Cowden syndrome – Page 29

Transitions

Published on March 28, 2013 by beatingcowdens2 Comments

Transitions.

It seems they are happening all the time, probably for everyone, but this week we are really feeling them.

When the week started and I loosely reviewed our schedule for the week Meghan was flat out disgusted at the number of appointments we had. She is tired of doctors. I can’t blame her. So am I.

Watch this. Scan that. Come back and see me about that… UGH.

Transitions.

So when she asked me to stop making every vacation full of appointments, I tried to explain to her that with two people with “Cowden’s Syndrome,” and a whole pile of “every 6 month” appointments, it is almost impossible. And then when I looked at the tears in her eyes I promised to try. “I just want a little time to be bored!” So I got a jump on our summer appointments. So far I scheduled 12 from June 27 to July 16. I have used only 6 days to do it. There is one day with 4 appointments, two days with 2, and the other 4 each have their own days. Now, as long as no one looks for any follow ups… maybe we can plan to have a somewhat normal summer. At least I can dream

Transitions.

She is also tired of homework. Even from teachers with the best of all intentions. She is tired of the stress of the upcoming State exams, even as I work to downplay it. She was so excited this week when I told her she could read whatever she wanted – whenever she wanted – without needing to write a summary. You would have thought I gave her candy. She used to love everything about school. Now the best I get from her is that she likes her teachers. What are we doing to these kids?

Transitions.

Her thumb still hurts. Injured at dance on Monday. Its been 3 days. Seems like it is going to linger. It isn’t – or doesn’t seem to be broken, but she is done dancing. She told me yesterday. She just wants to get through the recital.

Transitions. Things are ever changing.

First it was soccer – too tough on her body. Now its dance. Sometimes she can hurt herself just walking up the steps. What next?

Transitions.

No more PT in school. She doesn’t need it. Or so they say right now. We will double check just to be sure. But there is lots of PT going on. Strengthening that body. Preparing her to swim like the fish she wants to be. More testing in school when we return. Just to make sure she is getting everything she needs. Nothing more. Nothing less.

Transitions.

Holy Week services at a new church. Sunday we become members. Warmly welcomed – attending as a family. Mixed emotions that always lead to joy and confidence at the power of the Holy Spirit in our lives.

Transitions.

Our lives are full of transitions. Like the lenses on Meghan’s glasses – changing with the environment and the circumstances. We are growing together. Learning our roles. Fighting not to allow Cowden’s Syndrome to define us, but rather to find where it fits into who we are as people. We are working on our health, and our own maintenance appointments. We are learning about the effects of the syndrome, and discovering how much is not yet known.

We are finding our new roles, as people charged to raise awareness, and to spread the word.

We are figuring out where we belong. In school. In sports. In extracurricular activities. In religion. On our lives.

Big changes all around. God’s plan unfolding. Eyes and ears and heart wide open.

Transitions…

I fear this is the beginning of the end…

Published on March 25, 2013March 25, 2013 by beatingcowdens5 Comments

… of dance class that is.

It sounds so dramatic. I guess maybe its not such a big deal. But today it feels like one more thing on a list Cowden’s Syndrome has robbed her of.

Meghan was never going to be a performance dancer. She wasn’t going to do ballet for hours. But, for the last 3 years, she has taken one dance class a week.

First recital - 2011 — First recital – 2011

Hip Hop.

Not because she knows the music, but rather because they dance in sneakers – and that is better for her joints.

I can’t say enough good things about the studio. The owner is a compassionate, kind, professional, lovely woman who strives to make every child feel like a million bucks. She revels in their accomplishments. She celebrates every ability level. She truly loves children, and dance.

This place is the perfect fit for Meghan.

Her joints acted up in the fall. She missed a month before she could get it back together. No worries – no sweat.

A few weeks ago she twisted an ankle at dance. Xrays, a sprain. A week or two off.

Then there was the shoulder thing. Not dance related – but it still cost her some time.

And then tonight. I picked her up from class and her flushed face told the story before her teacher had to.

“She hurt her hand, but we don’t know how.”

I do.

EFF YOU COWDENS!

So, I took her home. There was a shower, and some ice. Nothing more than a light sprain I am sure. But her back hurt too. So we put her to bed very gently. And we spoke about maybe finding ways to increase swimming instead of maintaining dance.

The recital though is such a rush. She loves it. She loves being on stage – the energy. The celebration.

On stage - May 2012 — On stage – May 2012

Physical Therapy tomorrow morning. We will let Dr. Jill input her thoughts – although I already know them.

She is pretty good when she dances. She is a quick study. She has made so much progress. And she has some moves. (Those are NOT from me!)

She will ultimately get to decide. Although its probably for the best to back out now – before she really gets hurt. The final decision will be hers. So I say.

In reality the final decision has been made by Cowden’s Syndrome, and its ruthless attack on her joints and muscles, and connective tissue.

She is resting peacefully – for now. But I am cranky.

Things tend to work out as they should, but I am still waiting for this little girl…(young woman…AAAKK!) to catch a break…

Thinking outside the box

Published on March 22, 2013 by beatingcowdens4 Comments

And so began the week that was.

A “simple” annual review – not so much. But that’s OK. Mamma Bear remained calm. I am most strategic that way.

I am however exhausted, and facing another battle.

It was a bit of a struggle to keep the chin up this week, as I often felt like her:

But, I didn’t act like her. Not even once. (Well once I cried – but I got yanked past it.) And that’s about all of that story I can share here, for now.

But these last few ~~weeks~~ months, have left me with a lot of questions.

See, there is this constant battle to do what is right, or what I perceive to be right, as I advocate for Meghan, and for my family. But inevitably, because I am so introspective – I am left with a ton of questions at every fork in the road.

Last week when we took her to 4 doctors and an ER about her shoulder, I ended up being told I went to the wrong ER – that we didn’t belong there. But it is a cancer center, she is already a thyroid patient there, and my child grows things. While we are blessed that none have been cancer yet – I am not of the “wait and see mentality.” But, still I paused and wondered if I had done something wrong.

In the end, the rheumatologist gave her a muscle relaxant. We began rehabilitative PT and I am seeing progress. The shoulder and neck remain wickedly sensitive – but she has back almost full range of motion.

Still we watch the lump behind her shoulder blade, in hopes it continues to decrease in size and doesn’t turn out to be the “soft tissue tumor” we were advised to look out for.

Really – no one has even a bit of a clue. And it is often just downright exhausting.

Physical Therapy this week was refreshing. At least I deal with professionals who have made themselves aware of Meghan’s needs and focus with a goal of eliminating, or severely managing, her pain. Thank God we found them.

Because of them, Meghan will swim in her meet tomorrow. No freestyle – it hurts the neck. But that was OK with her.

Backstroke seems by far to be her favorite. I love watching her swim. She seems so at peace.

It gives me a time to break from all the questions. The wondering. The worry.

It is easy to doubt yourself sometimes when so many things are changing at once. Whether you are precipitating the change, or reacting to it out of necessity, when there is so much at once I think it is normal to wonder.

We are not super difficult to get along with. Yet we go through doctors like a toddler goes through shoes. We have very few close friends – confidants to be trusted. Those who will be honest and open minded. We spend a lot of time alone. We get along really well – thank goodness.

I think what we look for is doctors, friends, associates, people who can practice:

I just wish there were more. No one really fits in a box. And that’s not just us, and our “rare disease.” Everyone is unique, and special. Everyone needs to be looked at with a fresh pair of eyes. Everyone needs to be viewed through the perspective of the other person. Only when we start to look at things through someone else’s point of view do we solve anything.

It is the outside the box thinkers that solve IEP problems, medical problems, friendship concerns, desires to make the world better…

Daring to think outside the box is risky. It is hard. It is necessary.

Especially in this season of “test prep” where I have seen this scenario one too many times…

Mine, yours, all of them – they are individuals. They have specific needs. We should never be discouraged when advocating for them and their needs.

In many cases – we are their only voice. We MUST think outside the box for them.

25,000 – How did THAT happen?

Published on March 20, 2013 by beatingcowdensLeave a comment

I like math.

It makes sense. At least to me. There are questions. And then there are answers.

I ~~sometimes~~ often wish life could be a little more like math.

I am a numbers person by default. I remember dates, and addresses, and phone numbers.

I used to be even better at it, but age and stress have clouded a bit of the clarity.

But, imagine my surprise when I checked in on my blog in the middle of this crazy week to find the stats telling me it exceeded 25,000 views!

I can not for the life of me – even loving numbers- imagine how that happened. But it did. And I am humbled and grateful.

Especially on weeks like this.

Where things don’t go according to plan. And I have to be so careful what I say when the battles are too close to home.

I am tired. So tired of fighting – all the time.

But you bolster me up, and give a reason to keep fighting, so that Meghan gets everything she needs, and that I do too!

So thank you… and stick around. You never know what will happen next!

There is always hope... — There is always hope…

Facebook – and other lies we tell ourselves

Published on March 16, 2013March 16, 2013 by beatingcowdens2 Comments

I went to a wake this afternoon. It seems to be something I have been doing far too often lately.

This one was for an old friend.

Let me clarify – he was far from old. As a matter of fact he was just 43. But he was a friend from high school, which apparently was a long time ago.

In high school we had a thriving youth group at my church. We spent so much time together, they became extended family. We came from different schools, and our ages ranged – but there was a love and peace and acceptance among us that was really something spectacular.

We met at the church sometimes. We watched movies, played games and talked.

We sometimes went on retreats- Koinonia, Pennsylvania, Virginia. We traveled to youth gatherings. We laughed, we cried. We held each other up.

But time got in the way and years passed. College led into grad school, and husbands, and wives, and jobs. Then there were children and houses… and, you know how it goes.

Before you realize it – it has been 10, 15, 20 years since you have chatted with a friend. Nothing ever happened to cause the separation, just life – getting in the way of keeping in touch with those we love.

I met up with him last year, at the wake for his mother. We talked for a while – like old times. Years seem to evaporate in the presence of those we truly love. You see he was one of the “good guys,” and possessed the capability to light up a room with his sense of humor. He showed compassion for everyone, and had the ability to make you want to talk to him. I left that day, not overly confident we would see each other again soon, but still missing my high school youth group, and the security that the net of dear friends had woven for me through some trying times.

So when the news came this week that he had died. Without warning or explanation. That he had left behind a wife, 2 children, his dad, 2 brothers, 2 sisters-in-law, and their children – I was absolutely stunned. That’s just not the way its supposed to go down. He was one of the good guys.

So I found myself today in a funeral home in New Jersey having an impromptu reunion with my high school youth group. Most of us are “in touch” via facebook. I read an article here, see a picture there. I catch a quick status update from time to time. Sometimes I click “like.” And somewhere in my head I have justified that this constitutes remaining in touch. I was appalled at myself for even allowing the illusion to fester. Don’t misunderstand me. Facebook, and its social networking concept is fantastic. But it does not – nor can it ever- replace conversation, interaction, a hug, or – as we used to say in high school – a “nose pet.”

Facebook has been a blessing for me in so many ways. I have “met” so many other Cowden’s Syndrome patients. I have learned about, and shared experiences with others who suffer from rare diseases. Meghan has connected with two young Cowden’s friends – one on a different continent. But it still doesn’t fix the inherent problem with being able to look at a computer screen and delude yourself into believing you are “connected.”

I don’t know what the answer is. I, like all of my friends, lead an incredibly busy life. But I do know that leaving all my connections, and contacts with the people I love to facebook – reducing them to “likes” on a page, is not the answer. I looked around the small group gathered in the room, and I felt genuine love for these people. I enjoy their company. I find them funny and engaging, just as I did some 20 plus years ago.

As we reflected on our friend – we did our best to catch up. Then we hugged and went our separate ways.

I hope this will serve as a wake up for me, and that one at a time I will at least find the time to send an Email, or make a call. Life is busy – but there has to be some time – just a few minutes. There has to be.

We can’t be destined to meet again only at the next wake, when another one of the good guys is gone too soon.

Mourning his loss… hoping he is getting plenty of “nose pets” in heaven.

“Raising Small Souls” – a must see video

Published on March 14, 2013 by beatingcowdensLeave a comment

Normally I try to keep my life as a teacher, and a Cowden’s mom separate, but as I prepare for Meghan’s IEP meeting on Monday, I am reminded of this video.

I first saw it many years ago – but from time to time I watch it again. My Meghan does well in school but has a host of other issues. And, daily I see, admire, and love children who struggle terribly in school.

I think its about time they all get what they need. If only I knew how to make it happen.

“I’ll get you my pretty…”

Published on March 12, 2013 by beatingcowdens12 Comments

It is late, but I need to decompress. my apologies to those of you I meant to reach out to personally.

Really – the last few days again have been a whirlwind.

The Wizard of Oz seems the appropriate metaphor – so bear with me.

Some time last week Meghan began complaining of shoulder pain. Left shoulder – mildly irritated. So, we gave some tylenol and kept on moving. But come Sunday afternoon it seemed to take a marked turn for the worse. And that is where the story began.

She was struggling to move it at all, and the pain face was coming. You know – the face that tries to be brave but is so strained it just ends up looking exhausted? That one.

We got her to bed Sunday night but started to wonder if she would make school the next day. We waited until she was sound asleep and began poking at the shoulder. Sounds mean I know, but we figured if we got a pain reaction out of a dead sleep… and we did.

So I began to Email her awesome PT who did her best to help guide me and keep me calm. She also got me a 1:15 appointment for Monday.

I emailed my boss that I would be out and I let her sleep in Monday. Then she woke up. I guess that’s where it started to get trickier.

Well, maybe not quite that tricky yet – but close. The pain was intense. We decided to try the Urgi Care to see if she needed an Xray. We waited and were seen by a perplexed doctor who decided against the Xray and suggested we see the pediatrician. Great plan. He was on my list but I was hoping to get a jump start since his hours didn’t start till 2.

In the mean time, we went to see the PT. Have I mentioned Jill and Lauren at Leaps and Bounds PT are the absolute BEST? We saw Lauren who calmly assessed Meghan through careful range of motion activities. It was clear she was in great pain. Lauren told me she was worried about the muscles – clearly strained, and the potential that there might be a slight injury to the rotator cuff.

At this point I swear I heard the sound of Cowden’s Syndrome, like the Wicked Witch, cackling in the background, “I’ll get you my pretty…!”

My heart sank. The shoveling hadn’t helped I am sure. But the swimming. That had to be the real culprit. I felt like I had been punched in the stomach, or perhaps that someone had dropped a house on me.

It had taken years to find a sport that she enjoyed. One that she was ENCOURAGED to do. The pride and excitement on her face – amazing. And now the threat that maybe it caused this injury. My thoughts flooded with wonderings about the future.

At 2:30 we headed to the pediatrician. He evaluated her but wanted an orthopedist. We tried three. None took my insurance. Finally they found one local that takes my insurance who would see her Weds. (tomorrow) at 4:40 – but don’t worry because they are triple booked and we should plan on waiting 3 hours.

Um… no.

So as I stood at the window of the pediatrician’s office I asked him to order the MRI that seemed inevitable. He reluctantly did. Then I asked him what to do for her for pain. He called us back in and looked at her again.

He said what I already knew. He said, ” No one around here has a clue about Cowden’s Syndrome, and they don’t want to touch her.” Take her off Staten Island. Go up to Memorial Sloan Kettering where they first diagnosed her AVM. Go to the ER up there. We have no way of knowing if the knot behind her shoulder is a muscle or a soft tissue tumor. (Thank you Cowden’s)

“I’ll get you my pretty…” There goes the cackle again. And a firm reminder to Cowden’s that it WILL not get us

This was at about 5. So, we had a quick bite to eat and headed up to 68th and York. They were perplexed by our arrival, but they handled it fine. They got an Xray, and made Meghan comfortable with heat packs and pain medicine. The Xray wasn’t read because there was no radiologist on, so we were discharged hours later with the pain pills, and orders to see an orthopedist – the one who diagnosed the AVM, and to call our endocrinologist for the Xray results in the AM since he is the one we see at Sloan.

At this point Felix had joined us and we were all a bit punchy. Meghan was stiff and in pain. I was over thinking and exhausted… together we made quite a sight.

We arrived home after 11 and I headed down the street to the 24 hour pharmacy for her pain medicine. Except – they didn’t have it. And they offered me no suggestion as to where to get it. So, at 11:20 – armed with my smart phone, and facebook, I relied on the guidance of a few night owls to get me to a pharmacy. Medicine retrieved, heating blanket purchased, and Twix consumed – I headed home some time close to 1AM.

Felix was staying home Tuesday. It was Parent Teacher Conferences for me. So my head touched down on the pillow some time around 1:20 AM.

Too tired to even think, I could still hear the cackling of the witch – reminding me so much of Cowden’s Syndrome… threatening… “I’ll get you….”

I headed out to work by 7:30.

I called for the Xray results and got a reprimand by our doctor at Sloan that was appropriate for a child. He was annoyed that I had even brought her to the ER last night. I told THAT doctor to take it up with my pediatrician. I really despise arrogance.

In contact with Felix and Meghan we got an appointment for the orthopedist, on the 21st of MARCH!

Since that wasn’t going to work a long term plan, a call to the rheumatologist led to an appointment at 2:30 PM today.

Basically she feels the lump is a muscle and not a tumor…. (So take that bucket of ice water witch!)

She gave Meghan an order to rest for a week. Better than a season! She also gave a script for PT and a muscle relaxant for a week. We will reevaluate then…

In the mean time, she is asleep. Resting with a heating pad. School tomorrow will be tough, but she will make it.

I got through hours of conferences and stayed alert and awake!

I will find the number and call the coach about swimming.

We will not give up. But apparently she needs PT AND swimming, not PT OR swimming. We have time. Not a worry. We will fit that right in.

You know what, it has been a wild two days. But it could have been a whole lot worse.

Everything with Cowden’s seems to have a sense of urgency. There is always the “what if…” Her joints are hypermobile because of the Cowden’s. She injures easily. But all that means is we have to teach her to get in control of her body. So the PT is a have to. That’s ok. Could be worse. Least we love our PTs.

AND… it will be PT AND Swimming. My girl loves to swim. And she’s not half bad.

A few readjustments. A few more bumps in the road. A few more skipped meals, and some more gray hair. But it will be OK again.

Cowden’s Syndrome gives us obstacles. We work around them, through them – whatever is appropriate. As long as we don’t stop.

And well – if anyone says we can’t… we just melt them. It’s much quieter now.

Hopefully tomorrow runs smoothly.

But for tonight…

Life Lesson – Character

Published on March 9, 2013 by beatingcowdens2 Comments

Maybe the hardest part about being a kid with Cowden’s Syndrome, is trying to be a kid.

I wouldn’t know. My diagnosis came way after I was a “kid,” although I might say that it was never easy fitting in being the kid who was always at the doctor or in surgery – for something.

Meghan has kids who like her, but precious few that she calls friends. The girls she is close to are lovely through and through. I find them similar to Meghan in developmental exposure to the real world. They still know how to play dolls and be kids.

This week the swim meet was against the team of one of those friends. This is a young lady who has been to my home, and Meghan to hers. She chose to write a book about friendship and dedicate it to Meghan. They took countless swim classes together. So, the fact that they would be competing, in some of the same events today, caused anxiety for Meghan.

She worried about losing – and about winning. She wasn’t sure how to digest either one.

After the race where she took second and her friend took third, her dear sweet friend, half Meghan’s size, stayed behind to try to help Meghan out of the pool. I wanted to hug her for being so graceful and such a lady. That little girl, whom I always respected, gained my admiration forever right at that moment. It spoke volumes of her character.

So as we replayed the meet in the car on the way home, Meghan was pleased to have placed well. It was only her second competitive meet ever, and she was enjoying the feeling of competition. We didn’t dwell on it, and after a shower we were off to buy some shoes for Easter, and a sweater too.

Imagine then my surprise when I overheard her on the phone with another classmate bragging about her win over her dear friend.

When the conversation ended we spoke and there were tears. She was just so proud to finally be successful, she forgot herself. Now she was just beside herself. She was worried her friend would find out she had bragged, and was terrified at losing her friend over nonsense.

So, she did the bravest thing I could have imagined. She called her friend, and confessed. Knowing she might never get caught, she could not live with the fact that she had been disrespectful to someone she held so dear. So, in between sobs she told her friend the whole story. And she apologized.

I am sure she won’t do this again any time soon. She was devastated.

And her dear friend – I expected nothing less – greeted her with a pure and forgiving heart. Turns out she herself had once bragged, apologized, and been forgiven.

I love it when a story ends well. Life lesson taught. All friendships in tact.

Happy Birthday to my boobs!

Published on March 4, 2013March 4, 2013 by beatingcowdens12 Comments

Remember where you were a year ago?

I do.

A year ago this evening I was pacing the floors. Making sure Meghan was packed for school. Triple checking my hospital bag. Planning my last meal by midnight, and pacing the floors – quite sure I wouldn’t sleep.

I was right.

I hadn’t arrived at that moment in my life by accident. It was the result of years of breast biopsies for suspicious masses. MRIs, sonograms, mammograms – and a mother who was a bilateral breast cancer survivor. Not to mention my diagnosis of Cowden’s Syndrome that had been confirmed only months before I met the warm, caring, and decisive surgeon that was about to remove part of my body. Don’t wait till the summer – she somehow convinced me. March 5th. Get it done.

One year ago, on the morning of March 5th 2012, after vomiting repeatedly from terror, my husband and I left and headed to NYU hospital for my “prophylactic bilateral mastectomy.”

We checked in by 6 AM. I can remember every detail of the morning. It is imprinted in my subconsciousness. It may fade over time – but for now…

My brother in law called my cell phone by six. We prayed together. Then, I just focused on breathing.

Checking in takes forever. Everyone stopping in. Lots of waiting. I paced that small room so many times I swear my footprints are probably still there.

And my husband – my pillar of strength – just waited with me. When I wanted him to pay attention – he stopped and held my hand. When I wanted him to ignore me, he dutifully read comics on his iphone. I would not have wanted to be him.

I had to explain to the resident filling out the paper that I was not having “tissue expanders” put in. Well this was not an easy concept for him. Apparently that is just what everyone does. The expanders are placed during the mastectomy, and then “filled” until the tissue expands to the size you would like, and then the silicone is placed.

Well I had already had a long talk with my plastic surgeon. I had no desire to have giant boobs. Nope. I was sure.

She can keep her award... — She can keep her award…

At 38 years old, and the mother of a nervous 8 year old, all I wanted was to leave the hospital and not have to return for another surgery. (The sweet irony of that wasn’t realized until I returned 10 weeks later for my hysterectomy… but anyway)

I had convinced the plastic surgeon to use whatever silicone implant she could – and put them right in. After a lengthy discussion, she agreed. It was more important for me to get right home to Meghan.

This resident was having a hard time wrapping his head around this, but finally we got the papers right. They were to put in whatever one of these fit best – preferably a matched pair.

Finally it was time to head to the operating room.

I have had lots and lots of surgeries, but the thought that I was engaging in such a major procedure “prophylactic-ally” was literally making me weak at the knees. Fortunately I managed to hook up with an absolutely awesome surgeon/plastic surgeon team. Two women who are talented, compassionate, and understanding. They gave me the peace of mind I needed right before the anesthesia. The last words I recall before I woke up – “You’re doing the right thing.”

They expected a “clean easy procedure.” After all I had had an MRI just a month prior to confirm I was cancer free.

Recovery from anesthesia isn’t my forte, although I have improved with experience. I got to visit with my sister, and enjoy my husband.

The peace I felt after this surgery can not be understated. I was so relieved. The storm had been calmed. It was done.

I left the hospital about 28 hours later on March 6th. I couldn’t wait to see my girl. The drains were still in place and they would stay for another week, but the hardest of the hard work was done.

So, on March 5th – my boobs are officially a year old. At least that’s the day I adopted them.

And what a year it has been.

A week after my “prophylactic” mastectomy, I held in my hands a pathology report that clearly stated I had DCIS – early stage Breast Cancer. Among the other “precancerous” conditions embedded in that report was the reality that I no longer had to be concerned with the “what if?” It was done. I was OK. By the Grace of God alone – the cancer was out before it was ever a problem. And, whenever I doubt, or get angry or frustrated by our Cowden’s Syndrome journey, I am reminded of that moment. Without Meghan, and without her diagnosis. I would have never proceeded with such an aggressive surgery. God gave me my little girl, and spared my life. We will use that gift as often as we can.

The weeks of recovery went smoothly, with lots of help from mom.

And then it seemed – no sooner was I back at work, that I was being told by another surgeon that I NEEDED a complete hysterectomy – now. So, in May we went back. This time at least everything was benign.

This is the year that included 2 surgeries for Mom and a thyroid biopsy for Meghan. It included a car accident that I am still healing from. (And the very first thing I checked after I realized I had been in an accident was that my silicone was intact!)

It included Grandma’s fall, and ongoing recovery.

It included circumstances that caused me to step away from my church, and blessings that led me to a new one.

This year I laughed deep laughs, and I cried gut wrenching tears. I got re-acquainted with old friends, and I met new friends in support groups online.

This year I learned there are some benefits to small silicone boobs… (with no nipples!) I got to go bra-less for the first time in YEARS!

This year we vowed to make a difference,

This year we gave out over 2,000 denim ribbons, and taught a whole lot of people about Cowden’s Syndrome and Rare Diseases, and the Global Genes Project.

This year was only the beginning of the rest of our lives.

One year without my old boobs. One year with the new and improved CANCER FREE version. One year of countless blessings. One year of boobs that will never sag!

HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO MY BOOBS!

Cowden’s Syndrome – You’re NOT the boss of US!

Published on March 3, 2013March 3, 2013 by beatingcowdens1 Comment

“You’re not the boss of me!”

Sometimes little kids can be misguided. Sometimes, Mom, Dad, or teacher is in fact the BOSS of them. But that statement from the mouth of a child is the beginning of their move towards independent thought. And, if nurtured properly can lead to a productive, independent, determined adult.

That’s what we are getting at here.

You see I spend enough time around children, that their words and phrases sometimes stick with me. And this one is stuck with me this weekend. So I reflect how it applies to my 9 and a half year old daughter and my 39 and a half year old self.

See, even though Meghan is very good at realizing I am often the BOSS of her, she will not be easily ruled. And while I love her independence, I love more the fact that she remains respectful towards her father and I – and dare I say, all the adults she deals with. She, as an only child has lots of bosses, but I encourage her to rise up against the tyrant that is Cowden’s Syndrome – and she does.

If Cowden’s Syndrome were her boss, she would sit idly by while the pain persisted; in the knees, the ankle, the shoulder, the wrist or whatever joint it currently is attempting a choke hold on.

But, since its not – she goes to dance class on Monday, Swim practice on Tuesday, Music and Movement on Thursday, and Swim Meets on the weekend. She often cries in pain in the hours following these events. But never once does she talk of stopping.

You see, Cowden’s Syndrome is not the boss of her.

Cowden’s Syndrome would have her hide in a corner, ashamed of an “orphan” disease that no one can really understand. But hiding is not for my girl. Instead she asks for a denim ribbon necklace. She learns about the Global Genes Project, she understands “Rare Disease Day,” and she actively participates in the “Wear that you Care” campaign. She makes thousands of denim ribbons, and informational fliers. She gives 2 speeches at her school. She even wrote a book about it. HA! Don’t tell her no one really knows about Cowden’s Syndrome – because she will take it as a challenge, and fix it.

A denim cause ribbon, crafted after the Global Genes Project's slogan, "Hope it's in our Genes!" — A denim cause ribbon, crafted after the Global Genes Project’s slogan, “Hope it’s in our Genes!”

https://www.facebook.com/photo.php?v=10200149863021946 (To see Meghan’s speech)

Cowden’s Syndrome – with its biopsies and cancer risks would like to leave us terrified. Instead, we are empowered. Meghan got the anesthesia she needed and deserved, to have her last thyroid biopsy with dignity. The terror is gone. We will have anesthesia next time too. And, if the cancer hits – we are ready. We are empowered.

Cowden’s Syndrome – You’re NOT the boss of us.

You certainly don’t rule me. 85% risk of breast cancer – yeah, so? Endometrial cancer? Nope – don’t need that either. Thyroid cancer – half gone already, and checked every 6 months. Melanoma – nope. And annual skin exams just to be sure. Colonoscopy – did that. Clean enough to wait until 2015. My spleen – well. That’s still in limbo. But you know what? Whatever. I have stared down worse.

Just came back from my girl’s first swim meet. Time to relish in the satisfaction that something normal happened here today. We will handle the pain, with the smile of knowing – she’s pretty fast.