money they need to create a patient database. Vision.

Every day we are given a choice. Many choices. Life is not all peaches and cream. Not for any of us. Some days I struggle. Most days I know which side of the bus the sit on.

Here’s to hoping for an easy safe parking spot at work tomorrow, a mind eased from the worry of loved ones, and a smooth trip to NYC.

Local Newspaper Coverage

Published on January 20, 2016January 20, 2016 by beatingcowdensLeave a comment

This is already all over for my local friends, but for anyone else who is interested, this article was written for our local newspaper. It will publish in print Monday, but is in the online paper today. Click the link below.

http://blog.silive.com/gracelyns_chronicles/2016/01/post_23.html#incart_river_mobile_home

Relax, Nothing is Under (My) Control

Published on January 3, 2016January 4, 2016 by beatingcowdens1 Comment

Today I dropped my daughter’s iPad. Down a flight of stairs. With no case. I’ve never seen quite so many pieces on a screen. But, it still turns on. And somehow we all managed to remain calm. My husband set the appointment at Apple for Weds. night. Yes, we have “Apple Protect.” Yes, I know there may be a deductible. And, while I called myself several names, I was most impressed that all three of us remained very calm.

Maybe we are learning.

NOTHING is under control really, except how you handle the things that are out of control.

Yesterday I had the dog to the vet. In a little under a year since we rescued her, she has ballooned from 42 pounds to 65. I guess she feels content in my house. We must be doing something right. There was this rash on her belly. And $300 later, with a shot of antibiotics, some antihistamines, and this cone on her head – it’ll be ok.

Except in the middle of the night. Then she needs her Mom to love her cause she can’t get comfortable. But, hey, really sleep is overrated.

On Thursday we went to see the ENT. He checks Meghan periodically since the hospitalization 18 months ago to gauge how her reflux is affecting her throat. It was a bit redder than usual this time. So, we juggled a few medicines and left with directions to find a GI. Easier said than done. Our last one was fantastic, but she took a break from practicing, and our local options are less than fantastic. So we will seek, and hopefully find…

On Wednesday we had the 2 week follow-up from the biopsy. We left with a script for progesterone which is apparently our only option. It’s necessary to slow the growth of those precancerous cells, and hopefully get them to go away. Verified with the head PTEN researcher in Cleveland, through my local geneticist. I hate hormones. Hopefully she tolerates it. Hopefully the cells behave themselves. Three month follow-up, then we schedule the next biopsy. She needs another biopsy so we can have a “clean” one. That’ll be in June. Something to look forward to.

On Wednesday after the doctor, Meghan and I took the train from downtown to Times Square to see Daddy at work. This is truly one of the highlights of her year and there was no way we were missing it!

Favorite Family Picture! Wearing our "NEVER GIVE UP!" thegsf.org — Favorite Family Picture!
Wearing our “NEVER GIVE UP!” thegsf.org

On Tuesday we stayed home. She missed play practice. She was recovering.

Monday had started out full of energy – with a huge nail in my new tire. Thankfully the car has warning lights to tell me when the pressure is low, and thankfully I got up early, because soon after I got home from getting it fixed, she woke up. In pain. We ended up spending Monday in the Emergency room at NYU. All told about 8 hours, a CT scan, a chest X-ray and blood tests, they found an elevated WBC, and free-floating abdominal fluid. The doctor said it’s likely a cyst burst. She was vomiting so badly that morning I never knew WHAT had hit her. Just something hard. The fluid, in my very sensitive to her body, girl, was likely causing the severe pain – just being there.

Maybe it was triggered by Sunday’s Swim Practice at the Long Course (50M) pool on Long Island. Maybe not. We’ll never know.

Christmas seems like only a blur. Mom had it this year, a kind respite for me. Some time spent with the family. Some time to just be together. It was perfect. And I am so grateful.

The week has been wild, and I guess that’s why I’ve been quiet. But, I am proud to say we have laughed despite the chaos. I can’t think of a day this week I haven’t laughed so hard I cried.

NOTHING is under control. At least not under MY control. And I am going to TRY really hard to be more OK with that.

The schedule for 2016 will not lighten up even a bit. I have an ultrasound Saturday, Meghan has an MRI on the 14th and the knee doctor on the 25th. It will not slow down. I must stay organized, and healthy, and focused. I must continue to eat well and exercise.

Most importantly I must laugh. Often. With my family. With my friends. The adventures will continue. But

Happy New Year to all!

It’s Complicated…

Published on December 22, 2015December 22, 2015 by beatingcowdens2 Comments

I just ended a 30 minute conversation with Meghan’s adolescent gynecologist. The fact that she spends 30 minutes on the phone with me speaks to a rare spark of passion for her field, and a genuine desire to help. These are things we clutch because they are uncommon, and, when they come at all, they are fleeting.

The long and the short of the pathology, which arrived earlier than planned, was that there was no malignant finding. Yes, you read that right. No malignant finding. (Insert Happy Dance here…)

And the gratitude for the prayers and positive energy was lifted up. We truly are always aware of the potential alternatives, regardless of our situation.

But, as is always the case with Meghan, I encourage you to keep reading. Nothing is ever really simple. And, as the years go by it seems to get progressively more complicated.

While in fact there was no malignant finding, there was not a purely benign pathology either. She had “the best type of hyperplasia you’d want to find.”

Except when pressed, the gynecologist admitted that there is no type of hyperplasia that you’d ever want to find in a 12-year-old, and that there should be nothing but normal cells there.

Hmmm. Hyperplasia. Medicine.net says…. “Hyperplasia: An increase in the number of normal cells in a tissue or an organ. Hyperplasia can represent a precancerous condition.” And various other sites say the same. The doctor agreed. The pathology finding was not “normal,” and therefore it must be treated.

See, hyperplasia, specifically endometrial hyperplasia might be detected in women 3-4 times her age. It might even be expected in women 5 or 6 times her age. But, her age is 12. And none of this is ok.

I pushed her about thinking outside the box, and she reminded me that the entire biopsy WAS thinking outside the box. Any other teen would have been treated for months or more on hormones. That could have had epic consequences.

In the short-haul, she gets to heal from an invasive procedure. In the next week more hormones will be introduced to her body in an attempt to keep the hyperplasia at bay, and most importantly to keep it from progressing. But, hormones, although commonly used to regulate bleeding, require special care in the case of a young lady with no thyroid, a difficult time balancing the endocrine hormones, an extremely elevated risk of uterine and breast cancer, thanks to the PTEN mutation, AND TWO first degree relatives, with estrogen fed breast cancer.

For now, she keeps her uterus. And we hold our breath. We hope that over the next few months things will start to calm down. And some time in the next 6 months the invasive biopsy will be repeated over again to make sure the hyperplasia is gone or behaving itself.

To Meghan this mimics the process that took place at the beginning of the end of thyroid removal. We had about 3 years of progressive biopsies before they decided to pull the plug and take it out. She knows, and agrees, that we will all fight longer and harder for her uterus. For so many reasons. But the similarities can’t be overlooked. Nor can the distressing notion that another body part is misbehaving.

When we were diagnosed in 2011 we were told there would be screenings and monitoring. We even figured on a few doctors every 6 months. At one point we dreamed of getting them all into a week in August and a week in February and living a somewhat normal life the rest of the year.

Instead, in Meghan’s life alone there have been 5 surgical procedures in the last 13 months. Digest that for a minute, because it’s hard to keep track of.

Currently we are monitoring her thyroid levels through blood every 6-8 weeks, visits twice a year, and annual ultrasound to monitor potential regrowth.

We are monitoring her knee where the AVM resides, through twice a year visits to the interventional radiologist and twice a year visits to the orthopedist. There is an annual MRI. And two of those procedures in the last 13 months have been for the knee. Add in surgical follow-up visits, and Physical Therapy.

The dermatologist needs to see her twice a year. Not because anything has been found on her, but because in addition to me passing the PTEN gene to her, apparently her father and I BOTH have Dysplastic Nevus, a “precancerous” condition where moles have a tendency to become malignant. Couple that with the almost 10 % melanoma risk Cowden’s patients carry, and in addition to the sunscreen, there are necessary scannings.

There is the gastroenterologist, who became necessary almost two years ago when the use of Celebrex to control the knee AVM started to rot out the GI tract.

And the ENT who was added so he could monitor the larynx to avoid unnecessary endoscopy but gauge improvement from the scary state she was in in May of 2014.

Oh, and the doctor who prescribes the digestive enzymes because they work, and no one else will.

And the pediatrician who doesn’t like to go more than 3 weeks without examining Meghan, who also keeps her on Acyclovir, prophylactically for chronic HSV that recurs on her face.

And, don’t forget the hand surgeon, who we love, (who doesn’t have a hand surgeon on the team?) who has twice in 3 years removed vascular lesions, one from each palm. And those surgical follow ups.

Nothing is neat and clean. Nothing is contained. Nothing ever fit into those 2 weeks we once dreamed about. This disease has projectile vomited all over our lives. And it’s everywhere. And it’s messy and gross, and we just want to take a hot shower and move on.

Because we haven’t even discussed fitting in MY appointments…

And a full-time job….

And an honor student….

Who is a swimmer….

And a theater buff….

And a community activist in the making…

All after work, and school, into the city, in traffic, and expensive parking lots, in hopes of getting back local in time for practice.

Last week I told Meghan over the Christmas Vacation we would need to see her gyn, and do her knee MRI, and my abdominal sonogram. She was less than impressed. The general sentiment is that we don’t get vacations, we get days off from school to go to the doctor. I can’t argue.

The physical, mental, and social ramifications of this under-funded, “orphan disease” are having a profound effect on the life of my girl, and her mom and dad too.

That is one of the main reasons we work so hard to raise funds and awareness. Maybe one day…

So tonight, we are grateful. We are on our knees in gratitude, for the prayers that were lifted on her behalf. We are thrilled to hear the words, “It’s not malignant,” but we are painfully aware the journey of monitoring another body part has just begun.

So if we are not shouting from the rooftops, please don’t think us ungrateful. We are not. We are relieved. We took our first deep breath in weeks. But, we did ask Santa for some new body armor, polished and ready for the new challenges PTEN Hamartoma Tumor Syndrome, (Cowden’s Syndrome) are actively placing in our way.

We ask that you continue your prayers, and continue to educate yourself about genetic cancers, orphan diseases and people like us, left to be our own advocates, in a world that isn’t overly concerned with how our story shakes out.

While we are in transit, to and from a lot of places we’d rather not be, we talk a lot. Most of it is complicated. But some of it, is quite simply about how a 12-year-old with a vision is going to change the world.

Come join us on FEBRUARY 21st as we try to draw attention to Rare and Genetic Diseases! Beating Cowden’s Fundraiser LINK – PLEASE HELP US SPREAD THE WORD!

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The Patient or The Person?

Published on December 13, 2015 by beatingcowdensLeave a comment

I am sure I am not the only one, especially the only parent, who struggles daily with wondering if I have made the best choices for my daughter.

Sometimes we argue, and bicker, and I find myself wondering if I am reaching her. Other times I look at all her activities and wonder if she is too busy. Still other times, I look at her and I see those tired eyes, and I wonder what I can do to make things better.

Choices. Life is about choices. And around 12 years old is that transitional time where more and more of the choices become hers, not mine. I can guide, and support, but she is beginning to make more of her own choices, and handle their consequences, be they positive, or not.

She is doing a great job, and truly despite a few hiccups, I could not be more proud. But I will always worry.

The one area though, where the decisions are mine and her father’s to make, are the complex medical decisions. And with Meghan there are many. I have to wrestle with my roles, advocating for her best interests physically, mentally, and emotionally.

This has been a growing process for me, and there has been such a learning curve. With Meghan there is always a medical decision, always a worry, always something that has to be checked out and looked at. Many of these things have potentially serious consequences. But, she is not a medical specimen, with a fascinating genetic disorder. She is a child, a young lady, with hopes, dreams, goals, and emotions. Finding the balance between who she is and what she needs is tenuous.

Sometimes I get it wrong.

This time, I got it right.

The doctors are worried. She needs a biopsy. But, it’s not her first biopsy, and it won’t be her last. There is reason for concern, and we take that concern very seriously. The biopsy was to take place on the 9th of December, the first available. It would keep her from swimming for about 10 days.

She looked at me. I knew in my gut what to do.

No, you’ll have to book her for the 16th. (Even knowing the extra week of waiting would be agonizing for me.)

The doctor looked puzzled. But…

Listen, she has her drama concert on the 10th, and her swim meet on the 12th and 13th. She’s primed and ready to qualify for a championship meet. One week is not going to change that biopsy. You and I both know, it is already whatever it is.

She looked at me. She looked at Meghan.

My eyes locked with my girl. In those eyes she thanked me for putting her the person, before her the patient.

Thursday there was this…

Saturday, there was this…

And before the meet was over she had personal best times in 4 out of 5 events, and 2 qualifying times for Silver Championships.

We have no idea what Wednesday and the ensuing week waiting for pathology will bring.

But, there is a peace in knowing the person is always more important than the patient.

I Found the Christmas Spirit, at the Grocery Store

Published on December 5, 2015December 5, 2015 by beatingcowdens2 Comments

She could have ignored the tears in my eyes. She could have beeen annoyed by my lack of focus. Undoubtedly she was tired. It was Friday night, and after 8. I would never see her again. It would have been so easy to look past my face, and my shaky mannerisms, and rush my order through.

But, she made eye contact. And, she asked me if I was ok. And, she meant it.

Although every rehearsed part of me wanted to recite the appropriate line, the one that says, “Yes, I’m fine thank you…” I just couldn’t get my mouth to form the words.

A sigle tear fell down my cheek. And then another. I was in the grocery store. A ritual every third Friday, miles from home. By sheer grace alone no one was behind me.

As the words came tumbing out she made eye contact. She showed compassion. As I rambled about the doctor who had just called me, on my cell phone, after 7 on a Friday night, and the raw fear I felt for my 12 year old, she listened. At the grocery store.

A quick summary of 12 years of ill health and yet a bright, beautiful young daughter who defies all the odds. A few words about the 4 years since diagnosis with a rare, genetic mutation that causes benign and malignant tumors. A brief sentence about the constant battle to keep the malignancies at bay. The terrifying, bone crushing fear that we might be losing.

She bagged my cart. She found my shopper’s card. She reminded me where to sign for my credit card.

And then she did something that I will never forget.

She called her manager. And at first I didn’t understand. Then, she said, “I’ll walk you to your car.” It was cold. Almost raining. She didn’t flinch.

She told me about her own experiences with missed and bumbled diagnoses. She told me she hoped my daughter would be ok. And she meant it.

Somehow I got home that night. The nightmare still continues. But, this woman….

In this busy holiday season, where we sometimes forget what really matters, she cared. At the exact moment when I needed someone to care, and I was surrounded by complete strangers, she cared.

I don’t even know her name. But, she reminded me about Christmas spirit. She reminded me that people care. She showed compassion to a stranger.

She has no idea how much she did for me.

She sent me right home to hold the one who matters most.

This kid. My stength. My motivation. My hero.

Making the Most of It All…

Published on November 10, 2015 by beatingcowdens2 Comments

Sunday night, coming home from a swim meet, Meghan outlined her goals. Among them included, “no surgery for a whole year.” To someone who hasn’t had 4 surgeries in the last 12 months, that may not seem quite that important, but to Meghan it was at the tip-top of the list.

Over the last several years she has spent more time living in “recovery” than just living.

She dropped 16 seconds total off her event times at this month’s meet, and 17 last month. Insanity. Except to a young lady who is now growing into herself, and her abilities.

She wants to swim. Hard and often.

She wants to soar academically – no average under a 95 will do for her.

She wants to act, and sing, and be on stage.

She wants to participate in her youth group, and retreats, and live her faith.

She wants to raise community awareness of Cowden’s Syndrome and rare diseases.

She is on the move all the time. I know, because I am with her. Or helping her stay organized. Or transporting her at least.

This weekend we drove 200 miles. Today at least another 60. LOTS of time for car chat. Lots of time to get to know each other well.

Sometimes she drives me crazy. Sometimes I frustrate her so badly she wants to scream. Sometimes she does homework, reads, or works on projects. But, lots of other times we talk. About anything and everything. And as much as I hate traffic, and long distances, I’ve learned to make the most of our time in the car. I’ve learned to appreciate my captive audience, with the realization she won’t be in my back seat forever.

As a matter of fact after today’s appointment, she could easily be in the front seat. All the time. At a very trim waistline, and a height of almost 5 foot 7, she presents as YEARS older than she is. Which I sometimes have to remind myself when I am busy expecting her to have it all together. Sometimes she still needs me to help her along.

Today was the knee surgeon. Six month follow-up. He sees the shift in the patella. He feels the scar tissue, and the clicking. But, he said, she can wait. She can wait until she’s ready before he cleans it out again. With Cowden’s it’s a fine line. How much pain can you deal with? Because every surgery will lead to an overgrowth of scar tissue which carries its own issues. Drag your feet. Know when enough is enough.

Next we will have an MRI to check on the AVM. As long as that’s stable, we should have a bit of time. A bit of time to do some things besides recover. A bit of time to be a bit more like a “normal” busy 12-year-old. Well, like a “normal” 12-year-old planning a fund-raiser for more than 150 people with her favorite Disney entertainer… But, hey, she dreams big.

Tomorrow she goes to another doctor. And about this one I just pray. A lot.

In two weeks I get to remind myself I have Cowden’s with an unplanned visit to my plastic surgeon to question a poorly behaving painful prosthesis.

Plenty to preoccupy the mind. In our immediate and extended family.

One day, one event, one obstacle at a time.

I did start my Christmas shopping. After 2 years of holiday sadness, I am craving joy, and celebration. I am craving the anticipation of the birth of the baby Jesus. I am determined to remove myself from the holiday hustle and bustle. I am determined to set my mind right. Because none of us ever know. Really. And there is no promise of tomorrow. Really.

But organization makes me happy. And it’s about being happy. And making the most of it all. All the time.